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Yesterday, someone in the mother group asked this question: After giving birth, my mother gave me 5,000 yuan, but my in-laws did not give a penny.
I thought they were planning to give it together when the full moon wine was in. As a result, I really thought about it too much, and not only did people not give red envelopes, but also took the money collected on the day to go.
Originally, I was already angry enough, but my husband also said that their custom here is to go out of the confinement, and the daughter-in-law should buy clothes or shoes for my in-laws to thank them for serving me in confinement.
Now whoever has a baby, the in-laws give money, right?! I don't know if I have a problem with my thoughts, or if my in-laws don't understand etiquette?
In less than five minutes, the mothers in the group gave their opinions.
I probably looked at it, and many mothers comforted, "If you don't give it, you don't give it, and some of you don't even give money for marriage." After you give birth to a child, you will raise you, and you will not raise others, and it is your in-laws' good to bring you children and spend money for you, not their obligation.
Live your own life, what can you do with the little money she gives? As for the share of money, it is not taken for free, and sooner or later it will still have to be returned. ”
Sigh, I have to say that they are all sober little cute in the world!
To be honest, I understand this mother's thoughts. The reason why I am dissatisfied because my in-laws do not give red envelopes is mainly for these two reasons:
Feel like you're not being taken seriously
In fact, sometimes, the daughter-in-law hopes that her in-laws will give red envelopes, and she really does not want much money. Instead, I want to know if my in-laws feel sorry for myself and value my newborn child.
If the in-laws have a few weekly gifts, they will greet their daughter-in-law with a warm greeting, and they will also help with the children when they have time and physical strength. Then it doesn't matter if you don't give money.
After all, the conditions of each family are different, and not all in-laws have a good pension and savings.
But I'm afraid, some people don't care about their daughter-in-law at all, and they usually haven't even made a phone call. After the birth of the child, let alone give money, I have not even bought clothes and shoes.
In this case, even if it is a daughter-in-law who is more sensible, she will feel aggrieved and full of resentment in her heart.
The mother-in-law's family and the in-laws' family are contrasted
Unlike those big families who have a baby, they will be rewarded with a large amount of money. In fact, many daughters-in-law do not feel that the in-laws have to give themselves money or anything.
But if you have a baby yourself, the mother's family will help you pay, but the in-laws will not react at all, or pay very little.
After the two comparisons, the daughter-in-law will be more distressed about the difficulty of the mother-in-law's parents, and at the same time, she will feel that the in-laws do not treat themselves as a family. It is inevitable that the heart will be very uncomfortable and lost.
Finally, I would like to say that in this world, except for our parents, no one will love us unconditionally. Therefore, sometimes it is necessary to lower psychological expectations, after all, there will not be too much disappointment without too high hopes.
In addition, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, really the most afraid of calculation, otherwise everywhere is congested and unpleasant.
Whether to give birth to a child or not to give money, it is true that it depends on the conditions of the in-laws. It is also possible to give more money and those who have no money to be willing to contribute.
As for the in-laws, it is best not to use money to promote it, so as not to end badly when the time comes.
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