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Love has sweet and bitter, feelings have a point, are normal things.
In a person's life, there are very few relationships that come to an end. There are many people who experience two to N relationships, or much more than people who experience one.
That is to say, feelings that are always difficult, while feelings that are often scattered often occur.
Why are feelings so hard to hold on to? If you are in love, why can't you stay together for a lifetime?
Someone gave the answer, saying that there are only four reasons why a relationship can fail. It still makes sense.
★ The three views are not similar
If two people walk together and the three views are not close, it is indeed difficult to maintain a relationship for a long time.
Even if it is because of love at the beginning, it is not enough to really live together with love. Love can be the most lasting, may also be the most "short-lived", its persistence and short-lived, lies in whether the three views of two people can be close.
To take the simplest example, such as two husband and wife, one is very patriotic, always feel that staying at home is the best; while the other likes foreign countries, always feel that only when they go abroad, they can show their ability.
This is the difference between the three views. Such feelings will not go to the end. In fact, many marriages break up, and one party wants to "go abroad" is also one of the important reasons.
★ Personalities are not similar
In many divorce cases, "personality incompatibility" has become the biggest reason for divorce, although this reason may not be true, but it is also relatively decent.
But in fact, two people with different personalities are really miserable living together.
Of course, there is also the saying of "complementary personalities", but often, the complementary feelings and marriages cannot be happy, just because one party is giving in and is tolerant. Although such a marriage can be maintained, the happiness cannot be so strong.
Two people with different personalities will only accelerate the rupture of feelings. For example, an introverted and stubborn personality, a rough and manic personality, how can two people be together, how can there be a peaceful life?
However, two people with exactly the same personality will not necessarily reach the end. For example, two people with introverted personalities sometimes deal with feelings coldly.
Therefore, whether it is similar personalities or complementary personalities, finding the most suitable for yourself is the best.
★ Identities are not equal
The unequality of identity is also one of the reasons why a relationship is failing. This is actually not difficult to understand, because people always have self-respect, are looked down upon, are looked down upon, and will always be the place where people are most inferior.
The party with a higher status will always stand on the top to look down on the other party. Looking down and looking up, only suitable for a while, for a long time, both necks will be tired, and they will want to turn their heads. This turn of the head, the feelings will come to an end.
We always say that equal marriage or relationship is the most stable, and this is the truth.
"It is difficult for a rich daughter-in-law" is because of the unequal identity of the two people. Things that are not equal and unbalanced are often not sustainable.
★ Not open-minded
The relationship between the feelings, the trivialities in the marriage, if there is no open-mindedness, it is difficult for two people to take a relationship to the end.
Why do you say marriage needs to be run? Management is to pay with the heart. Since it is a sacrifice, there will be sacrifice. And only an open-minded partner can do not be angry, not resentful, and not angry in the married life.
If both spouses can do this, the relationship will naturally be more stable.
Marriage is not the same as love, marriage may be the destination of love, it may also be the graveyard of love, as for what kind of ending, it is a test of the two people's minds.
Couples with love and a heart can naturally carry out their marriage to the end. And couples who are not open-minded enough, it is also normal for marriage to give up halfway.
Therefore, feelings or marriages are inevitable experiences in people's lives. If you want to have a complete experience, one should introspect oneself or in these areas.
With good feelings or marriages, people's lives are happy, on the contrary, the failure of feelings or marriages is actually a big blow to people. After all, happiness makes people upward, and pain makes people fall easily.