The falling flowers are intentional, and the flowing water is merciless, but true love exists in your and my hearts
I don't know when it began, once it comes to marriage between couples, it seems that the bride price and the house are a hurdle that can never be crossed, and the quarrels between couples and even the situation of breaking up are innumerable, it seems that in each other's hearts, these worldly things are far more practical than the feelings of the two people.
However, for the current living conditions, a house almost exhausts all the savings of several generations of a family, plus the usual need for living expenses, so a house is almost equivalent to everything for a family.
01 Before marriage, after marriage, the wife asked to add a name
When Qin Hao just graduated, with the full support of his family, he finally had a house of his own in the city.
Moreover, in order to alleviate the pressure on Qin Hao, the family bought the house in full, and it is precisely because of this that the family and Qin Hao made it clear from the beginning that in the future, the dowry needed for Qin Hao to marry his daughter-in-law can only be prepared by himself, as a parent, there is almost no ability to help him.
Qin Hao is also very content, after all, as a parent, it is already very difficult to prepare a house for his children, as for the rest, Qin Hao can't bear his parents to work hard.
After having a house, Qin Hao had the idea of starting a family, so he found a matchmaker to introduce himself to a blind date.
Perhaps because of the house, Qin Hao's blind date road is also smooth, and soon, he met his crush YaoYao.
Yao Yao's family requirements are not low, in addition to asking for a house, plus 120,000 dowry can be, although Qin Hao himself has a house, but this 120,000 dowry is not a small amount, but looking at the beloved person next to him, he gritted his teeth and agreed to it.
When Qin Hao handed over the dowry to Yao Yao's parents, they accepted it with a smile on their faces, and this family affair naturally became.
On the wedding day, Qin Hao and Yao Yao also received many blessings from relatives and friends, and the two became husband and wife.
However, in Qin Hao's heart, there was always one thing that he was particularly dissatisfied with, that is, he gave Yao Yao's family a dowry of 120,000, but these dowries were all left in her mother's house, not to mention, even the dowry, it was only a few quilts.
This made Qin Hao feel very angry, feeling that his in-laws were not like marrying daughters, but looking for a golden turtle son-in-law.
However, Qin Hao's nest was more than that, and after three months of marriage with his wife, she suddenly proposed to add her name to the house.
02 The husband's questioning made the wife silent
YaoYao first mentioned that the house should be named when she and Qin Hao were married for three months, when Qin Hao did not give his wife a clear reply, after all, in Qin Hao's heart, although he loved his wife very much, but when he got married, his in-laws withheld the dowry, which made Qin Hao have more eyes, if the house added his wife's name at this time, in case something happened to his parents-in-law, I am afraid that he would not be able to say it clearly at that time.
So the matter was put on hold.
In fact, in Qin Hao's heart, there is a deeper reason, although he trusts his wife very much, but this house is after all prepared for himself by his parents before marriage, and even because of this, his parents exhausted their life savings in exchange for a stable residence, so he also held this mentality, so he was silent.
However, with the continuous communication between the husband and wife, when the marriage is full of infinite trivialities, Qin Hao has a new understanding of his wife, and he gradually finds that his wife seems to be "excessive" good to her mother's family.
Sometimes a phone call from the wife's mother's house, no matter what the wife is busy with, she will put down the matter in her hand and go to the mother's house at the first time.
And every time she would carry a lot of things back in large bags, and after a long time, not only her parents-in-law, but even Yaoyao, did not have any explanation for the original bride price.
Gradually, a different view arose in Qin Hao's mind. The cordiality between the husband and wife is also much less than before.
Until the last time, when his wife Yaoyao concealed Qin Hao's subsidy to her mother's family, the feelings between the husband and wife finally appeared a rift.
When YaoYao once again proposed that the house should add his own name, Qin Hao finally did not hold back.
Qin Hao said: You have said this request many times, and now I would like to ask you one thing, where did I go with the bride price in the first place.
When Yaoyao heard her husband's words, she felt very surprised: Bride price? The bride price was naturally left to my mother, and the right should be to honor her old man.
Hearing his wife's words, Qin Hao was not surprised, after all, the experience of living together for many years made Qin Hao deeply feel his wife's temper.
Qin Hao then said: Yes, to your mother, but the house was bought by me before marriage, and you did not contribute, so why add your name."
Yaoyao said: Because I am your wife." Qin Hao smiled a little: "Then I am still your husband, have you considered my family?"
Hearing this, Yaoyao was silent.
Yes, since getting married for such a long time, it has always been Yaoyao who is paying for her family, but her family has never helped Yaoyao and Qin Hao, a small family.
Seeing his wife's silent expression, Qin Hao was a little disappointed in his heart, he really couldn't figure out that the person he loved so much at the beginning would develop to such a point now.
Conclusion: For Yaoyao, it is a matter of reproach that she wants to add her own name to the house, after all, they are husband and wife, but she ignores one thing, that is, this house is her husband Qin Hao's pre-marriage house, and adding a name must have a premise, that is, she has enough to pay for this small family.
However, after getting married, YaoYao not only devoted herself to paying for her mother's family, but even the original bride price left in her mother's family also thought that this was a matter of course, as Qin Hao, how could she be willing to add her wife's name to the house.
Marriage itself is a mutual process, only by paying for the family with one heart and one mind, husband and wife working together, family life will become more harmonious.