The old class teacher to the parents: the mother's peace of mind is the greatest education for the child! (In-depth good article)

The mother is emotionally peaceful, the greatest education for the child, and it is superb.

First, correctly interpret the meaning of the two words of parents.

What a father does to educate his children is to use his own demeanor. One quality that a father must show in front of his children is demeanor. When to show demeanor, especially in the face of adversity, encounter people he can't accept, encounter others to make mistakes, how the father shows demeanor, this is a kind of strength to the child's heart, but also to bring a space to the child.

In particular, what kind of life meaning does the mother's "mother" contain? This is the connotation that we must interpret in our life role.

The first word is "virtual".

Many mothers are very realistic, when looking at their children, they can see three problems at a glance, and they can't help but point out quickly that this is not the connotation of motherhood. Mothers should not move when they see the advantages and disadvantages of their children, why should they not move, because its advantages require the mother to use good emotions to nurture and protect, only when the mother sees the advantages and disadvantages of the child are silent, can she give the child the inner growth momentum.

Some parents are very confused, the children are very good in front of others, as soon as they return home, as soon as they see their mother, they change into another person, becoming incomprehensible. Why is this, is that this "virtual" is not done well, the mother who cannot be virtual, cannot provide a space for the child's emotions, and the child's emotions are surrounded by the mother's emotions.

The second word is "weak".

It is difficult for a strong mother's child to be confident, and the child's self-confidence will be weakened a little bit in your state. A mother who can show weakness in front of her child must be confident and strong in her child's heart. Do you want your children to be confident? Learn to show weakness in front of the child, show weakness in order to achieve the child's support, all parents who stand on the child's heart and speak, in fact, are suppressing the growth and development of the child.

The third word is "soft".

The real strength of a mother, the educational power of a mother, lies in the process of facing the child's growth, how to achieve such a "soft". The softer the mother, the stronger its command ability in front of the child, and all the mothers who shout at the child all day long in the voice will slowly lose this ability to guide in the child.

Correctly understanding the educational connotation of parents, then, where is the first place in the mentality of our parents? Please do not rush to report to work, rush to find a tutor, and rush to find some method-level things to solve this problem.

Family education is important in raising, not in teaching, today we especially interpret these two words, one is the heart, one is the feeling, unintentional is the characteristics of family education, affection and courtesy is the principle that must be observed for the effective implementation of family education. There is no definite method of teaching, and different stages of growth need to have different methods for treating children from different families, but there is a principle, there must be affection and courtesy, and affection is in front of etiquette.

What is the current situation of family education now, sentimentality. When you love your child, love is boundless, when you care about your child, even your child's socks need to be worn by parents, washed for him, and said that when you love your child, you love to get up in the morning, shout next to you, and even help your child get dressed, is this called love? This love has lost the value of education.

Another status quo is that it is polite and ruthless, especially when parents reason with their children, there is no emotional foreshadowing. Education at any level is, first of all, to convey to the educated the true inner feelings of the educator himself. Feelings are enough, enough to do enough until our children are eager to ask us something, and we only point out the truth at this time. When the emotional communication reaches a certain level, the child will say, mother, what should I do, or what should I do with my father, at this time, a small truth has passed, and it is possible to achieve a guiding ability to bring to the child.

Second, the anxiety and impetuosity of parents are more terrible than children having learning problems.

The child's learning problem is not terrible, the terrible thing is that these sources of interference behind the child's inner uneasiness, these basic level of support are chaotic, more terrible. How to achieve emotional self-control of parents, that is, the child has a slight problem, you are not anxious, not impatient, you first calm down, first adjust your emotions first, and then face the problem.

How to achieve self-regulation and management of emotions is a deep-seated question for parents. "Only a calm heart, it is possible to precipitate and absorb the rational thinking of education", only when our parents' hearts are calmed down, the point of our children's education will become clear, and the rational thinking of educators on education can be precipitated into the heart and precipitated into a state of their own, otherwise, the thinking of education is like water over the wet ground, flowing from everyone's heart.

Where the effect is, lies in whether you can precipitate educational thinking, precipitate to your heart, internalize into a state of yours, if there is no such process, you listen to any education is ineffective. Without the digestion of precipitation, there is no capital to implement education, that is, without the process of precipitation, it is impossible for us to take the things of education experts to achieve in our own families.

Third, the space for family education must be left to children.

Family education should be clear, what should be done is at both ends, one is the father, the other is the mother, the middle of this section, the growth of any child is completed in a meandering process, this space should be left to the child, do not care about it.

First-class parents rely on release, parents who do not understand education rely on management, managing children is one hundred percent failure, and releasing children has fifty percent success. The family that grabs the child every day jumps into the wrong space, this space is completed by each child independently, but many parents participate in this space and stare at it, pull it out, don't let him manage it, don't let him manage it, don't let him manage it, there is nothing else to manage.

Some parents say, do you let me let it go? Let you let go, let you stand in your role, and take care of the child's emotions instead of being too involved in the child's behavior level. Too much involvement means that we are making mistakes unconsciously and conscientiously.

Fourth, the release of parents' educational energy is enough to ignite their children's enthusiasm for learning.

When a person loses enthusiasm for learning, even the best IQ can not be said to play well. Some parents say that their children do not perform well and do not study well, but in our case, they can solve problems and find answers. "It is better to seek others than to seek oneself, and it is better to seek oneself than to study", the biggest feature of Chinese culture is inward vision, especially Confucian culture.

All parents are a carrier of culture, and the temperament of children cultivated by different family cultures is different. Culture is the banner of education, the highest point of education is culture, culture and transformation, without speaking, children's hearts are influenced by us, and at the same time produce another kind of vitality.

The best state of education lies in the word "nurture". Family education is about raising, not teaching. Now the children's learning problems, a variety of problems can be summarized as the lack of mental strength, the lack of enthusiasm for learning in the heart. Fish farming focuses on raising water, raising trees is important in raising roots, and raising people is important in nourishing the heart.

If a child's heart is not maintained at home and cannot be effectively nourished, there is no basis for the intelligence of talent; no matter how high the IQ is, without proper and corresponding mental support, it is difficult for talent to play. Let's not talk about the child's heart, let's first look at the person who raises the child's heart, that is, the parent's heart is not suitable for raising the child, or how to achieve the state of raising the child.

How to ignite the child's inner enthusiasm for learning, ignition requires a certain temperature, and a certain state is needed to ignite. If the parent's heart is cold, numb or anxious, it is difficult for us to ignite the enthusiasm of the child to learn.

When facing your child in any state, remember that as a mother, ensuring your emotional peace is your greatest education for your child.