These 6 sentences heal the child's heart and also heal your relationship with the child!

Everyone's childhood

will be more or less hurt

How do I heal an injured child?

How to heal your childhood wounds?

Six words with healing power

Can heal the heart of a "child"

Every one of us has a childhood, and everyone's childhood will be more or less hurt. Maybe now that we are parents, in the process of raising children, we will intentionally or unintentionally hurt our children.

We all know that childhood trauma can accompany a person throughout life and can have an impact on all aspects of a person's life.

So, how to heal the trauma in your child's heart? How to heal the hurt of your childhood?

The following six sentences are corrective treatment for the "inner child", through the healing language of the inner child, to repair the wounds of the inner child.

I'm sorry

"I'm sorry," is the word that many children expect to come out of their parents' mouths.

Every child doesn't want to be blamed, especially when parents misunderstand themselves. Behind the "sorry" that the child longs for the parent, it is nothing more than to get the parent's understanding and prove that he is worthy of being loved.

However, when this "sorry" is hidden by parents, the child's inner pain is also accumulating little by little with emotions such as anger, sadness, and grievance.

When parents realize that their words and deeds have misunderstood their children, they should apologize in time. Apologizing can not only eliminate misunderstandings in time, but also establish the image of parents who are brave enough to take responsibility and lead by example, which undoubtedly has a positive and positive impact on children.

When misunderstood by parents, no matter which way of misunderstanding, every child craves nothing more than a sincere apology from the parents to fill the gap in the depths of the heart.

"I'm sorry" Although there are only three words, the message is: you are not so bad, I misunderstood you, even hurt you, I have something wrong, I admit my mistake and sincerely apologize to you.

Every parent used to be a child,

Looking back on my childhood,

Have you also been misunderstood by your own parents?

Have you ever longed for your parents to apologize when you were misunderstood?

"What is not obtained is always in turmoil",

repair of wounds,

Sometimes all that is needed is a "I'm sorry" word.

It's not your fault

There are many reasons why a child is hurt inside, either from the outside or from the inside.

When children are injured, they are often accompanied by negative emotions such as fear, sadness, and self-blame, and it is often easy to point the finger at themselves, thinking that they are bad, and parents will severely punish themselves and no longer love themselves.

Trauma psychology believes that the most effective intervention in dealing with trauma is stabilization techniques, that is, allowing traumates to establish a positive experience, temporarily away from negative experiences, and make them feel safe and supported. Therefore, when the injured child blames himself, the parent should directly tell the child that "it is not your fault".

Perhaps some parents think that the child is indeed injured because of some of his own problems, and it is not his fault to tell him at this time, is this not to encourage him to shirk responsibility? Many parents may use this time to preach and try to make their children achieve the effect of pain and pain.

As everyone knows, what is done at this time is like pouring oil on the fire and making it worse. Imagine how you feel when you are in the midst of a strong negative emotional experience where someone is still making accusations or preaching in your ear?

The direct message of "It's not your fault" is: I didn't accuse you, I didn't deny you as a person because of this matter, I still love you. And, on this basis, it is better to say some encouraging words to the child.

When parents accuse and reprimand,

When transformed into an inclusion and understanding,

The child's injuries were quickly healed.

Between parents and children,

The affection between the child and the other,

It will flow naturally.

This kind of thing will not happen again

When parents realize that their words and deeds have brought great harm to their children, they should be the first time to firmly and resolutely tell their children that "this kind of thing will not happen again."

Many children often mention how their parents hurt their hearts over and over again. However, the parents themselves have never realized, or realized but have no reaction and expression, and even prevaricated, denied, and sophistry.

For children, although they have not been able to sit on an equal footing with their parents in terms of generations, in their hearts, there is often a balance, they are at this end, and their parents are at that end.

Children aspire to be able to communicate with their parents on an equal footing and in good faith. When the day is usually unbalanced, the parents seem to have won and defeated the child, but the child's heart has long been closed to the parents.

If "sorry" is a heart-saving pill,

The "it's not going to happen again."

It's a reassuring pill.

When a child is injured,

"This kind of thing will not happen again" is as heavy as Tarzan,

One is to repair the wounds of reality,

The second is to give the child hope.

I love you

"I love you" - this is a sentence that many children dream of being able to say from the mouth of their parents, this is a sentence that many parents want to express but bury deep in their hearts.

When the child is injured, especially when the child feels that he has made a mistake, has run into trouble, become terrible, and unforgivable, he is often immersed in worry, fear, and fear, and feels that the parents will no longer love themselves.

Once read a story:

A couple in Italy who married for many years gave birth to a boy. Husband and wife love, children are lovely. When the child was two years old, one day, when the husband went out, he saw a bottle of potion with the lid on the table, and he loudly reminded his wife to remember to put the bottle away, and then hurried to work.

The wife was so busy in the kitchen that she forgot her husband's ding-dong. The boy picked up the medicine bottle, was attracted by the color of the potion, and drank the potion in one gulp. Due to the high dose of the ingredients of the medicine, although the child was sent to the hospital in time, he was already tired of surgery.

The wife was stunned by the sudden accident! She didn't know how to face her husband and fell into a huge fear. When the husband received the news and rushed to the hospital at the first time, facing the child's body, although he was also sad, he hugged his wife and said a word in her ear, "I love you".

This story, how touching and shocking, the husband's love for his wife, shows us what unconditional love is, in the face of great pain, the phrase "I love you" is full of warm healing, simple, direct, straight to the heart.

When a child is injured, it must be when he is the weakest, please treat him with love. Psychologists say Carl Rogers said, "Love is deep understanding and acceptance."

The simple three words of "I love you" convey the message: I understand your discomfort and pain at this moment, I am willing to accept such a you, no matter what you do and what you become, you will always be my dearest child.

Every child,

all deserve unconditional love,

No matter what he did,

All are worthy of love.

Even if there are a thousand words,

Not worth the phrase "I love you".