It is said that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation. After having a child, I know whether my husband is reliable or not.
Recently, when I was chasing "Dear Child", I was tickled by anger.
Husband Xiao Lu (Qin Hao), why not, and thin mud first.
Fang Yinuo (Ren Suxi), who has a good tutor and self-sufficiency, is forced by him to become a "shrew".
In the face of conjugal relations, mother-in-law problems, marital infidelity... Xiao Lu did not solve the same problem in place.
His wife was waiting for delivery in the hospital, and he was lying on the couch drinking beer and chasing balls;
When Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child, he could not even find his figure;
After the child came out, Xiao Lu took the placenta to his mother for the first time to wrap the ravioli.
Watching the conflict between the wife and the sister-in-law, not only did not help solve the problem, but complained that the wife was too sensitive and deliberately looked for stubble.
Yinuo found that her mother-in-law went out to walk her baby and smoked, and Xiao Lu was "a peaceful person", and the two sides hid from each other, and finally the paper wrapper could not stop the fire.
In order to take good care of his daughter, Xiao Lu took his mother-in-law over him, and as a result, the two families quarreled over small matters.
Yinuo instructed him to buy crucian carp after work so that he could drink soup and milk. He bought a catfish. The bag broke, and he clumsily caught fish all the way.
Just like he carefully maintained the marriage, but did not know that he had done it wrong in the first place.
Xiao Lu ostensibly promised to give his wife and children a better material life, but behind the scenes, he and the client's daughter rubbed the gun.
When watching the drama, I was particularly distressed.
After a woman gives birth to a child for the first few years, she cannot do without the careful care of her husband. Just in October, I experienced morning sickness, puffiness, body aches... Enough to challenge patience and persistence.
The truth is the most touching part of this drama, such as Fang Yinuo's pregnancy state, the long shot of 3 minutes before the opening, which suddenly hit my heart.
She removed her makeup in the mirror, and the pregnancy spots on her face appeared little by little. Unsightly stretch marks, combined with bulging green tendons, crawled all over the pregnant belly. Because of her pregnancy, she had to accept the anxiety of her appearance, and her eyes also revealed a hint of helplessness and sadness.
It is difficult to imagine that there are domestic dramas that can show the true state of pregnant mothers.
There is also the production of the truth, Yinuo waited for nearly 20 hours, he was very anxious, and did not forget to comfort his family: "I am so big, can not give birth to him?" ”
Unexpectedly, the pain and struggle at the moment of giving birth to the child made her completely exhausted her entire energy.
When everyone surrounded the child, only Fang Yinuo's mother saw that she wanted to drink water when she entered the door, and she could also see that the mother's love was transmitted to each other.
Friends who are mothers around me are sighing after watching: "This drama is too dare to shoot", "At first I thought it was a marriage horror movie, but after watching it, I found that it was a marriage documentary".
Although it was a first-time mother, Ren Suxi hugged the child, nursed and slept at night, changed diapers, and quickly adapted to the role of a new mother.
When her daughter Hehe cried, her eyes immediately picked up, holding the child over and over again to soothe: "Cub, the mother is here." ”
Before going to bed, you must check the milk change notes written by your sister-in-law, and find that your sister-in-law secretly feeds milk powder to your child and stop it in time.
Compared with the "mother" role of the previous domestic drama, Ren Suxi finally has a "mother's taste" on him.
Unlike the mother played by Zhou Xun in "Xiao Min's Family", she will always look unfazed in the face of her son.
No matter what her son did, she just watched from a distance. Like the "fairy mother" with ten fingers that does not stick to the spring water of the sun, she is more like a sister and brother with her son.
On the other hand, Xiao Lu, during Fang Yinuo's confinement period, did not fulfill a little of her husband's responsibility. When he got home, he couldn't help at all. Most of the shots fall into bed and fall asleep, doing a hand-shaking treasurer.
The daughter cried late at night, and Yinuo "rubbed" up to coax the child, but he did not care at all, saying that "there is nothing to do to practice lung capacity";
The child has to change clothes when the diaper is not wet, and even the crawling clothes are not clear, and the clothes are all thrown on the bed;
Holding a bottle of water in the hospital, accidentally dropping the bottle on the ground, directly wiping it with your hands...
When the child had a high fever and was in urgent need of medical treatment, he did not even answer the phone. His attitude towards the child further exacerbated Yinuo's postpartum anxiety.
"Pig teammates" like Xiao Lu on the stall are tantamount to widowed parenting. From the time Yinuo was conceived in October to the time he gave birth to his daughter, it was as if he had embarked on a road of no return, and he was alone.
The whole plot is like a magnifying glass, illuminating reality clearly. Even netizens are anxious, and the bullet screen that floats is: I want to play Xiao Lu for Fang Yinuo...
Papi Sauce recently said in "Send a Hundred Girls Home": Men, in the matter of becoming a father, are not born, or need a lot of companionship to establish feelings.
The movie "Kim Ji-young in '82" has a similar plot.
The heroine, Jin Zhiying, was busy at home like a gyroscope. Taking care of daughters, washing dishes and cooking, wiping the floor, sorting out toys... Work until the ointment is applied to the wrist.
When I went to the hospital, the doctor actually asked: "Rice is made from a rice cooker, clothes are washed in a washing machine, why do you have hand pain?" ”
Even her husband felt that watching the children at home was a kind of "rest".
If you take stock of the hardest work in the world, new moms can at least rank in the top three.
24 hours a day around the child to change diapers, coax to sleep, countless times to eat and drink Lasa cycle back and forth. Sometimes mothers have to hold their children when they go to the bathroom. The hard work of bringing children far exceeds going to work.
Don't say "lying flat", even lying down is a luxury.
Jin Zhiying's only free time is to stand on the balcony and wait for the clothes in the washing machine to be washed and temporarily withdraw from trivial life.
Luo Zhenyu once complained on "Strange Story": "Dad is the most useless mother and baby product." For men, after the birth of a child, they are more often playing the role of "bystander".
No matter what Xiao Lu did, the result was a mess. He couldn't understand his wife, much less empathize. Big things are muddy, small things are muddy, and even my mother can't look at it.
The lives of Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo may be the epitome of countless families, and every detail is on the point, as if watching a documentary.
People who have actually experienced married life do not feel that it is amplifying anxiety, but have greater courage to face reality. It also allows every couple who are about to enter the marriage to understand in advance the problems they may encounter and the preparations they need to make for childbearing.
For the sake of children and families, the energy and price women pay behind their backs must be "seen" and understood.
Some female friends are not emotionally stable after childbirth, may be particularly sensitive, easy to cry, angry, this is not a pretense. This is mainly due to the rapid and sharp decline in postpartum hormones.
In addition, you have to endure postpartum incontinence, body shape... Which one doesn't torture people?
This particular period of marital crisis may also occur. Variety show "Spring Day Late Departure" has a female guest Liu Liqi, and her ex-husband cheated on her during pregnancy and lactation. She endured for 4 years in marriage for the sake of her children.
Some people say that Ren Suxi, as a mother, is too sensitive and anxious. The child is a piece of flesh that falls from the mother's body, and no matter how much you pay, you feel that it is far from enough.
Only people who have personally experienced the "collapse" with children understand it.
Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu are not without sweetness, and choosing to get married and have a baby also means that they both want to settle down.
It's just that the threshold for marriage is too low, too low to be almost impossible, as if everyone can easily step into it.
Only married and childbearing people know that running a marriage is actually a long-term career that requires high intelligence and high emotional intelligence, which is not simpler than work, and many people are neither prepared nor difficult to meet this requirement.
Xiao Lu worked very hard to earn money, and Fang Yinuo worked hard to manage the marriage relationship, and in essence, there was nothing wrong with it.
But after the birth of the child, the two people's worlds almost never intersected again, and they could not speak together. The two of them have become more and more angry since Xiao Lu's "thank you wife".
It is difficult for Xiao Lu to recognize his wife's dedication and value, and Fang Yinuo ignores Xiao Lu's emotions because he takes care of his daughter.
The housewife felt unfair, and the head of the family also felt that he was unwilling to sacrifice, and the appearance of Zhu Zhu accelerated the separation of the two people.
In fact, regardless of gender, division of labor, people responsible for housework and children should be treated equally; the party who earns money should not be easy to "bully" the other party by making money.
Because, the lover is not just the object of the first moon when the sweet time is spent, but the comrade who spends the second half of his life together.