Early in the morning, her girlfriend Plum suddenly sent a crying expression.
After chatting for a while, I learned that Meizi and her daughter-in-law had concluded their "vendetta" and were about to be driven out by their daughter-in-law.
It's all because of the "confinement meal".
Before getting married, my son listened to her mother's words. However, since the daughter-in-law entered the door, she has been a demon everywhere, saying that her son is "a mother and a man, and he wants to be weaned."
As a result, the son gradually took the plum as a mother's words and did not matter.
In other words, maybe you can think open, and you can't help it, but the plum can't do it.
In Meizi's view, her son was pulled up by her and urine, and she was harvested by her daughter-in-law in less than a year.
Therefore, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law did not get less dirty for this man they loved at the same time.
02
Some time ago, the son and daughter-in-law finally moved into their small home, and the son rarely came back to see her mother.
Meizi thinks a little afraid, afraid that her son will be "eaten" by her daughter-in-law and ignore her, so who will give her a pension in the end? She's this one!
In addition, if you think about it carefully, Meizi feels that her daughter-in-law is also reasonable!
Yes! A big man, all day long", "my mother said, my mother said", it is also a little awkward to listen to!
So, Meizi decided to make up for the rift between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Isn't the daughter-in-law pregnant? Meizi then booed cold and asked for warmth, plus sent red envelopes (this money is still given by the son) to show love, after a period of time, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is suspected of being a little thawed.
Since the daughter-in-law gave birth to the baby, Meizi took her own black-bone chicken to move in with a bag and personally waited for her daughter-in-law to confinement.
Plum thought is more traditional, so according to the method of "mother generation", the confinement meal was upside down.
03
In the concept of plums, women who sit in confinement are both angry and bloody and have to make up for it.
Therefore, the black-boned chicken that Meizi brought with her did not shelve a little salt, and added several flavors of Chinese medicine to make a confinement chicken.
The daughter-in-law looked at a large bowl of black "tonics" made by the plums, pinched her nose and refused to eat it.
Finally, under the gentle whispering of plums, he barely moved a few chopsticks.
The result was sad.
The daughter-in-law not only had constipation, but also returned the milk. The doll was hungry and crying, the son also complained that the mother was not powerful, and the daughter-in-law was so yin that she could drip water, and directly issued an eviction order.
He also said that he would take his mother-in-law to serve him again.
Finally, Meizi whimpered and said, "The moon is as big as the sky", and at this time, the daughter-in-law must have hated herself to death.
Listening to Plum's cries and a series of "how to do it", I persuaded her to be so and so after a few words of consolation.
Umeko said a few words of "real" in disbelief, heard my affirmative answer, and then went silent.
04
Seeing Plum again, it was probably more than a month later.
I met Plum in the small square, only to see Plum pushing a stroller and walking side by side with her daughter-in-law, looking at the affectionate look, I don't know, I thought they were mother and daughter!
When Plum saw me, she sent her to hug and hold me high.
Now, I share the practical experience taught to Meizi and the secret book of "How to Resolve the Feud of the New Grandmother", hoping to be useful to everyone.
1. The key is to develop an "exclusive confinement meal"
Today's young daughters-in-law, who are most afraid of getting fat, are mostly skeptical of the "Yuezi Sutra" of our older generation.
Therefore, we grandmothers, when making confinement meals, must also recharge our batteries to learn and keep pace with the times.
In order to make your "confinement meal" more authoritative, it is best to find professional books to study, or ask an authoritative person for advice, according to various factors such as the daughter-in-law's physique, to create their own exclusive confinement recipe.
Personally, I think that the book "The Moon Of the Golden Moon Sister-in-law" is quite good.
2. Empathetic thinking
Today's daughters-in-law love to take "mother-in-law is not mother" to talk about things, and mother-in-law is definitely not happy.
However, since the daughter-in-law feels that the mother-in-law is good, then we will throw in her favor, think in a different position, and treat the daughter-in-law as a daughter.D.
Some grandmothers will definitely say, "Concubines can't do it!" ”。 However, in order not to make a vendetta, it is better to be tolerant, anyway, it will be only a month, we will not compete with the younger generations.
Don't you listen to the old saying, the one who loves to come back loves to return, the one who loves to come, maybe others will treat our daughter like this.
3. Hygiene cannot be sloppy
First, from the perspective of diet, the mother should be given a set of exclusive tableware, so that the food looks more beautiful and the mother has more appetite.
Just think, a large bowl of black chicken soup, compared to a "balanced version of nutrition" of red orange, yellow, green, blue and purple, you say, which is more popular with mothers?
Second, personal hygiene
Friendship reminder: This is very important, the immunity of newborns is very poor, and it is inevitable for grandmothers to contact the baby, so it is just necessary to prepare two sets of comfortable home clothes.
Doing so is not only good for the baby, but also comfortable for yourself.
4. Create a high-quality home environment
Love flowers, love to listen to love words, is a woman can not quit the addiction, it can be said that there are almost no women do not love flowers.
At this time, we can buy some flowers appropriately (Note: plastic flowers are taboo!). To change the living environment, such as longevity flowers and perfume lilies is a good choice.
Longevity flowers are easy to raise, the meaning is good, and the lily has a calming effect.
So, why not enjoy such a beautiful thing that kills two birds with one stone?
Please believe that the "unjust money" you spend will definitely become a plus for your new grandmother.
5. Timely "throwing pot"
Many grandmothers always feel that young people are hairy and can't take care of small babies.
In fact, everything is a process that will never come to the meeting, only by giving up on their own, the new parents will grow faster, and they will be able to "raise their children to know the grace of their parents" and understand our hard work as a grandmother.
Regarding the solution of the "moon feud", what good ways do you have, welcome to interact in the message area.