I | with the photographer Witty married life

Last year I wrote about "Witty Love" and this year I wrote about marriage.

Yes, it can only be done once a year, more is like sprinkling dog food, and the longer the length, it can't withstand the scrutiny of chicken feathers. Therefore, this restrained rhythm hopes to make the audience grin in the general environment at this time, and also let me, the party, remember that moment of warmth.

After we got married, we once rented a house in the middle of our two units. The subway buses are not convenient, but the reason why they have not moved away is very strange, because there is a bun shop downstairs that can be called the best in Beijing (self-assessment).

He would have to travel for a long time, so my daily dinner was a bun. As far as I am such a person who likes the new and hates the old, this bun is really worth loving it for a long time, not false at all.

Every time he went back to Beijing, I bought him a bun to eat, and at first I didn't resist, and when he saw that I didn't mean to change his taste, he said, or let's change the place to eat. I have been in love with this bun for a long time, and I can't see that others are not satisfied with it in the slightest.

I said, we still have to face each other for decades, do we get bored and change dishes?

He said, you don't have to rise to the height of marriage.

I refuse to give up, I suggest you have this mental preparation, eat a dish for a lifetime.

It was also the first time we had a conversation about marriage.

A year later, after moving, he would occasionally make a deliberate detour to buy it for me. But I don't know how, it seems that it is not so indispensable, and it is good to eat, but I always feel that something is weird.

I told him that next time I don't have to buy it, it's so hard to work, you have to run.

A few years later, the store moved away.

Much like men and women in the hot love period, doing romantic things all over the world, for a long time, physically tired eyelid fights, just want to fall on the sofa and turn on the TV to watch godlessly. For those buns, dumplings, let it be the first in the world, and I can't be interested.

When you see your classmates here, don't be afraid, I call this phenomenon "growth".

One day I read an article that said that couples should get through the burnout period, maintain good communication and feelings, and only need to maintain 6 hours of time for two people a week. I told my husband that it was miserable, that we were far from enough, that we were on the verge of divorce.

I thought he didn't care, but when he got off work one day, he suddenly called me and said, let's go, let's go alone and find a place to eat. I will have a manuscript in my hand to change, and I will refuse to say no. He imitated my tone and said, miserable, if we don't eat this meal, we will both get divorced, this week is not enough 6 hours.

Admittedly, all of our family life revolves around children. Taking children for a walk, visiting the playground, reading, not caring about their own needs, even that little bit of lying flat chat is also a funny thing for children.

There is also communication at home, but it is more about work, planning, and scheduling. Especially in my cramped little room, the messy children and the disheveled us and the elders who were tired after a hard day, everyone wanted to leave the space quickly and retreat to each other's rooms to be quiet.

After this time, the two of us gradually developed a set of ways to get along, set aside a few hours a week, leave the house, the two of us go for a walk, go on a date or eat, talk about children, it doesn't matter, drink together, hold the hands that have no feelings in the mist.

People need to recharge, in fact, marriage relationships need more.

Compared with the fun and fun pursuit of a stimulating love life, a peaceful marriage is nourishing. I didn't understand it before, but now I think so. Pray every time, please let me continue to live a plain life.

Of course, if you cheat, centrifuge, and get separated, the old woman will have to face it

There are too many inexplicable places in men.

Why can they throw the change of clothes on the ground without any discomfort? Why do they have no ability to express their emotions, and their sanity has reached the point of indifference? Why do they always put the words "yes, you can, you can" on their lips, and what is the most important thing?

Sure enough, it is impossible for men and women to resonate at the same frequency.

I watched "The Sky of the Wind Dog Boy" for a while, and I would cry and laugh, and the emotional places began to sobb. He pushed the door in to see how miserable I was and immediately retreated. I heard his movements and wanted to say, even if you have a little conscience, you are still a person!

The next second, he came in with a small camera and said to me, you go on, and then cry, leave me alone!

What do you think the best marital state is: You're making trouble, he's laughing?

Non also.

In the end it will definitely turn out, you are crying, he is laughing!

Later, I saw many, many, many videos of me on his phone. There are rogues who fall to the ground and roll when they are angry, there are moments when they sneak on the bed to eat and dirty the covers, and there are videos of crooked and twisted dancing with their hands and feet.

I asked, are you old this is going to be?

He said, that's the biggest reason I'm married to you!

Yes, comedians around!

After getting married, the two of us discussed recording our lives, so we began to learn to take pictures. There are many poor stationery, and I have not yet started to buy expensive cameras. In less than a year, it was resold for a machine.

He also didn't want to explain much so that I wouldn't nag.

Basically, I was either buying lenses or selling lenses, from one to three, with the highest record being five. I was upset that the money was not said, and I could not see the effect, and my heart was impetuous. Hate said, I want to ask for an outside shoot!!! You can't!! You're so technically poor!!

He looked at me leisurely and said, "It's okay to change people, you'd better go and cut the bones first."

I'm stagnant, are you still physically attacking?

He said that you provoked the war first, saying that I can be worse anywhere, but I can't say that I can't!

Once, when his lover came to Beijing on a business trip in September, we ate together, and he specially brought a camera to take pictures of the two of us. After seeing the photos in September, I was very restrained for half a day and said, you are... Win by quantity! He is fearless, it's okay, I'm learning later now!

Every time you take a picture, you definitely have to quarrel.

He was so red in disgust by me that he couldn't shake him back, so as not to increase the injury index. In the past two years, my mentality has been peaceful, and I have also seen it open, and the aesthetic and ability of both of us have reached the limit and cannot be broken through.

He's not used to it, asked, and hasn't heard you scold me lately.

I said, then you stand here, I have a fairly large vocabulary reserve lately.

He raised his hand and said, I owe it to my mouth, you rest first!

Cough, there are many folds in the marriage, and the wind and waves are not small. The old husband and wife clasped their hands, and they could not distinguish between you and me for a long time. But I hope that each other will remember these little humors in life, and they will not be afraid of the next moment that is coming.

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