When children are 2 to 4 years old, they often have a headache for their parents, that is, "this don't" and "that don't", and they hang "no" every day. I don't know why, the cute and well-behaved baby turned into a rebellious "little devil" overnight.
Here the goblin mother wants to congratulate you, two or three years old babies love to say "no", not to provoke the parents, but a manifestation of the child's normal self-cognitive development, is a kind of growth progress.
Children love to say "no", in fact, it is progress
Most children are not self-aware between the ages of 2 and, in short, have no concept of "me." Children around the age of 2 have acquired more motor and language skills and can do more and more things. When what the child wants to do is inconsistent with the parents' expectations, they begin to insist, using "no" to express persistence and dissatisfaction.
Children grow up going through two rebellious periods, one is when they are 2 to 4 years old, and the other is adolescence. A child's first rebellious period occurs because of cognitive levels and rapid physical development, which induce rebellious behavior. If the child's cognitive development is delayed, the rebellious period will come later, so when the child loves to say "no", parents should be happy rather than annoyed.
How long is your baby's first rebellious period
2-year-old children begin to appear "love to say no", love to be angry, singing negative, emotional and other rebellious behaviors, this is because the baby began to have self-awareness, want more autonomy, after the age of 4 with the establishment of rule consciousness, rebellious behavior will be less and less.
To get a rebellious 3-year-old child, parents should insist on 3 things
1. Let the child choose
Children between the ages of 2 and 4 are still in the stage of concrete computing, and a causal link has not yet been established in the brain. The child saying "no" is just a self-conscious response, not to challenge the parents, if the parents respond with angry words and anger, then it will blur the focus of the child's learning. In fact, what parents have to do is to stabilize their children's emotions first, and then tell them clear instructions and choices.
What are explicit directives? The parent's explicit instruction is to tell the child "what to do", not "do not do". Although children love to say "no", their ears will filter out "no", so we must not have the word "no" in our instructions. If you want to quiet your child down, you should say, "Sit down," instead of saying, "Don't jump or run."
2. Let the child experience
When parents choose for their children, they should let them know what each option means. When we give our children a choice, we must do what we say and do not give in, otherwise the choice will have no meaning.
Take, for example, if you let your child get dressed, if you wear a coat, you can go out and play; if you don't wear it, you can only stay at home. When the child refuses to wear a coat, we stay at home. Therefore, when parents choose for their children, the options must be within their control.
3, parents should do what they say
In the face of 2 to 4-year-olds, parents say less "intimidating" things and less those things you simply can't do because there's no point.
For example: "If you don't take the toy, I'll throw it away", "If you cry again, your mother won't want you", etc., unless you really do it, don't say it.
Ways to ease your child's mood
Children between the ages of 2 and 4 do not have the ability to accurately express emotions because they have fewer vocabulary, so the first task of parents is to teach their children to express emotions.
When the child loses his temper, parents may wish to ask "Is it because someone else took your toy that you are very sad and want to cry" or "Because you are very angry, you are crying." Parents should tell their children: "You are not happy, you can say that I am angry." ”
When children learn to express their emotions, there will be much less rebellion.
2-year-olds, the key age of doting
It is normal for children aged 2 to 4 to rebel, but parents cannot be unconditionally satisfied. Unconditional coddling by parents can lead to confusion of values, no distinction between right and wrong, and grow up to be a selfish, irresponsible person.
In the process of family education, many parents like one to sing red face, one to sing black face, do not know that parents' different concepts of education will bring trouble to children, do not know who is right and who is wrong. Family members should communicate in advance to form a unified consensus and tacit understanding, only in this way is the correct and positive way of education.