Hello everyone, I'm Eleven Mom! Welcome to Eleven Mom's Baby's Sleep Book. When we feel that the baby is not sleeping well, the first reaction is often how to coax the baby to sleep, but we tend to ignore an important factor, that is, the baby's emotions.
Emotional peace is one of the prerequisites for the baby to fall asleep safely, and it is difficult for an anxious and nervous baby to be coaxed to sleep, even if it is forced to fall asleep, it is easy to wake up.
Your baby's emotional stress comes from parents
You may find it strange that such a young child, what anxiety is there? In fact, the baby's mood is largely affected by the parents' emotions and family atmosphere.
Studies have shown that even newborns can already notice your frustration and anxiety, which can affect your baby.
By the time your baby is six months old, they'll be able to tell your joys and sorrows. If their living environment is often filled with a negative, tense atmosphere, such as frequent quarrels between family members. Everyone is full of anger, and the baby will be very nervous.
Check your emotional stress
So before solving the child's sleep problem, we must first look at our recent emotional state. Below I will say eight judgment questions, you can feel it:
Are your child's sleep problems stressing you over? Do you and your family have a disagreement about how to deal with your baby's sleep? Do you and your family often quarrel or complain to each other about your baby's sleep problems? Are you becoming emotional because of a lack of sleep? Have you been under a lot of work pressure lately? Are you anxious because someone else's child is no longer eating night milk? Every time you arrange for your baby to go to bed, do you have stress, such as worrying that your baby will cry, fearing that your sleep will fail? Do you want to put your baby to sleep as soon as possible, and then you can go to work on something else, and the more anxious you are, the harder it is for your baby to sleep?
The more you choose [yes] in the above eight questions, the greater your stress index and the greater the likelihood that your emotions will affect your baby's sleep.
If you're under a lot of pressure, you don't have to force yourself. Give your child to other family members first, take some time to rest yourself, or go out for a walk, chat with your girlfriends, chop your hands to buy a dress or something.
In short, let your emotions calm down first.
Often my mother said to me: [Teacher, so magical, after talking to you yesterday, I didn't do anything, and the baby fed one less night milk at night.] Are these moms really doing nothing?
In fact, no, after removing the pressure, maintaining a calm and gentle mood can make the baby more at ease.
How to help your baby soothe his emotions
After dealing with your emotions, I will teach you some more ways to help your baby relax as well.
Method 1: Make skin contact with your baby
For small babies, taking off all their clothes to keep the diapers from wet, letting them lie on their mother's chest and making skin contact with their mother can help them relieve stress and become more calm. You can also touch the baby, in the process of touching, you can keep eye contact with the baby, talk to the baby, this parent-child communication can help the baby really calm down. You also need to pay attention to the baby's reaction, some babies like gentle movements, and some babies like more firm and powerful touches.
If the baby rejects the assistance, there is no need to force it. We have a lot of other ways to choose from.
Method 2: Arrange parent-child time that belongs only to you and your baby
If you want your baby to be more [independent] when he sleeps at night, and can obediently go to sleep without your help, then we have to give him more love and care during the day.
The two are complementary, and satisfying your baby's emotional needs during the day can reduce your baby waking up at night for attention.
When playing with the baby during the day, don't throw him a bunch of toys, you can arrange some parent-child time every day to give the baby high-quality companionship.
Even if it's only 20-30 minutes, put down your phone and other chores in your head and concentrate on spending time with your baby.
When communicating with your child, you can make some exaggerated expressions and sounds to respond to your baby's movements.
Your baby's questions are answered and your needs are answered, so that your baby feels that his emotions and emotions are being accepted.
Method three: When you fall asleep with your baby, you should be peaceful and attentive
Studies have found that when the child falls asleep, the mother is calm and attentive, the baby's sleep time at night will be significantly longer, and the sleep interruption will be reduced.
I believe you also have this experience of sleeping with you: you hope that the baby can fall asleep quickly, so that you can go to work on something else, and the more anxious you are, the more difficult it is for the baby to sleep.
In fact, you can take sleep as a process of parent-child interaction, not as a task, so that it will feel much better.
Today I will leave you a simple little homework and think about how I feel lately. If you're stressed, give yourself a day off today to relax, or record your mood in the comments section and share it with other moms.
Well, today's article is shared here, I hope that we can have the opportunity to become a better self because of the arrival of our children, be better parents, learn to think, learn to judge, learn to analyze, and accompany our children to grow up with him.
This article is original by the little man at home, welcome to pay attention, take you along with long knowledge!