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What is the purpose of a woman trying to find a man to marry? At the end of the day, just want a dependency, want a sense of security.
This sense of security, whether material or spiritual, women long for it.
Some people say that the security that women want most is not money?
That's only half true. Money is indeed one of the security that women want, but many times, the security that comes from "people" is not what money can give.
Heaven created men and women to balance the world, because the yin and yang are coordinated, and the world will be stable.
Marriage is also the most effective and secure form of union between a man and a woman, because marriage is maintained by law. That's why women always want that piece of paper.
Security is also an aspect of security. It's not that women can't protect themselves and can't live themselves. In fact, more and more modern women are able to earn their own money.
Although there are more and more women who are not married, relatively speaking, the number of women who have entered marriage is still more.
Entering marriage, part of the reason is that women feel that this is a natural law and a tradition handed down from ancestors, and partly because of women's desire for men's dependence.
Throughout the ages, the image of men has been relatively tall and majestic, which is why people always like to compare men to "mountains".
Therefore, women all hope that they can find a dependence, the kind of dependence that can make them feel safe.
But more and more divorce cases, or marital facts, are warning women that men are unreliable. Not only is it unreliable, but even the sense of security that can be given is getting less and less.
A woman's sense of security from a man is not only because he is the pillar of a family, but also the father of his own man and children; not only because he can earn money to support the family, but also because he wants his loyalty and single-mindedness to the marriage.
This latter part is the most important thing for women and is also the most important factor in many divorce cases.
Monogamy, recognized and protected by Chinese law, limits the one-to-one conditions of marriage. But obviously, in modern society, men and women have their own different "understandings" of this law.
The lack of security that men give women is precisely because of men's infidelity to marriage.
Or, men are always influenced by the ancient tradition of three wives and four concubines, hoping that they can be followed by multiple women around them, so that they can appear capable.
But presumably men have forgotten that modern women are no longer the kind of women who are obedient and have no social status in ancient times.
Today, women no longer even need a man around to get pregnant and give birth, using the means of science and technology, women even if they are not married, they can give birth to children by themselves and raise adults.
If the sense of security that men give women is strong enough, will women want to do this? No, women have come this far because they have lost confidence in men.
Women who can tolerate men having people outside of marriage are because of their own incompetence and helplessness. Don't say it's because of love, a woman's love, not so worthless! So, admit your own incompetence, or the more realistic truth.
If a woman has her own ability, can she tolerate a man's betrayal of her? I think it's a very difficult thing to do. Only women who cannot survive and live on their own without men will have such fear and helplessness.
But what is the use of a man whose heart has turned his back on marriage and family?
Or, some men still keep the flowers in their homes bright even if the flags flutter outside. Perhaps, he has this ability, that is, he himself has enough money to maintain the balance of these women, in fact, it is also a temptation and offering for women who are not able to stand on their own.
Perhaps, some women approach men just for the money; some women don't want a divorce and are also for the money. Money replaces men as their sense of security, so as long as they have money, it is not so important whether men are loyal to themselves.
But most women still will not accept such a fact in their hearts, so more and more women will choose not to marry and choose to be self-reliant.
Such a result is actually "forced" by men.