Ms. Wang is now a mother of two children. According to her, after the two-child policy was fully liberalized, she and her husband chose to fight for the second child. Because her husband always wanted to have a daughter and Dabao was a boy, Ms. Wang hoped to help him do so. In the end, Ms. Wang successfully gave birth to a daughter.
However, the joy of the birth of her daughter did not last long, and soon, the huge economic expenditure overwhelmed Ms. Wang and her husband. In the past two years, Ms. Wang has hardly bought clothes for herself, and her husband has quit smoking. She said that the arrival of the second child has indeed added a lot of joy to the family, but she has also brought a lot of life pressure to our husband and wife, which can be described as "painful and happy".
In fact, like Ms. Wang, there are not many parents who give birth to a second child for some purpose, but they generally do not take into account their current capabilities, resulting in the second child not adding happiness to the family after birth, but causing the family's life rhythm to be disrupted.
There are three main reasons for fighting a second child
1. Want a son or daughter
Some parents are not satisfied with the gender of Dabao, so after the two-child policy is fully liberalized, they will achieve their wishes by fighting for the second child. In fact, this approach is inappropriate. On the one hand, giving birth to boys and girls is not something that parents can influence, and if erbao still fails to achieve their wishes, then it will be difficult for parents to have enough motivation to raise two children.
On the other hand, even if the parents finally give birth to a child as they wish, it is likely that they will ignore The feelings of the Big Treasure because of their preference for Xiaobao. This situation will have a negative impact on the growth of Dabao.
2. Two children complement each other
Some parents feel that having a child, his growth will inevitably be a little lonely, so they will consider fighting for the second child, so that the two children can achieve complementary effects. However, many times parents, although they think about their children, have not asked their children's opinions.
After the birth of the second child, some big treasures feel that their younger siblings will compete with them for favors, not only failing to get along harmoniously, but also often beating them up and destroying the harmonious atmosphere of the family.
3. Blindly follow the trend to give birth to a second child
There are also a small number of parents, they do not have their own consideration of whether to have a second child, seeing that relatives and friends around them are choosing a second child, they will follow the second child. Such a blind follow-the-trend behavior will only delay the growth of children.
So, before parents have a second child, what factors should be fully considered to decide whether to have a second child?
There are three factors that must be considered in having a second child
1. Economic aspects
Having a second child means that parents need to prepare for an extra amount of financial expenses, which is by no means a small amount. Therefore, parents should measure their current economic situation before having a second child, and if they do not support having a second child, then they should consciously give up.
If the parents do not take into account their own economic situation, then the birth of the second child will not only aggravate the parents' work pressure, but also affect the growth of Dabao.
2. Time
Some parents are usually very busy at work, and they have almost no time to accompany Dabao, so parents should not consider fighting for the second child at this time. Because children are indispensable to the company of their parents after birth. If the parents usually have little time to accompany the big treasure, then after the birth of the second treasure, this time still needs to be divided equally, then the growth of the two children will be delayed.
3. Care
Many parents, out of consideration for Xiaobao's age, tend to pay more attention to Xiaobao, and some even have the problem of preference. These are not conducive to the growth of children. On the one hand, this behavior of parents will cause Dabao's feelings to be easily ignored, causing him to have some negative emotions. On the other hand, the little treasure that is favored by the parents will produce an improper sense of superiority, causing them to become arrogant and arrogant. The cultivation of this character will lead to their reluctance to listen to the discipline of their parents.