Alcohol can paralyze people's nerves, forget their painful experiences and memories, alcohol can also confuse people's right and wrong judgments, let themselves make mistakes in the haze, so after drinking resolutely can not make any irrational decisions, otherwise a momentary fever will have a very far-reaching impact, may make themselves pay a lifetime can not bear the price.
Especially for feelings, it should be a mutual admiration between men and women, and after a long period of interaction and understanding, but under the action of alcohol, it is easy to produce the so-called dew love, it comes suddenly, but it may not be dashing, and even drag mud with water, thus bringing endless trouble to yourself, so maintaining a sober and rational mind can often reduce many troubles for yourself.
Zhang Yun (pseudonym), 48, has been widowed for 14 years, and she has lived a relatively poor life with her daughter, but a classmate party three years after the widow completely broke her peaceful life.
At that time, Zhang Yun attended the class reunion, due to the warm atmosphere, the students were drinking a lot of wine between the staggered, after the banquet, seeing that Zhang Yun was already drunk, Wang Li (pseudonym), the senior who was one year older than Zhang Yun in junior high school, offered to take care of the drunken Zhang Yun alone.
As a result, Wang Li took a taxi with Zhang Yun straight to the hotel, after the two turned the clouds and rained, Wang Li told Zhang Yun that he had divorced, since the two had a relationship, he said that he and his ex-wife only had one daughter, but before his father died, he especially wanted a grandson to continue the incense for the Wang family, if Zhang Yun promised to give him a boy, Wang Li promised to give her a suite, and the 60,000 yuan of his own provident fund would also be given to Zhang Yun.
Zhang Yun, who was originally annoyed by his own abuse, listened to this and agreed without thinking, Zhang Yun told reporters that there was no way at that time, he did not have a job, it was not easy for a woman to live with a daughter, and he agreed to make a deal with Wang Li for money, after all, Wang Likai's conditions were indeed more attractive.
Due to physical reasons, Zhang Yun can only do IVF, in this regard, she said that Wang Li said that he asked himself to advance money first, and then he returned all the money to Zhang Yun after giving birth to his son, in desperation, Zhang Yun agreed, and since then embarked on the road of IVF for up to three and a half years.
Zhang Yun finally gave birth to a boy, now more than 7 years old, about to go to primary school, she said that since the birth of her son, Wang Li has changed into a person, not only promised to her house and money have not been fulfilled, not very good for her son, fortunately, her son is very good, she is deeply pleased, Zhang Yun will also show her son Wang Hai (pseudonym) from childhood to adulthood of various awards to reporters.
Now his son Wang Hai is facing primary school, Zhang Yun said that wang Li was afraid of the unit to punish him, the child's hukou fell to Wang Li's big brother in the countryside, and then Wang Li moved the hukou back through paternity testing, the child was secretly changed to another name by Wang Li called Wang Le (pseudonym), Zhang Yun said that he had no knowledge of this, and the appeal to the reporter was to ask Wang Li to cooperate in changing the child's name back to Wang Hai, that's all.
As for the reason, Zhang Yun explained that it was because the child won a lot of awards, the awards were written on Wang Hai, if they could not be changed back, then the child's award information and the identity information of the future school were possible, for which she went to Wang Li's unit many times, but the other party did not agree to change the name, but also beat her in front of the leader, she was forced to fight back, both were detained at that time, Zhang Yun said that this is well documented.
Zhang Yun took the reporter to Wang Li's unit, for Zhang Yun said these situations, Wang Li almost denied, he said that there is no such thing as doing IVF trading, he and Zhang Yun were single at the time, the two were lovers of the object, and having a child was not a transaction.
In addition, Wang Li said that the child's name change also told Zhang Yun in advance, not that he changed his name without authorization, and besides, the child could still go to school and live with the name Wang Le in the future, and there would be no impact, but Zhang Yun ran to his unit at both ends for three days to make trouble, causing a storm in the city, and everyone knew it.
However, Zhang Yun bluntly said that Wang Li was full of lies, the children were about to go to primary school, as a father, Wang Li rarely cared about the children, Zhang Yun said that once she went to the field to have something, please Wang Li went to the kindergarten to pick up the child, the result was that Wang Li left work at four o'clock in the afternoon, did not go to the kindergarten to pick up the child at six o'clock, and the son was alone in the kindergarten waiting for his father to pick him up.
In the parent group, parents and teachers talked about this matter, Zhang Yun said that he looked at the discussion in the group, his face could not hang up, and what made him most angry was that later, after Wang Li picked up the child, he actually took the child to the hotel to play mahjong, the child sat next to watch his father play mahjong, and played until late at night after eating supper and getting drunk, and finally the child opened the door to send his father home to sleep.
In the face of Zhang Yun's accusations, Wang Li still denied it, he said that he never took the child to the hotel to play mahjong, purely Zhang Yun denigrated himself, he also never started to beat Zhang Yun, questioning Zhang Yun now in order to change the child's name has become magical, Wang Li frankly said that although the two did not get married, but as the child's biological father, he wants to return to the custody of the child, after all, Zhang Yun's material conditions and mental state are not suitable for continuing to raise the child.
However, when the two of them went to court for custody, Wang Li accused Zhang Yun of being a scoundrel, he was afraid that something would happen later, so he had to agree to give up custody, and in recent years he also paid two thousand maintenance fees to his children on time every month, and his own property and real estate were also willing to be left to his son in the future, Wang Li hoped that Zhang Yunhe would communicate well with himself, do not often come to the unit to make trouble, if Zhang Yun still makes such a fuss, he will sue to change custody, and the two finally did not reach an agreement in order to change the name.
Zhang Yun and Wang Li were originally widowed and single, the other was divorced and single, the indulgence of the two after the same society caused the accident of the intersection of the two, as the woman's Zhang Yun was confused and had a relationship with it, and Wang Li seemed to be somewhat at risk, whether it was playing with feelings or for the sake of giving birth to a son, this dew love affair was just a bad fate.
It is only surprising that Zhang Yun actually gave up the bottom line for the sake of short-term financial benefits and became Wang Li's reproductive tool, which itself has a moral controversy, which involves the future of a child, Wang Li just wants to let himself continue the incense, and let a small life come to this world, it is inevitable that it is too selfish and indifferent.
Sure enough, two strangers gave birth to a child, only nominally as the child's parents, in real life, the child did not enjoy the positive impact that a complete family can bring to him, but the two quarreled endlessly over money and child support and other issues, and the child was forced to choose sides from an early age, which made people feel very sad to watch.
Marriage is the product of feelings, children are the product of marriage, in the final analysis, the birth of a small life should be the crystallization of love, not the product of transactions, a flesh-and-blood child makes a pair of strange men and women not only have no feelings, but because of the problem of raising more entangled and worse, this is the complexity of feelings, but also the sadness of human nature.
No matter how the child's name changes, can not change the fact that the two sides are their parents, as a parent, you should abandon the previous suspicions, through goodwill communication to find the greatest common denominator of the differences between the two, to create a warm growth environment for the child, in the end, the name is just a code name, the blood flowing on the child is the symbol of family affection, but also any dispute can not change the fact.
Wang Li and Zhang Yun's dispute is also more thought-provoking, the combination of no feelings is destined to be the beginning of an emotional dispute, and the birth of the child will only make this dispute more and more intense, strangers to the enemy is only a matter of time, in the entanglement of love and affection, perhaps we should carefully examine our behavior, some emotions do not have to come to this world, its appearance brings disasters to both sides, and it is a desperate disaster that cannot see the head.
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