"You must let your mother-in-law pay back the money, otherwise I will divorce you", husband: hurry up and leave, I have had enough

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Gorky's "Childhood": "Go your way, fall down and don't blame others!" ”

This sentence is easily reminiscent of another sentence: "Go your own way and let others say go!" Although the expression is "go your own way", the meaning is different.

If a person can be sure that he is taking the right path, he should unswervingly follow his own path, don't care what others say, anyway, sooner or later you will use your success to make others shut up.

But if a person is taking the wrong path, does not listen to the advice of others, and insists on going his own way, he is doomed to fall behind. If such a person falls, he can blame others, only himself.

However, the fact is that such people often complain about others after falling, blaming others for not preventing themselves from making mistakes, obviously hurting others and making themselves seem to be very wronged.

The ex-wife of the following reader belongs to this kind of person, and let's take a look at what happened between them.

Hello Mr. Donglin:

If a person's marriage is ruined at the hands of outsiders, they can justifiably blame others. But if the marriage is ruined at your own hands, but you put the responsibility on others, it is too much of a thing.

In my opinion, selfish people tend to make such mistakes. Their selfishness will lead to their poor marriage at all; their selfishness will cause them to throw hats on others after divorce, thinking that others have ruined their marriages and left their own problems behind.

My ex-wife belonged to such a person, and she never looked at it clearly, as if everyone owed her.

In the matter of our marriage, my parents gave her a gift, prepared a gift, and paid us a house, almost emptying the bottom of the family, shouldn't she be grateful? Shouldn't I be considerate of how difficult it was for my parents?

If my parents treat her badly, even if she has no opinion, I will have an opinion. But the problem is that my parents have always been very kind to her, looking at my face everywhere, carefully defending our marriage, afraid that my marriage will go wrong.

And she actually quarreled with me because I lent my mother ten thousand yuan, and beat me up.

If my parents still had money in their hands, they wouldn't have asked me to borrow it. They've paid so much for our marriage that I feel like we should have reached out when they needed help, and should even give them money instead of having them ask us to borrow.

Having said that, I considered that I was married after all, and even though my mom didn't borrow much money, and even though I felt I had to lend it to her, I greeted my wife out of respect and didn't want her to think I was making up my own mind.

When I consulted her, she agreed. I was relieved that she was more sensible than I thought.

However, in the evening, she suddenly changed her mind and asked me to get the money back that night.

If she had refused when I consulted her, I might not have felt so bad and would have found another way. But she obviously agreed, but she rebelled, causing my good feelings for her to plummet during the day.

I said that no matter what, you can't just lend it out and come back, otherwise it will inevitably make the old man chill. But she didn't spare it, and even called my mother directly to ask for money.

Halfway through her speech, I grabbed my phone and hung up. I annoyed her with this behavior, and she scolded me and used all kinds of vicious words. I couldn't get angry with her for a few words, and she rushed over and hit me, and although I resisted, she scratched her face several times, like a mad wild cat, and her long fingernails might have been specially prepared for me.

She said to me in this situation: "You must make your mother-in-law pay back the money, otherwise I will divorce you!" "What can I say? All I could say was, "Hurry up, I've had enough!" ”

My mother arrived with the money, and seeing our posture, she said that the money had been taken and advised us to calm down. I stopped my mother from giving her the money, I felt that I could not give, I did not give, so selfish woman, I must divorce her!

After that, many people advised me not to divorce, but I didn't listen. She, too, didn't listen to anything, vowing to win or lose with me.

Compare it to it! Time will tell who is right and who is wrong!

After divorcing her, I married a normal wife and have been at peace. And she quickly remarried after divorcing me, but she did not avoid the fate of divorce again, because others are not as good as me, and she tasted the lesson when her selfishness first showed a hint.

Both marriages prove that she has a problem, but do you know what she told anyone else? She said it was my problems that caused her to have one misfortune after another, that if it were not for my foolish filial piety, she would not have divorced, and that if I did not divorce her, she would not divorce again.

This kind of person really makes people speechless. Feel free to do it! Love how to say how to say, anyway, I have a good heart, anyway, I have a happy marriage, from this point alone, I am more successful than her. Anyone can do it, but the verbal ability does not prove how great a person is, and it is really great to be able to live a good life.

Donglin Xiting Emotional Advice:

Although everyone has selfishness, this does not mean that we can arbitrarily amplify selfishness. We should control our selfishness and be targeted, not be controlled by selfishness in turn.

The couple above vividly interprets these two diametrically opposed situations.

From the psychological activities before the man lends money to his parents, it can be seen that he also has a selfish side, both in terms of family affection and selfish in love, and finally chooses to consult with his wife before making a decision.

This kind of selfishness at the level of "respecting the wife's feelings" is reasonable, and it also shows that he is a person who can control selfishness.

On the other hand, his ex-wife, who is not grateful for her mother-in-law's efforts, does not pay attention to affection, does not respect her husband after being respected by her husband, bites the "money lent to her mother-in-law for emergency relief" and does not lie down, and does not pay any attention to whether the ten thousand yuan is more important to her mother-in-law or more important to herself.

This kind of "unreasonable" selfish behavior shows that she does not know how to control selfishness, but is controlled by selfishness; she would rather let the money in her hand rot than help her mother-in-law; her mother-in-law gives her money, which she thinks is reasonable; if she wants to borrow some money from her, she will be miserly, and such a person will of course self-destruct her marriage.

She and her ex-husband are both following their own path, and the result is very different because: her ex-husband is taking the right path, frank and open, straight to happiness; and she, taking the wrong path, is trapped in the swamp called "selfishness" without knowing it, and wants to go her own way, and of course will eventually be swallowed up by selfishness.