Text/Xuan Xiaolei
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In the last few episodes of "Dear Child", the moment when Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua reconciled, it should also be very tear-inducing, after all, there are really many people who are sad about Xie Tianhua.
According to the current words, xie Tianhua's role is a "big wronged species", that is, the kind of "big wronged head" who only pays no return, is only used and is not loved.
Indeed, to count from the beginning, Xie Tianhua was a pitiful crush situation from the beginning.
Mingming Xiaolu, a buddy, knew that he liked Fang Yinuo, but while laughing at him, he did not dare to confess, and at the same time he was with Fang Yinuo and married.
Xie Tianhua accepted this reality and quietly hid this feeling. It's just that I can't tolerate others in my heart, I don't fall in love, and I don't get married.
It was not until Fang Yinuo divorced Xiao Lu and silently treated her for three years before he confessed that the marriage proposal was successful.
At that time, Fang Yinuo did not love him, but only needed him, wanted to have a dependence, and also wanted to find a father for the child. Xie Dahua himself should have known this, but he certainly didn't care at the time, because his starting point was to "want to give Fang Yinuo happiness."
Therefore, he was kind to their mother and daughter without complaint and regret, and unconditionally defended Fang Yinuo and her daughter in front of his family. Originally, they thought that raising other people's children was nothing, and they could have another child after that.
However, this child was seriously ill, xie Tianhua single-mindedly did not give up, took care of the child, contributed money, did not hesitate, and sold the house for the sake of the child's suffering.
But even such a selfless man, who loves extremely selflessly, gradually can't stand that his wife cares more about her ex-husband's daughter, so she hesitates to want it after conceiving his child.
For this reason, he obstructed his wife's way to save his daughter by having another child with her ex-husband, and at that moment, he was selfish and wanted to cut off this road in order to save the child in his wife's belly.
He wants a child of his own and Fang Yinuo, and his family also wants to keep this child, so his selfishness can actually be understood.
When Fang Yinuo learned of his behavior, he said a sentence of "people are really selfish", and many people in the barrage instantly sprayed her: "You are the most selfish."
People who say this do not agree with the act of "Fang Yinuo desperately wants to open a house with her ex-husband and have another child in order to save his daughter Hehe".
They felt that she was extremely selfish, not considering Xiao Lu's wife's feelings, Xie Tianhua's feelings, and not caring about his family's feelings.
Thinking that the Xie family was so good to their mother and daughter, she should not be sorry for the Xie family, and she should not betray them.
It sounds reasonable, but in fact, Fang Yinuo also knows that it is selfish for her to do so, and what she calls "people are really selfish" includes herself.
However, from another point of view, her selfishness is completely understandable, and the child in her belly with Xie Tianhua has just been born, and she has not yet met, not gotten along, and has not intersected.
But the daughter lying on the hospital bed is a small cotton jacket that has been together for several years, has paid a lot, and has established a deep enough relationship. How could she possibly watch, how could she not want to do everything in her power to save her?
When she had to make a choice, she first chose to give up Xie Tianhua, and then she wanted to give up the child she had just conceived with Xie Tianhua, and at this time she chose her daughter, which was also a forced thing.
This selfishness is maternal and a necessary trade-off in a dilemma.
If she really cares for Xie Tianhua whether her daughter has one more hope of being saved, there will certainly be some people who say that she is selfish, thinking that she only cares about her own love and only cares about her own man.
Therefore, people are sometimes selfish and selfish, in fact, there are reasons, such as having relatives and friends they care about, having people they want to protect, and having legitimate reasons for selfishness.
The evaluation of outsiders is only from a different position. Whoever defends it, he feels that he has suffered a loss.
But we overlook the point that people are facing choices anytime and anywhere, and the trade-off between lovers and daughters, if mothers do not choose daughters, it is also unreasonable and will make people laugh.
Therefore, in the face of this choice, you can only wronged your lover, even if you don't want to hurt him like this, even if you don't want to lose him, you can only do so.
Understanding this, you can also accept Fang Yinuo's performance, and can understand that her selfishness is the powerlessness and responsibility and instinct of a mother.