How to get back an ex-boyfriend? Maybe it's because of your work, maybe the other party doesn't love, or maybe it's because of some other reason, you broke up, but you still can't help but want to save what to do? Today, Xiaobian will bring you a way to save the boyfriend who wants to break up. Let's take a look!
1. Treat the breakup with the right mindset
Many people in the right way to save each other, the most common is to cry, two trouble, three hanged, often with this kind of extreme behavior to save the other party, but you have to know that you are saving the heart of this person is not this person, you will eventually separate, because your fundamental problems have not been solved. After the breakup, the other party is negative about your behavior, so you do those will only make him more negative of you, so after the breakup, what you have to do is not to rush to explain how you are, but to agree with the other party, give the other party time, do not give him more pressure, but also in order not to increase his antipathy to you, to create opportunities for redemption
2. Grasp the key points of the problem between you and find a solution
The reason why you broke up with your boyfriend, you must know in your own heart, the reason why he is dead to you, it must be very disappointed. You may wish to find the key point of the problem between you, and find a solution, targeted to solve the problem, let the other party know that you are not so bad between you, many problems can be solved. If the other person regains the courage to live with you, then there is a chance that the frontier between you will continue.
3. Enhance yourself, inside and outside, and strengthen your own charm
In fact, the root cause of the breakup is your lack of attraction caused by it, perhaps you will think that "but he pursued me first", proving that you have enough attraction, but it is because of this thought that you neglect to maintain and enhance your attractiveness in your relationship with him.
Think about it yourself, at the beginning, it may be because of your good looks, your rich life, and your endless novel topics can attract him, but in love, you are too indulgent in your appearance, the monotonous lifestyle around him, talking about it is a boring topic of work life, so that your attraction is greatly reduced is the trigger for breaking up.
4) Increase commonality and make him willing to get along with you
When you're in love, what you like is each other's personality, but what you need to maintain a long-term relationship is the commonality between you. When you are in love, because of each other's personality, many girls will want to be a pampered little princess, so they will rarely consider each other's mood, while men will feel that he has always accommodated you, and the inner imbalance will eventually erupt, and they will propose to break up.
When you save the man, you have to find out your commonalities, let you have a bondage, drive his emotional resonance, let him feel that there is something in common between you, increase his sense of identity and good feelings for you, do not say that you have no common ground, if you do not have common ground between you, you will not enter into love.
The most important point of commonality is to let him listen to you, let him communicate with you, let him be willing to understand you again, but when he first breaks up, men are wary and resistant, and he will not want to know you again, so you need to start with him from ordinary friends, which is also the first step we said above. After you become ordinary friends, use the commonality between you to make him feel more relaxed and comfortable with you, under this atmosphere he is more willing to get along with you, and you will have a greater success rate when you redeem.