As parents, we all hope that the children we raise are smart, lively, healthy and healthy.
Behind every cute child is inseparable from the silent efforts of parents, so how to cultivate a child who is full of confidence in himself?
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Take your child's every moment seriously
"Mom, I'm thirsty", when the child asks for it but does not have free time to spare his own hand, also take the child's needs seriously.
Say that you are not free for the time being, wait and then pour water for the child, if it is directly rejected or ignore the needs of the child, it will make him lose confidence because he is not valued.
2
Respect your child's every choice
Let the child make decisions about the things that can be decided by the child, and parents should not always have the initiative, and should be appropriately relaxed for the child.
For example, do not make arrangements directly when going out, you can ask the child where he wants to go, if the child's brain has not turned around for a while and has no thoughts, you can also provide several options for the child to choose, which can increase the child's self-confidence.
3
Value your child's every commitment
Many times, as adults, we like to teach children to be honest and trustworthy, but more often, it is adults who do not keep their promises and set a bad example for children.
Therefore, when getting along with children in daily life, do not easily promise, once the promise must be fulfilled, this is to lead by example in the process of teaching children, even if it is really impossible to communicate with children to obtain forgiveness, can not be as an adult to suppress children, so that children will become rebellious, but also easy to doubt themselves.
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Don't always mention other people's children
"If other children can get full marks, why can't you", "The neighbor's son got three good students this month", "If you can have half of your cousin's understanding, I will be satisfied" and so on, and so on.
Are other people's children really that good? That is not necessarily true, but parents will habitually compare the advantages of others with the shortcomings of their own children, and they will naturally be dissatisfied.
But the child's world can not think of such a complicated, will only feel that the parents do not love themselves, prefer other people's sensible children, but they are not good anywhere, thus becoming inferior, no self-confidence.
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Let the child do what he can
"Help mom get something on the table, okay?"
This kind of simple and small things that children can do, said in a deliberative tone, often have better results.
On the one hand, children can feel that they are needed and that they are very important in this home.
On the other hand, children receive an equal tone of negotiation rather than a dead command, and they can feel that they are respected, and their confidence is greatly increased.
6
Give your child a little more tolerance
Children in the growth stage, learning things are relatively slow, may be the same action, adults as long as thirty seconds is good, but the child used five minutes are not good, at this time do not rush, do not urge, children slow to get started is a normal phenomenon, after all, many actions in the eyes of adults are very familiar, has formed a muscle memory, naturally very fast, but for children, or very strange.
If you urge, the effect presented may be counterproductive, the child's self-confidence will also be greatly hit, will feel that they are useless, such a small thing can not be done well, coupled with the next to the adult such a reference object, the psychological gap is even greater.
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Encourage your child to explore what they love
For children's interests and hobbies, parents should pay close attention to, because this is likely to affect the child's life. Children play with coke bottles, shoe boxes and other kinds of waste, do not arbitrarily stop him.
The child likes to explore what he is interested in, and if you stop his interest, it will dampen his confidence to explore.