People to middle age, if the opposite sex has these 4 behaviors for you, don't contact again!

Text/Wan Sheng Source: Gu-QingLin

I have seen a sentence: "Feelings, no matter whether they come first and come later, but they are divided into courtesies and shame." ”

Both men and women, since they have chosen to marry, it means responsibility and restraint.

Keeping the bottom line and not doing ambiguous things is the attitude that every married person should have.

Especially when getting along with other members of the opposite sex, we must maintain a good distance from each other, handle the relationship between each other, and not cross the line or be arrogant.

Even if the other party "actively approaches", you must remain vigilant, once the other party has the following four behaviors against you, don't contact again!

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WeChat is always looking for you

Like a person, what does it look like?

Japanese writer Ishida Izuyoshi gave the best answer:

"Having someone who can chat with me is more important than watching TV and eating. For example, if the weather is good today, I can tell him that the weather is good. If it's cold, I'll ask him to add a dress..."

If you like someone, you can't help but want to chat with them.

It's just that this like, given to the right person, is called sharing; giving it to the wrong person becomes a disturbance.

Just like a married person, if you often receive WeChat chats from other members of the opposite sex, whether they talk about love or not, they are suspected of ambiguity.

It may be a polite reply at first, but over time, it becomes a habit.

And once you get used to it, it is inevitable that you will be distracted.

At this time, it is the biggest "disturbance" to marriage and lovers.

Therefore, never treat friends of the opposite sex as the object of conversation, and keep the boundaries in your heart in order to protect your marriage.

-02-

Gifts are always given during the holidays

Giving gifts during the holidays has long become a way for lovers to express their love.

As the variety show "21 Days Before Marriage" said:

"Rituals remind us where we are coming from, where we are going, and who we love."

Therefore, when your friends of the opposite sex around you always make small surprises for you during the holidays, sending you small gifts in the name of "good friends".

You should pay attention to the fact that he or she probably already has a "heart to belong" to you.

If you can't stop the horse from the cliff in time at this time, you willfully follow along, and it will become a matter of time before you break through the bottom line.

Marriage requires fidelity, but also restraint.

Don't be confused by something insignificant, which is not only disgraceful, but also irresponsible.

-03-

Talk to you often

"From the day they complained to each other, the love between friends of the opposite sex began to stir."

I have always believed that this sentence makes a lot of sense.

If you don't have "special" feelings for you, who will tell you the secrets of their hearts without reservation?

It is precisely because I regard you as "my own person", so when I am bored, I will think of you for the first time, hoping to be comforted and accompanied.

Over time, the more we talk about it, the more speculative we talk, the more tacitly we talk, and the relationship begins to deteriorate.

If you don't want to play ambiguous and don't want to ruin your marriage, you have to know how to stop it from the beginning.

Normal care between friends is OK, but the boundaries that should be there should always be paid attention to.

Don't say ambiguous words, don't contact late at night, don't care too much...

Grasp the measure of getting along well, friends of the opposite sex can only add incense, not chaos.

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Think of ways to please

In this world, there is no unprovoked hatred, and there is no gratuitous goodness.

If a person often boos and greets you warmly, thinking of pleasing you, there must be a "plan" behind it.

It's not about your money, it's about your love.

As there is a saying: "The maintenance of the relationship between friends naturally requires mutual care, but everything is measured, too much, beyond the boundaries of care, it is easy to make this friendship not pure." ”

It's just that most of this "love" is a whim, and you really lose.

Not only will you lose your feelings, but you will also lose the trust of your marriage, and at that time, it will be too late to regret it.

Therefore, as a person, we must distinguish between the primary and secondary, know who is really good to you, and who is a temporary favor, in order to retain happiness and love for a long time.

"Affectionate, polite."

This sentence in the Book of Verses is the best advice for marriage.

After getting married and having a lover, if you encounter some "heartbeat" again, the best way is to stop here.

Don't forget, you have people you need to love and care for, and live the life you deserve.

Holding on to your own happiness is the beginning of a lifelong romance.

May you live to the fullest, love with all your heart, in a long and small life, no regrets, no debts, and more than worthy of encounters!

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* Author: Wan Sheng, Source: Gu Qinglin (ID: Gu-QingLin). Don't always come to Japan for a long time, the world looks back between people walking tea cold, every night at 9:30, I am here waiting for you!

* Anchor: Xiangyang, a literary and artistic youth whose three views are more positive than his facial features, and who is occasionally as tired as you but always looks sunny. NetEase Cloud Radio: Starry night to the sun, here is the warmest sound waiting for you.

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