In "Dear Child", Yinuo and Xiao Lu never see each other again after divorcing. Now that Hehe has leukemia, waiting for the bone marrow matching, Yinuo and Tianhua and Yinuo's parents have all gone to match, but unfortunately they have not passed. At this time, Yinuo had to turn to Xiao Xu for help, hoping that Xiao Xu would tell him that his brother had come to match.
Four years later, Yinuo and Xiao Lu met again, and when they saw Xiao Lu, Yinuo's fingers nervously circled in circles, and the two of them quarreled again. It can be seen that after four years, neither of them has let go of anyone in their hearts, and they are still in love with each other.
1, divorce is their impulsive choice
Although the appearance of Zhu Zhu at the first birthday feast of Hehe detonated the marriage of Yinuo and Xiao Lu, they decided to divorce because of impulsiveness rather than deliberation. Do you remember crying when they finished their divorce? They actually love each other, but they just don't know how to solve the problems in the marriage.
Hehe was born, and there were indeed many problems between them. In fact, this is very normal, because before you thought you could tolerate some things, but when the child is born, you suddenly feel that you can't stand it, so the child will amplify a lot of hidden contradictions in the marriage.
Yinuo sensitively captures these changes, but does not know how to solve them; Xiao Lu is a thick line, and he is not aware of the problems in his marriage. As a result, these cognitive asymmetries buried their contradictions more and more until Zhu Zhu appeared and completely detonated.
Yinuo did not intend to divorce at first, she wanted to give Xiao Lu a chance, but when she saw Xiao Lu send her back and turned to find Zhu Zhu, she completely collapsed and decided to divorce in a huff. In fact, she did not know that the two people met at that time just to completely break up.
After the two people finished the formalities, they had a big fight over the money. Arguing means that they still care about each other, and if they don't care, they will only hand over calmly.
If given a chance for them to do it all over again, they would definitely consider divorce seriously.
2, divorce banquet, is not left a way back
I believe that many people do not understand why Yinuo wants to invite everyone to dinner after divorce, not only invite friends, but also call Zhu Zhu over to witness it together. In fact, she is not gambling. After all, she is a teacher, and her character is not bad enough to retaliate against the "third party", not to mention that she did not retaliate against Zhu Zhu later.
She did this only to completely cut off her own back road.
In front of her friends, she decided not to see Xiao Lu again in her life, nor to let Xiao Lu see her children. Although she also knew that it was wrong to do so, there were children involved after all, and in order to break all the bonds between them, she made this decision.
During the meal, she was dissatisfied with Xiao Lu between her words, so that Xiao Lu could not get off the stage, but also to find a way back for Xiao Lu, hoping that he would never come to pestering himself again.
In the plot, we can also see that after this divorce banquet, they never met again. If it weren't for Hehe's illness, they probably wouldn't have seen each other again in this lifetime.
In front of everyone, he told the matter openly, but Yinuo did not want to leave a way back for himself. She knew that she still loved Xiao Lu in her heart, but she couldn't forgive Xiao Lu, which was why she was so fierce.
A man who has been wounded so badly that he would rather seal the wound than heal it. This is the innate "self-protection mechanism" of everyone. Because the past was too painful, Yinuo chose to forget.
Divorce is not that love disappears, but that love is all turned into hate.
3, remarriage, is their compromise with life
We can see that in fact, Yinuo does not want to marry Tianhua, and if it were not for Hehe, she would not even remarry again.
Once in a while, she saw Hehe's desire for her father, plus Tianhua was indeed a good father, so she agreed. But we also saw that after marriage, she did not want to have children for Tianhua.
There is a detail in the play, Tianhua's sister Xie Dan is uneven for her brother, at the dinner table, she directly questioned Yinuo: I feel a loss for my brother, a big and small guy, the first marriage, who is not good to marry you. He doesn't even have his own children, he raises children for you every day, and I feel sorry for him!
When she said this, Tianhua's parents didn't say anything, and even Tianhua didn't dissuade Xie Dan, which shows that in fact, they all vaguely hope in their hearts that Yinuo can give Birth to Tianhua a child.
Why wasn't Yinuo born? The deepest reason is still not enough love. Everything else is an excuse.
And Xiao Lu's attitude is also very ambiguous, he and Dong Fan have lived together for so long but have not mentioned marriage. He knew that Tianhua went to the old Hu Noodle Restaurant to drink after marrying Yinuo, and he was very lonely after every time he saw Hehe.
In fact, he still loves Yinuo in his heart, but unfortunately they can't turn back.
Although Yinuo and Xiao Lu both chose to remarry, in fact, they loved each other deeply in their hearts. But they could never go back, so they had to close the door of their hearts.
Four years later, when they said goodbye, their inner mood swings were still so big, especially Yinuo's small actions, Xiao Lu's expression, and various details showed that they still loved each other.
And the truth of the divorce was only because they didn't know how to solve their problems.