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On Jiangsu Satellite TV's "New Blind Date Conference", the Equation of the No. 1 male guest clearly stated that in his feelings, liking only accounts for 10%, and the most important thing is that they are "suitable" for each other.
It triggered a heated discussion among the female guests and the audience.
Equation, 30 years old, dance teacher at Shenyang Conservatory of Music; he said that like and fit cannot coexist, which is surprising.
Look at his mate selection criteria: height 164-170, age 24-30 years old, this standard is not low, combined with his amazing speech, and finally did not leave a light.
Zhang Jiani commented: First of all, we must like a person to consider whether he is suitable or not, and liking is the premise of appropriateness.
Maybe because the male guest is 30 years old, the family urges, he is under pressure and expresses wrongly, but like and suitable are not impossible to coexist.
The male guest's whole person presents an extremely calm, rational state, and his whole person is closed-loop, and no one should come near.
In the vcr, he said: often put other people's feelings first, their own feelings at the end, indicating that he is a person who likes to suppress his emotions, which means that it is difficult for others to enter his heart.
Only consider being together because one person is suitable, and only give your girlfriend 10% likes. It is very dangerous for a girl to be with such a boy.
Because the remaining 90% of his feelings may be used for other people.
It's like a guy who has 100 bucks in his hand, he only spends 10 bucks and has 90 bucks left, can you say he doesn't want to go shopping and buy something?
I don't like to do the foundation, just the conditions are appropriate, the future chai rice oil and salt, a little dispute in the relationship may hurt the bones, and the small wind and waves can't resist.
So girls must find a boy who really moves you.
Because he is really moved to love and give, he is willing to understand you, communicate with you, be willing to consider your feelings, and remember your preferences.
Maybe he wouldn't be very handsome and not very tall.
But he has you in his life plan, will face the unknown storms of life with you, have a desire to protect you, and do his best to give you and future generations a good life.
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The boy's reluctance to share this shows that he doesn't love you
1. Future planning without you
Chen Xiaozheng, the male protagonist in the movie "To Youth", said: "My life is a building that can only be built once, and I must make it extremely accurate, and there can be no one centimeter difference pool."
So, I was too nervous and afraid of making a mistake."
He was a widow, dependent on his mother since childhood, and worked hard and studied.
Others played, he studied, in order to go abroad, he gave up Zheng Wei, and the principal's daughter both went abroad, and abandoned the woman who helped him.
He thought about the future with Zheng Wei, but gave up at the beginning, he hesitated, this is a low-hanging fruit opportunity to go abroad.
Thinking of the difficulties of starting from scratch after graduation without a background, he hid his girlfriend and the principal's daughter and got the opportunity to go abroad.
Keep your girlfriend in the dark and don't tell her what you plan for the future.
At that time, Zheng Wei went to question Chen Xiaozheng: "You have never had me in your blueprint, maybe I am willing to suffer with you?" ”
Chen Xiaozheng said, "But I don't want to."
No matter what Chen Xiaozheng's original intention is, he does not want his girlfriend to suffer with him, or he is self-reliant.
They couldn't explain the fact that he didn't really love Zheng Wei enough, because his future didn't have Zheng Wei.
The boy who really loves you, there will be two people in the future planning.
Where to settle, where to get married, when to get married, whether to have children or not, if to have children, to have a few, he will have a preliminary plan.
Boys with plans don't necessarily love you, but boys who only have themselves in the plan certainly don't love you.
College class Hua Xiaoman made a tall and handsome boyfriend, and everyone said that he was a potential stock.
The boy told the girl that he was going to the United States as an exchange student, and others asked Xiao Man, what do you do when he is gone?
Little Man said wait for him, so when will he come back? Xiao Man didn't know, and didn't dare to ask.
In the end, Xiao Man found that he was not in his plan from beginning to end, and graduation was equivalent to falling out of love.
If she had understood the law in her relationship earlier, she might have spent a few years less in her youth.
Before entering a long-term relationship, be sure to confirm whether the other party has yourself in the plan, do not be overwhelmed by the so-called suitable and like, and pounce on it wholeheartedly.
If the other person's future plans are not you, then it is a short-term relationship cloaked in a long-term relationship.
According to the "Evolutionary Psychology", in order to successfully choose girls short-term, men will pretend to implement long-term mate selection strategies.
2. Short board avoid talking
Some girls think that the other party is too ambitious to climb high, the future planning is brilliant, without me to no avail, then I am low.
However, if it is too low, it is easy for the other party to conceal the shortcomings.
After getting married, Jenny quarreled with her husband, who blamed her for using the bonuses issued by the company to buy bags.
Jenny was aggrieved, why did she talk about me when she bought a bag with her own money?
As a result, the husband Xiao Shuai confessed that he borrowed 200,000 foreign debts in order to make up a bride price for her, and now the company's efficiency is not good, his salary is low, and he still expects the money made by Jenny to pay back the debt.
Jenny was so angry that she almost fainted, when she was in love, Xiao Shuai had the habit of swiping her credit card to tear down the east wall and make up for the west wall, when he said it didn't matter, he would handle it.
Xiao Shuai was very active in chasing her at the beginning, although the income was not high, but he was considerate and delicate to her, as long as she liked it, he would buy it for her, and sometimes he used a consumer loan to spend money when he did not have enough money.
Now that she found out that it was all debts, she was angry.
Xiao Shuai begged her forgiveness, saying that he did this because he loved her too much, and asked her not to leave him for the sake of the child.
Jenny's case is very typical, some boys because of their own shortcomings, did not confess before marriage, or said some serious problems in an understated tone.
There are also people who have genetic diseases that they do not tell, and after coaxing marriage, they tell the girls.
Someone who truly loves you won't put you at risk.
Some people hurt others in the name of love, and girls must not be deceived.
Premarital physical examinations can circumvent many major genetic disorders.
If you usually give people a condescending attitude, grumpy, and strong control, boys will instinctively want to lie and hide something to avoid being caught by girls and criticized.
And people who carry a lot of debt often like to enjoy, have a strong sense of vanity, good and bad work, and consume ahead.
If a boy has more than 3 credit cards, he should pay attention to his daily consumption habits.
In addition, we must pay attention not to find boys with poor conditions, as for loans to fall in love, it is not reliable to think about.
3. Reluctance to share thoughts and emotions
"The First Half of My Life" Chen Junsheng has been suppressing his emotions, and he has played the role of a good husband for 8 years.
Mrs. Luo Zijun has always thought that she lives a life that everyone envies, children are sensible, husband and wife are harmonious, such a life is what she wants.
She thought that staring at those charming young and beautiful girls could tie her husband's heart, and finally she did not expect the gutter to overturn the boat.
He Han said: "Don't think that around him are the young and beautiful vases at the front desk of the company, the vases are not aggressive, and the most dangerous is to live and live." ”
In the dialogue between Chen Junsheng and Ling Ling, Chen Junsheng said that Zijun is beautiful, but she is naïve and does not understand the world.
"I'm also a normal person, and I also need someone to share my stress and anxiety."
Emotions will not be eliminated by themselves, there must always be a port to release, Chen Junsheng finally chose to cheat On Ling Ling to solve the problem, creating more problems.
Cheating is wrong. But it is undeniable that he found emotional resonance in this unassuming girl.
If a boy is not willing to tell the girl what he is thinking, it means that the girl has not entered the depths of his heart, and it also shows that he does not love the girl deeply.
Most boys are not born to express themselves, and may lose their temper or use silence to digest emotions.
If the girl can understand him, understand his anxiety and insecurity, help him decompress, and communicate effectively, then you are a special existence for him.
I hope that every kind, brave, and confident girl can polish a pair of wise eyes, and the faster she leaves the wrong person, the faster she can find the right person, the hand of the son and the son with the old.
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