The most important thing for a second-married couple is trust, only by paying sincerely, more consideration for each other can be exchanged for sincerity, if you only think about your own interests and difficulties, this already weak feeling is easy to be affected by outsiders, it is not easy to go down together, we will gain some thoughts about marriage about mother-in-law and daughter-in-law from today's matter.
Deng Jiaping found a reporter to accuse her husband and mother-in-law of leaving her alone in the dilapidated old home to fend for herself, but they moved to a new house to live, and now that nine months have passed, her husband does not say divorce and does not care about himself, Deng Jiaping has no way to continue to maintain this nominal marriage.
Deng Jiaping took the reporter to the community where her mother-in-law and husband lived, and the mother-in-law stopped everyone downstairs, and in the face of the reporter's inquiry, Deng Jiaping's mother-in-law Kong Xiumei was full of confidence and appeared angry.
Kong Xiumei said that the reason why she did not let her daughter-in-law live with her was because this daughter-in-law was too incompetent, she married a daughter-in-law back, neither cooking nor washing clothes, her son's clothes were moldy there, she did not care, such a lazy and different daughter-in-law she could not see in her heart.
When the house had not yet been bought, Kong Xiumei also lived with Deng Jiaping, but Deng Jiaping went around telling people that she did not get along well with her mother-in-law, and that she was not happy to live together, and now she bought a house with her own money, she was not willing to live with her daughter-in-law, if her son wanted to live with her daughter-in-law, then let her son Ye move out.
Kong Xiumei now insists on not letting Deng Jiaping live with herself, not only because she thinks Deng Jiaping is too lazy, but more importantly, Kong Xiumei feels that Deng Jiaping has two hearts, she and her daughter-in-law are married for two years, and the two have not been able to have a child after three years of marriage, Kong Xiumei adopted a child for them, but Deng Jiaping is completely indifferent to this child, and the mobile phone is still disconnected with her ex-husband.
Deng Jiaping was unwilling to blame her mother-in-law, she explained that she also had to go to work, life may not be well taken care of, and the mother-in-law only had such a big opinion on herself, because she hid the congenital hepatitis B thing, but her doctor said that it would not be contagious, and she was also a normal working life.
The mother-in-law's family believes that she is like an AIDS patient, refusing to let her contact the child, the husband Zhang Guoyun earned all the money to the mother-in-law, because the father-in-law died early, he listened to the mother-in-law's words, he did not care about himself, the two did not have children Is Zhang Guoping's physical problems, but they are all counted on themselves.
Deng Jiaping's sister felt that the Zhang family was deliberately trying to force Deng Jiaping to leave by herself, when the two were introduced to each other for three months, Kong Xiumei urged the two to get a license to get married, in order to levy one more person, and now they got the levy money to buy a house but they wanted to sweep Deng Jiaping out of the house, and their mother and son were the ones with more eyes.
What does Zhang Guoping himself think about his second wife, Deng Jiaping? Does he really want to divorce her or is he pressured by his mother to choose to snub his wife?
Deng Jiaping found Zhang Guoping to ask him to give an explanation, Zhang Guoping was not a taste of his wife who had not been seen for a long time, he confessed that Deng Jiaping was grumpy, and when he did not agree, he would kneel on his knees, the clothes at home did not wash him, or his mother could not see it before he started to wash, in the past he and Deng Jiaping lived together in the old house, Deng Jiaping refused to cook a meal for him, and when the child was sick, she did not even feed the child medicine.
Once Zhang Guoping wanted Deng Jiaping to take out another 100,000 yuan to buy a house, because she also had a place to resettle the house, but Deng Jiaping was unwilling to give out a penny, there was no way he could only buy a house with his mother, now this house was bought by his mother, the name is also the mother's, she is not willing to accept the daughter-in-law, he can not force the mother.
Zhang Guoping hopes that Deng Jiaping can change her temper, not so grumpy, pay more for this family, only if her attitude changes, he will be able to continue to walk with her.
Deng Jiaping said that she is also very busy, work is very tired, in the supermarket stand for a day, back there is no energy to do so many housework, when the mother-in-law and husband just feel that they did not borrow money from the mother's family to buy a house, the heart has been dissatisfied, the problem is that she does not have the ability to buy, the mother-in-law with everyone's levy money to buy a house, why can't she live in it together?
Deng Jiaping is very disappointed in Zhang Guoping, she feels that her husband's family has never regarded herself as a family, what to do all three of them are on the side, she is always alone and helpless, since she has made such an unpleasant situation, she is not willing to continue to go on, she hopes to break up peacefully with Zhang Guoping, but she wants to get back her own levy.
Deng Jiaping went to consult her own expropriation project, there are about 130,000, the mother-in-law initially got more than 700,000 expropriation compensation, she hopes that the mother-in-law can return her own expropriation money to herself.
However, Kong Xiumei refused Deng Jiaping's request, Kong Xiumei said that she did not owe Deng Jiaping anything, when the house was expropriated a month before they received the certificate, Deng Jiaping did not collect the household registration is not clear, when she got married, she took more than 50,000 dowry, and later levied the money, she gave Deng Jiaping more than 50,000 people to collect money, a total of 110,000, Kong Xiumei felt that Deng Jiaping had no right to ask for money with herself.
The mediator is still trying to persuade Deng Jiaping and Zhang Guoping, both of them have experienced an unfortunate marriage, and now they should cherish the second marriage more, there is no principled contradiction between husband and wife that cannot be regulated, Deng Jiaping can not only see Zhang Guoping's shortcomings, but also look back at the place where they are not in place, both sides should have more trust and tolerance for each other, and this feeling can continue to be maintained.
Zhang Guoping and Deng Jiaping listened to the mediator's words a little loose, Kong Xiumei said that she had no confidence in her daughter-in-law at all, if her son insisted on being with Deng Jiaping, then she wanted Zhang Guoping to move out, and she was not upset. Zhang Guoping heard his mother's complaint against his wife, and there was also dissatisfaction and resentment in his heart for this relationship, this mediation could not continue, and eventually the two sides had to settle the dispute in court.
In this relationship, Deng Jiaping and Zhang Guoping have their own problems, they only see each other's inaction, see the shortcomings of others, only hope that the other party will accommodate themselves, and refuse to find reasons from themselves, they first go to do what they should do, a wife must bear the responsibility of being a wife, a husband must assume the responsibility of being a husband, so that the family can be harmonious and happy.
Second-married couples lack emotional foundation, lack of understanding of each other, lack of trust, involving money issues will unconsciously guard each other, but such distrust and non-communication will make the marriage become shaky, obviously can be the closest person, but finally become the most familiar stranger.
Children who do not belong to the common blood relationship of the two people are also a dark wound, the adopted child makes the relationship between the two people can not be very closely linked, the woman will feel that the child is not her own, it is used by the other party for the elderly, too defensive and extreme so that she refuses to pay, refuses to be attentive to the child, such a negative attitude stimulates the psychology of the man, and believes that the woman is not willing to live a good life with herself.
And the mother-in-law's strength makes the already unstable marriage become completely fragmented, no one wants to find a good and lazy daughter-in-law, but no one wants to have a strong mother-in-law who does everything, Kong Xiumei's behavior is stubborn and biased, for the son's non-let go, the daughter-in-law's lack of appreciation, distrust, let her unconsciously put the daughter-in-law on the opposite side, this cognition makes her mouth to forgive the daughter-in-law, hope that the daughter-in-law and the son have a good life, the subconscious behavior is to encourage the son to divorce.
A good family, a good marriage, what is needed is the joint efforts of everyone, husband and wife understand each other, trust each other, tolerate each other's shortcomings, and strive to do their own things well, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in order to harmoniously put away their dissatisfaction, grasp the measure, do not worry about it, do not deliberately embarrass, the mother-in-law has the appearance of a mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law has the appearance of a daughter-in-law, so that the whole family can move in a good direction, and the days can get better and better.
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