Xie Dan' evaluation of his younger brother Xie Tianhua is: The Receiver.
After Xie Tianhua married Fang Yinuo, Xie Dan said so bluntly:
Fang Yinuo, I don't like you, and I don't accept you. Why don't I accept you? Because I feel sorry for my brother. I don't think it's worth it for my brother. My brother is a big boy, he can't marry a girl, why does he have to marry you? He didn't even have his own children, and he raised children for others every day. Why, I feel sorry for him.
I'm not satisfied with what you do.
When Xie Dan said this again, the whole Xie family was silent. Silence represents identity.
Not to find a husband for yourself, but to find a father for your children.
Fang Yinuo married Xiao Lu because she loved Xiao Lu.
And Fang Yinuo married Xie Tianhua because: Xie Tianhua loved her, and Hehe needed a father.
Is there a detail in the play that Fang Yinuo loves Xie Tianhua?
No. All you can see is Xie Tianhua's unilateral efforts. When she was not divorced, when she needed it most, heavy rain poured down, and Xie Tianhua was by her side. When she was divorced and in a bad mood, Xie Tianhua asked her to play ball again and again to help her get out of the shadow of divorce.
And when she went to college, she didn't look up to Xie Tianhua. When she got divorced, she only regarded Xie Tianhua as a friend. Until Xie Tianhua confessed to her, she was not throbbing and unwilling.
When did she start wavering?
It was Hehe who was in the amusement park, calling out to the father of another child. At that time, Fang Yinuo was stinging. It is not that Fang Yinuo needs a husband physically and mentally, but that Hehe needs a father.
Because Hehe needed her father, she chose Xie Tianhua, who loved her.
As for whether she loves Xie Tianhua or not, this is a very sharp point in Fang Yinuo's body: since there is Hehe, the relationship between husband and wife is not the most important in Fang Yinuo's heart, and the parent-child relationship is. Her mentality is selfless for Hehe. However, for Xie Tianhua, it was selfish.
The conclusion of marriage should have originated from love, but in Fang Yinuo, the marriage was concluded because the child needed a father. If it weren't for the fact that Hehe needed his father and Xie Tianhua was pursuing everything, then Fang Yinuo might not have had a vision of marriage in this life.
A devastated marriage was enough to make her lose all confidence in getting married and having children.
And that's exactly what I have to write about: in a marriage, if a woman becomes the representative of "particularly virtuous", it means that her other half is likely to be extremely selfish. And when a man becomes a model of a "good man" in a marriage, it means that the woman around him may be extremely selfish.
In the marriage between Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo, Fang Yinuo is the one who "pays all", so Xiao Lu is selfish. In the marriage between Fang Yinuo and Xie Tianhua, Xie Tianhua is the one who "pays all", which also means that Fang Yinuo is selfish.
Parents' hearts are bitter.
The Xie family only had one son, Xie Tianhua.
And Xie Tianhua is not only the baby of his parents, but also the baby of his sister. The parents looked forward to half a lifetime, and the sister introduced one object after another, but Xie Tianhua had to marry Fang Yinuo, who was divorced and had children.
What is even more embarrassing is that Fang Yinuo is also the ex-wife of Xie Tianhua's best brother.
Receiver, friend's wife.
Which parent is willing to let the first-married son find a woman with such a complicated relationship. How the neighbors around them looked, and how Xie Tianhua's life would be spent in the future. What to say to your brother, how to be a qualified adoptive father.
Xie Tianhua willingly paid for Fang Yinuo, and Xie Tianhua's parents, even if they were unwilling in their hearts, had to show their goodwill for the sake of their son.
At this point, it shows the kindness and generosity of the Xie family. Except for a big sister with a knife mouth, all the people in the Xie family were excellent for Hehe and Fang Yinuo.
However, as a son, Xie Tianhua did not know the unwillingness and heartache of his parents? In his sister's noisy quarrels again and again, Xie Tianhua understood very well that everyone in his family had a thorn in their hearts.
Regardless of the good heart of the whole family for him, and the matter of marrying Fang Yinuo, as a man, the choice is the choice, there is no right or wrong. However, there will be shortcomings.
And what are the shortcomings?
A deficiency is an imperfect, regrettable part. Because he married Fang Yinuo, he broke the hearts of his parents and gave the Xie family a long-term disharmony.
Sister's hatred.
The first time Fang Yinuo arrived at Xie Tianhua's house, Xie Dan made a big fuss.
Normally speaking, if the man's family does not agree, the woman should not agree to this marriage: why let the family, for their own sake, the chicken and dog are restless. However, Fang Yinuo married Xie Tianhua when the Xie family was not satisfied.
This means two things, the first thing is that Fang Yinuo's situation in the in-laws' family will not be too good, and the other thing is that from the day they got married, Xie Tianhua has become the "sandwich cookie".
Here we want to mention Chen Xiaozheng in "To Youth", Zheng Wei loves him and is willing to follow him to suffer, but Lin Xiaozheng is unwilling.
He loves Zheng Wei, so he is not willing to let Zheng Wei suffer with him. At my age, you will know such a thing as", "I love you, so accept that you suffer with me" and "I love you, so I am reluctant to let you suffer with me", the latter is closer to love than the former.
In "To Youth", Lin Xiaozheng "gave up" Zheng Wei because of love, while In "Dear Child", Fang Yinuo "chose" Xie Tianhua because of life.
In Xie Dan's view, Fang Yinuo did not marry Xie Tianhua because he loved Xie Tianhua at all. The reason why she married Xie Tianhua was to find a good father for Hehe. I have to say that Xie Dan's vision is poisonous.
In Xie Dan's view, if Fang Yinuo was really good for her brother, he should not agree to Xie Tianhua's pursuit. However, when Fang Yinuo was in college, he did not look up to Xie Tianhua, and when she divorced with a child, he instead looked for Xie Tianhua as a receiver, which was a place that made Xie Dan very unwilling.
Originally, Xie Tianhua and Xie Dan were the closest brothers and sisters, but because of Fang Yinuo, there was also a barrier between Xie Tianhua and his sister Xie Dan.
The parents are not willing, the sisters and brothers are not harmonious, it is the reality that Xie Tianhua chose Fang Yinuo.
Daddy's dilemma.
It is difficult for the stepmother to be a stepmother, and it is also difficult to be a stepfather. It is even more difficult to be a stepfather to the biological daughter of the best brother.
Fang Yinuo did not allow Xiao Lu to see Hehe. What she thought was that from the day she married Xie Tianhua, Xie Tianhua was Hehe's only father and had nothing to do with Xiao Lu.
But Xiao Lu was Xie Tianhua's best brother, and Xie Tianhua did not want to lose this brother. Moreover, Fang Yinuo hoped that he was he the only father of Hehe. However, Xie Tianhua did not think so, he felt that Hehe should be close to his biological father Xiao Lu.
Therefore, Xie Tianhua secretly took Hehe out and reunited Xiao Lu and Hehe's father and daughter.
After Hehe was diagnosed with leukemia, Fang Yinuo divorced Xiao Lu. At this time, there was such a detail in the TV series: Fang Yinuo first mentioned the matter that Xie Tianhua took Hehe to secretly see Xiao Lu before mentioning the divorce.
Then she came to a conclusion about the matter:
I didn't want to blame you, I was very angry when I saw that list that day. But later I figured it out myself, after all, Hehe is not your own child, and there is no reason to bear these for others.
What does Fang Yinuo mean?
What she meant was that Xie Tianhua took Hehe to see Xiao Lu in order to make Hehe recognize his father, and Xie Tianhua himself did not want to be that father.
Xie Tianhua had done so much for Hehe, Fang Yinuo was in his eyes, but just because of this one thing, Fang Yinuo felt that Xie Tianhua did not regard Hehe as his own child.
This is also the most difficult point of the stepfather and the stepmother: you can only be better, the father and the mother are all right, but because you are the queen, there is a bad in a thousand kinds of good, you are the stepfather.
After that, Fang Yinuo began to cry and confess affectionately:
Today, Dr. Gao came to me, and he told me that it would cost a lot of money to cure the disease of Hehe, and it might be ruined. We Tianhua are a good person, and I don't want to cause you trouble. Let's leave, I can't live with you.
Does Fang Yinuo really want to divorce Xie Tianhua?
Not. She just felt guilty. She married Xie Tianhua, which had dragged Xie Tianhua down, and now Hehe had this disease again and needed to ruin his family. She knew that Xie Tianhua would not divorce her, let alone abandon her and Hehe at this juncture, and she knew that she was going to cause misfortune to Xie Tianhua again. Xie Tianhua was a good person, and she couldn't bear it. However, she knew that the more she was like this, the more Xie Tianhua would not leave her.
Sure enough, Xie Tianhua immediately stated that he was willing. Hearing Xie Tianhua's statement, Fang Yinuo leaned on Xie Tianhua's head, and finally under Xie Tianhua's appeasement, he ate the noodles with peace of mind.
In fact, from this moment on, Xie Tianhua's selfless payment was because of love, and Fang Yinuo allowed Xie Tianhua to pay such selflessly because he did not love enough. In fact, until now, I can't see where Fang Yinuo's love for Xie Tianhua is.
Dear little children.
In the movie "Dear Child", in order to save Hehe, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu re-established a relationship, preparing to regenerate a dear child to save Hehe, a dear child.
If in the TV series, there is also such a plot, then it means that Fang Yinuo can choose Xie Tianhua for Hehe, and he can give up Xie Tianhua for Hehe.
A mother can do anything for the sake of her children, which is excusable. But what is Xie Tianhua's stepfather?
Raise someone else's child, raise someone else's child, and then if it's weird enough, if this kind of thing happens again, raise someone else's child.
What's more, Xie Tianhua not only has a wife, he has Hehe, he also has parents, and once he goes bankrupt for Hehe, he is willing, so how will his parents live?
And after Xie Tianhua married Fang Yinuo, was he really happy?
Not really. Because of his combination with Fang Yinuo, it means that he has to continue to pay. Not only does he be very kind and constantly gives, but also his parents are required to be very kind and to keep giving.
Shedan is unwilling to accept this kind of "selfless giving", so she becomes a discordant member of the family.
If Xie Tianhua is the kindest and most selfless being, will Fang Yinuo fall in love with him in the end? Or, Xie Tianhua will be on the road to struggle for Fang Yinuo's love in this life.
Looking at Xie Tianhua's state after marriage, he was tired. This fatigue stems from the fact that he has given too much. And that effort will last a lifetime.
Should we sigh that this is Xie Tianhua's greatest selfless love, or should we think about what Fang Yinuo's woman has brought to Xie Tianhua?
If you have a younger brother and you have a son, would you like him to be Xie Tianhua?
When I was a child, I always had a natural reverence for good people, and when I grew up, I suddenly found that being a good person who was "particularly good and especially good" required this good person to pay "too much, too much". He loves others too much to love himself so much.
And my feelings for good people are suddenly not revered, and I suddenly see what is hidden behind good people: heartache, giving, and even sacrifice.
Watching Xie Tianhua in this drama, what I see is not love, but endless heartache.
May the good people have good rewards, but not the good people who are tortured and die of sorrow.