In this life, when and when people will meet someone who makes their heart move, no one knows. And how many people will meet in this life, how many people will make their hearts move, this point, no one knows. Many times, it is only when I am moved that I find that I like it.
But if you're already a married person and you meet someone who makes your heart move, at this time, don't know what you're going to do. Some people certainly choose the right approach, but some don't.
What exactly is the right thing to do? This is made clear in the following passage, which comes from Scott Pike's book The Road Few.
"The feeling of love may be infinite, and the flame of love may burn in the heart at any time, but the love we can give is limited, and we cannot choose the object of love at will. True love is not obliviousness, but deliberation, a great decision to dedicate one's whole body and mind. ”
For example, the author says that he may meet a woman he loves, and he would love her very much, but doing so would ruin his marriage and endanger his family, so he would suppress this thought, and he would say something like, "I would love to love you, but I will not do it because I have made commitments to my wife and family." ”
No one knows if they will meet someone who will make their hearts move one day, but we must clearly know our own identity, especially if you are married, and we cannot let this feeling of heartbeat develop. As the author says, we cannot choose the object of love at will, and we must not get carried away.
If you always let the feeling of love spread, then even if you choose the person you are now, it is difficult to guarantee that you will not meet the next person who moves you.
Have you ever thought that your current wife or husband is also someone you have been deeply in love with?
Choose one person to grow old, and since you have chosen, treat each other well and cherish your family. It's easy, it happens in an instant, but your family has come to life after years of hard work, and no one deserves to destroy it.
When Zhou Guoping talked about the part about marriage in his "I Like life as it is", he wrote: "It is the common feeling of people to like the new and dislike the old, but there is a deeper side of human feelings, that is, nostalgia for the past. A person cannot be young forever, and one day he will find that the most cherished thing in life is the kind of companionship that has been unswerving through the vicissitudes. ”
In Zhou Guoping's view, in the long-lasting and harmonious married life, two people are already you and me, and I have you, and they grow together in flesh and blood. The countless small and precious memories shared together are like a priceless treasure, a strange property that belongs only to the two of them and cannot be transferred to others or passed on to their descendants. In the final analysis, whoever owns this property with you shares the fate of this life and this life with whom you share it. In contrast, the most romantic affair has only become a cloud of the past.
Maybe in the bland married life, you have a little tiredness in your heart, you are eager for something new to appear, at this time, there is just a person who appears, touching your heart that has been silent, you think this is true love, you want to grasp, afraid of missing it and going back to the ordinary life.
However, even if you choose to be with the person in the moment, you will eventually find that life will return to a flat state, no different from before.
At the end of the day, all life will eventually return to a dull state, even if the love is vigorous. Because people can never be in a state of excitement all the time, people's hearts will always slowly calm down under the action of time.
Therefore, after knowing your identity, you can ignore these heartbeats, and don't worry about whether to do something for this heartbeat, what you should do is to be loyal to your other half, to be responsible for your marriage and your family.
A person, if he loses the reverence for marriage, can be unscrupulous and look dashing, but all actions will produce results, and you are the one who bears the results, and you may not be able to afford this price.
Many people, even if they have done something to hurt their other half, are still reluctant to give up the current marriage, because they also know that it is not easy to form a family, and it is even more difficult to give up a family.
So, don't be impulsive, don't be carried away by the feelings of the moment, guard your marriage, your life will be complete.
When you are interested in another person, you may think that you have no love for your other half at all, so you want to find a real love. If you think about it, you will know that this kind of love has existed between you and your other half.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Chen Junsheng fell in love with Ling Ling, and when his wife Luo Zijun knew all this, she was still unwilling to give up this marriage, so she went to Chen Junsheng several times and three times, hoping that he could change his mind, but Chen Junsheng told Luo Zijun: "I love Ling Ling, and I love her hopelessly." ”
When he heard these words, Luo Zijun gave up completely. She told Chen Junsheng, "That's what you told me before. ”
Chen Junsheng divorced as he wished, and married Ling Ling, but they were not as happy as he thought. Later, when he found out that Ling Ling was not what he imagined, and that the family they formed was not as happy as he imagined, he felt very bitter, he said: "I would rather nothing happened, I would rather go back to the past, the past." ”
Even if you want to go back to the past, most of the people you failed at the beginning are unwilling, not to mention, once there is a crack in the feelings, there will be scars in the heart, which cannot be removed, unless you have no relationship with that person again.
In this life, people will certainly do a lot of wrong things, but some mistakes, the price is too high, you can't afford it.
After all, you don't need to pay attention to the heartbeat outside of marriage, you just need to tell yourself that you have a family, you have people to treat well, and naturally you will not make wrong choices.
Who is more important to you than the person you live with?
Many people always have a lot of misunderstandings about love, they always easily magnify their feelings of love, and easily think that what they meet must be true love, in fact, this is not the case.
So, if you meet someone you like after marriage, the best thing to do is in the passage scott Pike wrote.