Children have the closest relationship with their mothers since they are born, so the influence of mothers on children is very profound. In family education, mothers play a very important role, and their words and deeds and their own personality characteristics may determine whether the child's future happiness is successful or not. I have to say that the process of educating children is also a process of self-improvement and self-improvement for every mother.
Previously, a short video of Bao Mom beating her child aroused the attention of netizens, in which a woman wearing a white top pulled a little boy of about ten years old to the corner of the street, and then punched the child eight times in nine seconds. And throughout the process, the woman also constantly insulted the child, so that netizens can feel her anger across the screen. The beaten boy shrank his body and did not dare to fight back or look up, but could only quietly endure punches and kicks. Finally, the woman vented her anger and left with the child, but when she turned to leave, she pushed the child hard.
Subsequently, a reporter interviewed the woman in white in the video, from which it turned out that they were mother and son. The mother confessed that it was indeed wrong to beat the child, but it was because the child often disobeyed and liked to fight against the adults, and she made a cruel hand.
Obviously, there is something wrong with the child's disobedience, but this mother's approach is really a bit extreme. So much so that some netizens commented that people who can do so much to their children really don't deserve to be mothers! There are so many parents who can't teach! How can a mother who is so grumpy be able to raise a sensible child? If scolding education can make children talented, there will be no parent-child opposition!
Which of the three types of mothers is most likely to raise children at the bottom?
1. Irritable personality, do not know how to control emotions
The overly grumpy mother conveys to the child a very negative posture of coping with problems, and the mothers themselves do not know how to manage and control emotions, and naturally cannot hand over emotionally stable children. Obviously, when children have a grumpy character in their personality traits, their future growth will inevitably suffer losses.
2. Strong personality, do not know how to converge on the desire to control
If the mother's personality is too strong, it is easy to raise the child's timidity and cowardice. A mother who does not know how to restrain her desire for control will turn her child into a soulless marionette. Children have no opinion, no brave side of the character, and naturally their future growth will be difficult.
3. Weak personality, do not know how to stick to the bottom line
If the mother is too spoiled for the child, and also shows a weak side in the face of the principle problem, then this kind of education method that does not know how to stick to the bottom line is likely to raise the child to be overly dependent on others and have no self-reliance to speak of, and the child's growth is really without a sense of achievement at all.
What do moms do to become a qualified mom?
1. When educating children, try to maintain a firm and kind side
When bao mom educates children, it must be clear and clear in the bottom line, and at the same time, it is also necessary to show a kind side within the scope of principles for children, so that the relaxed and moderate, lenient and strict education methods will be more able to get the child's cooperation and feedback. When firmness and kindness are implemented in their children's education, mothers will find that discipline does not necessarily have to be carried out through scolding.
2. Conduct appropriate trial and error education and be willing to let go
Many mothers are particularly distressed about the child's psychology, reluctant to let the child take a little detour, in fact, the mother may wish to try to learn to let go, I believe that trial and error education will bring new educational inspiration to the mothers. Some things can only be more convincing to parents after children experience them, and the lessons learned by children through a trial and error may be more useful than the bitter persuasion of mothers.
3. Try to maintain emotional stability and do a good job of emotional management demonstration
Mothers love their children with affection, and it is inevitable that there will be times of emotional anxiety when disciplining their children. At this time, the most important thing for mothers to do is to maintain emotional stability, give children a stable family atmosphere, and demonstrate emotional management for their children. I believe that the mother with a soft temperament and stable emotions can teach children with high emotional intelligence.
No one is born to be able to play the role of mother, so when educating their children, do not put too much pressure on themselves and can accompany their children to grow up together, which is actually a special experience that can only be experienced after motherhood. At the same time, learn more about the way of education, and take the real needs of the child's heart seriously, so that the mother can truly educate the child. What are your views on the impact of bao mom on children?
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