As a modern parent, do you know how modern children should be educated?
Many parents believe that family education is to develop children's intelligence, that is, to let children memorize Tang poems from the age of two or three, learn English at the age of four or five, and consult tutors and tutoring classes after going to school, and the grades must be among the best, and they must go to prestigious universities in the future. It seems that only in this way can the parents' education be considered successful and the children be counted as talents.
Practice has proved that this is a great misunderstanding of family education and a bad consequence of further education in family education.
The most important task of family education should be to build the Great Wall of children's personality.
Just think, if a child lacks the cognition of life (when he encounters setbacks, he has the idea of taking his own life), does not have the ability to dream (he does not know what he wants to do in the future), does not know how to protect himself (he is still abducted by farmers as a doctoral student), and cannot share with others (he is rich in money but unhappy), then even if the child is the first in the homework test, what can he do?
What should be changed today is the parents, the parents' educational concepts. So, what should be the right homeschooling? It is parents who should help their children build a good platform for life, so that children have a good personality cultivation, know how to be a person, and understand the true meaning of success.
Only when parents' educational concepts have changed, can our children receive a good family education and benefit for life.
Mr. Cai Yuanpei said in the book "The Cultivation of Chinese": It is not the academic performance that determines the child's life, but the sound personality cultivation!
Children's education from an early age affects the future development path, and the child's education must be related to the parents, so what should family education be? Take a look at the eight key educational guidelines for parents.
First, how to let children establish an optimistic and upward attitude
1. Accepting reality is the first step towards optimism
2. Cultivate an optimistic personality and let children face the misfortunes in life calmly
3. Let the child maintain a normal heart
4, the child spends a lot of energy on anxiety, can not exert its inherent ability
5, the sense of humor seems to be a "small trick", but it is actually a "big skill"
Second, let children learn to be grateful and know how to be tolerant
1, narrow-mindedness will only make children miserable for a lifetime
2, with love, there is a motivation to seek knowledge and beauty
3. Pranks will "cause trouble" and guide children to correct them in time
4. Eliminate the child's cruel behavior in a timely manner
5, know how to be grateful, will grow
Third, cultivate children's courage to face setbacks
1, the child is fragile, teach him the courage to face failure
2. Cultivate children's willpower that cannot be ignored
3. Children who are unfamiliar with setbacks are difficult to integrate into society
4, replace inferiority with self-confidence
5, always blame the child's failure, the child will become "incompetent"
6. Praise your child, but don't overdo it
Fourth, teach children to protect themselves
1. Teach children some safety knowledge and calmly deal with injuries
2, rely on the parents of children, always inevitably fall
3, children lack the ability to deal with the world, at any time there will be a danger of being swallowed up by life
4. Excessive protection is equivalent to "harm"
5. Improve your child's "immunity" and calmly face temptation
Fifth, let children dare to dream
1, there is a dream to create
2, do not reprimand children's "dream words"
3. When a child has a dream, urge him to take a step towards the dream
4. Rejecting the child's "why" is equivalent to cutting off the wings of his thinking
5. Be kind to your child's interests
6, good at creating children, often have a Mercedes-Benz mind
Sixth, cultivate children's good communication skills
1. Children who know social etiquette can have good popularity
2, children are good at talking, the most able to bow out the interest and attention of others
3, respect for others, is to respect yourself
4, the child has the courage to admit mistakes, then the mistakes have been changed by half
5, the ability to cooperate is more important than knowledge
6. Children who know how to listen have personality charm
Seventh, teach children to use money wisely
2, the earlier the child contacts and learns to use pocket money, the easier it is to make money when he grows up
3. Correctly handle the child's pressure money
4. Develop the habit of saving, so that children can benefit for life
5. It is better to give it to fish than to teach it to fish
6. Correct the child's blind comparison psychology
Eighth, help children to correctly understand themselves
1. Encourage children to take the initiative to interact with others and eliminate children's loneliness
2, long-term shyness, children are prone to inferiority complex
3, learn to appreciate others, will appreciate themselves
4, let the child find a good point of their own every day
5. Only by understanding the "sacrifice" will there be "gains"
Every child is an angel, and their growth is inseparable from the education of their parents.
The famous British psychologist Eisenk pointed out that personality determines the ability of individuals to adapt to the social environment;
A sound personality can make people constantly know themselves, improve themselves, and greatly improve a person's ability to adapt to society.
Gao Xiaosong said that his education is mainly to "teach his daughter to live in peace and mind", in fact, what he advocates is an educational concept of healthy personality;
Give children democracy, freedom and self-confidence, so that they are not easily tempted by all kinds of floating prosperity and vanity on the road of life.
This shows the importance of sound personality in personal growth and social development, and parents should focus more on cultivating their children's personality.