For ordinary you and me, how should people spend their lives?
Paul Kochagin in How Steel is Made says that man's life should be spent in such a way that when we look back, we will not regret our wasted years, nor will we be ashamed of our inaction; at the time of death, it can be said that my whole life and all my energies have been devoted to the most magnificent cause in the world, the struggle for the liberation of mankind.
This is a particular historical period, what a revolutionary considers to be a way of life, a very admired life. For us in peacetime, for every ordinary you and me, how should people spend their lives?
Different people have different life trajectories, some are subjective choices, some are pushed to that point by fate, and the choices that have to be made are actually passive choices. No matter what choice you make, there is no way back, life is a one-way train.
Lao Wang, who has always been unhappy with his life, went to the hospital to visit the sick Fa Xiao
Lao Wang, 54 years old, works as a traffic coordinator on the road for 3,000 yuan a month. Lao Wang has been living a very small life in this life, there is no achievement in his career, his marriage is not satisfactory, his husband and wife have quarreled, and he feels that he is the most failed person in the world.
Lao Wang was born into an ordinary peasant family, and he was the third oldest. The conditions at home were not good, and he only read until the fifth grade of primary school, and he did not study anymore. No education, no technology, no connections, Lao Wang can only do hard work.
When it was time to start a family, Lao Wang married a girl from a neighboring village. After marriage, because there is no money, the couple always quarrels, which is really a poor couple Pepsi lamenting. Because of the bad mood, Lao Wang often took the child out of anger. However, after the quarrel, the husband and wife are still husband and wife, father and son are still father and son, and the days should be how to go.
Later, everyone went to the city to work, and Lao Wang also went to the city and became a migrant worker who moved bricks on the construction site. A few years ago, in an accident, Lao Wang's waist was injured and he could not do heavy physical work.
Friends introduced him to become a traffic coordinator, that is, waving small red flags on the road, preventing electric vehicles from running red lights, directing pedestrians to take zebra crossings, and so on. He did it very seriously, for fear of losing the job, it would be even more difficult to find a job.
Lao Wang has a small hair, from a young age, the brain is flexible, the family conditions are better than the old Wang family, fa small to read until high school graduation. After graduating from high school, Fa Xiao first went to work in the factory, and then became a technician in the factory, and then he came out to start a business, opened a company, and his career was booming.
Lao Wang has always felt that he is not as good as Fa Xiao, so although Fa Xiao still regards him as a good friend, he feels very inferior and never takes the initiative to contact Fa Xiao. When Fa Xiao wanted to help him, he always refused, just for a little bit of pitiful self-esteem.
Last year, Fa Xiao suddenly found out that he had cancer, and it was advanced. Lao Wang was very surprised, Fa Xiao was two years younger than him, only 51 years old. Lao Wang went to the hospital to visit Fa Xiao, who was full of tubes and his hair was gone. When Fa Xiao saw the old queen, he was very emotional and said that he envied the life of the old king.
Lao Wang was suddenly overwhelmed, an old friend with a successful career, envious of him, a person who had achieved nothing. At that time, Lao Wang thought that Fa Xiao was envious of his health, but later after listening to Fa Xiao's words, he understood that Fa Xiao was envious of his lifestyle.
Fa Xiao has been competitive since he was a child, and his parents have also given him great expectations, in order to meet his parents' expectations, he has worked hard, worked hard, and worked hard again. In childhood, when others were playing, he was studying hard; after work, others completed the task, but he worked overtime, just to stand out; after starting a business, he struggled even harder, all year round.
For the sake of the company, in order to achieve success, he sacrificed the time for entertainment, the time with his wife and children, and the time for rest. Others say he is a workaholic, and his family says he only loves work, but in fact, his heart is the same as others.
Now that his career is successful, he wants to stop and enjoy life, but his life has come to an end. He envied Lao Wang for living naturally in this life, spending every day with his wife and children, and a lot of time was his own.
Lao Wang had never thought about this, and listening to the little chatter, he suddenly felt as if he was not bad. People like Fa Xiao, who seem to be successful, also have so much bitterness and helplessness behind them, and people like him who look downcast also have a lot of precious things.
That day, after Lao Wang saw Fa Xiao, only half a month later, Fa Xiao died. After Lao Wang heard this news, his heart was very heavy, and he did not speak for a whole day. He recalled the words of the novel, feeling that living is a kind of happiness, eating, sleeping, pulling, safe, healthy, and healthy, which is already very good.
Later, Lao Wang stopped arguing with his wife and was very kind to his children. Children who have just stepped into work often come back to lose their temper because they are discouraged. If it had been before, lao wang would reprimand him, and father and son would quarrel. But now that Lao Wang didn't lose his temper, his son was relieved by a few grumbles, and then he continued to work hard.
Life must be both hard and enterprising, but also know how to be content
Life should strive to forge ahead, and it is precisely because of the enterprising spirit that talents will progress. Human society is also because of the enterprising spirit, will develop forward, will be introduced. Young people must be more enterprising, and they must work hard to have a good future.
But everything should be paid attention to a degree, and if it exceeds a certain degree, good things will become bad things. A person must have an enterprising spirit, but also understand the contentment, contentment will always be happy. A person should be relaxed, fight hard when it is time to fight, rest when it is time to rest, and the machine of the body will not have problems.
Lao Wang's hair has been struggling, his body has not been able to rest for many years, and his spirit is highly nervous, so he is tired and sick. 51 years old, for modern people, is still very young! But he was no longer blessed to enjoy the wealth he had created.
Therefore, health is the first wealth, and everything else is something outside the body, which is not brought by life and not brought by death. If you lose your health, you have more wealth, and that makes no sense.
The best way to live in life, do your best, don't force it
Life is like traveling once in the world, life is an experience. The best way to live in life is: do your best, don't force it.
Don't be too demanding in everything, as long as you try your best, you can. People should work hard, and after hard work, they should go with the flow, accept life calmly, and understand that those who know enough are always happy.
Lao Wang has no achievements, he is like many ordinary people, he can do whatever he wants. His hair was excellent and successful, but he only lived to be 51 years old. In the end, whose life is better, this is impossible to compare, each has its own sweet and sour bittersweet, each has its own feelings.
Different people, different choices, it is best to be successful in career, family and happiness, health and longevity. But life is often fish and bear paws can not be both, you can not have any benefits to take advantage of, life is always a gain and a loss.
The best way to live in life is actually very simple, do your best in everything, don't force it. A person should reasonably arrange the time in life, work hard, but also spend more time with his family, love others and love himself well. Life is only once, everyone should cherish and live well.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.