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As the saying goes: human feelings are greater than debts, and the pot is sold overhead.
The meaning of this sentence is that the debt of human feelings is greater than the debt of money, and the debt of human affection, even if it is smashed and sold iron, must be repaid.
In real life, people often issue such an exclamation: money and debt are easy to pay, and human feelings are difficult to repay.
Why is it difficult to return human feelings?
The reason why human feelings are difficult to return is because human feelings cannot be quantified and cannot be clearly marked.
In life, no one can do without human feelings, and no one can escape human feelings.
Because in essence, people are social animals, but also social animals, everyone needs to cooperate with each other, interdependence, in order to survive.
Where there are people, there will be humanity. The relationship between people is established in the human exchange of mutual help and mutual assistance.
There is a term in psychology called the "reciprocal reward effect". Simply put, it is to pay each other and help each other.
Healthy human relations require each other to achieve reciprocal remuneration through reasonable courtesy exchanges in terms of thoughts, emotions, behaviors, interests, etc.
But there are always some people, lack of a sense of boundaries, in the human exchanges, bottomless demand, resulting in unequal remuneration between the two sides, making it difficult to return the love, but also making the originally harmonious relationship, towards the rupture.
01. Owe a lot of affection to relatives
Netizen Lin You (pseudonym) has a relative who also lacks a sense of boundaries.
This relative belongs to her husband Yu Chen (pseudonym), and according to the generations, Yu Chen should call the other party a cousin.
Yu Chen once owed his cousin a lot of affection. Yu Chen was only 18 years old at the time, and shortly after the end of the college entrance examination, he received an acceptance letter from a 211 college.
However, the family was not happy for a long time, the father-in-law had an accident, fell into a coma for 5 days, woke up and lay in a hospital bed for more than 4 months.
The family's savings were all spent, Yu Chen was almost unable to go to college, and some relatives extended a helping hand, of which his cousin helped his family the most.
During the father-in-law's hospitalization, many things were handled by his cousin, and he worked hard to take care of his father-in-law at night, and he also took out 60,000 yuan to solve the urgent needs of his in-laws' family, and also let Yu Chen smoothly embark on the university journey.
At that time, for ordinary families, 60,000 yuan was not a small amount. Therefore, Yu Chen's family has always been grateful to their cousin.
After this ordeal, my father-in-law's luck also improved.
After the father-in-law recovered his health, he began to do some small business, made a little money, and paid off 60,000 yuan in less than three years, and the family's economic conditions gradually improved.
My uncle's family was in decline. The cousin has a son, that is, Yu Chen's cousin, who has a pompous personality, is very ambitious, and is bent on making money in big business.
The money in the cousin's family was almost hollowed out by the cousin, and once he urgently needed money, and he also pulled the father-in-law as a guarantee, and then the business failed, and the credit went bankrupt, resulting in the father-in-law also helping him pay back the money.
The cousin has a good reputation, and he spent two years to return the money to his father-in-law. The cousin had just paid it off, and the cousin was tossing and turning to open a shop, and he opened his mouth to borrow money from his father-in-law.
02. Relatives lack a sense of boundaries
At that time, Lin You and Yu Chen were in the stage of talking about marriage and would get married within a year. The father-in-law remembered the personal feelings he owed, and took out the money he was going to use for marriage and lent it to his cousin.
The cousin said that he would return the money before Yu Chen got married. However, it was not until Lin You's child was 5 years old that he paid off the money.
What made Lin You speechless the most was that the cousin first paid off other people's money, one by one, and finally returned it to his father-in-law, saying that it was because the relationship between the two families was better.
Not long ago, my cousin came to the door again.
The cousin has two children, the eldest is a girl, already in junior high school, and the second is a boy, just turned 4 years old. The purpose of my cousin's visit this time is to borrow a house for the second eldest to study.
Lin You and Yu Chen's house was bought in the main urban area, it is a school district house, there is the best experimental primary school in the city next to the community, and the cousin wants to settle the second oldest hukou in Lin You's school district house.
In the local area, it is necessary to settle down a year in advance to register for the nearest school, and it is also necessary to meet the requirements of "students in the same house, more than 6 years apart".
Lin You's daughter graduated from elementary school exactly two years later.
At that time, Lin You was not at home, and after the cousin told Yu Chen about his intentions, he made a request. He asked Yu Chen to join him, divorce the marriage, and then marry his cousin.
After getting married, you can transfer the hukou of the second eldest and the cousin to the school district room under Yu Chen's name, so that the operating cost is only a few hundred yuan, which can allow the second brother to enroll smoothly.
03. If there is a kind of relative, it should break off the relationship
Yu Chen was stunned.
After the reaction, Yu Chen told his cousin that Lin You was grumpy and grumpy, and such an operation was absolutely not feasible.
The cousin said that Yu Chen's mind was not active enough, just change the certificate, the others together as usual, and when the children entered school, everything returned to their original state.
Yu Chen still explicitly refused. The cousin had no choice but to change a plan, he asked Yu Chen to transfer the house to his name first, and then he transferred the house back after the child successfully enrolled.
The cousin was a little unwilling, saying that the house transfer would incur costs, although after two years of transferring the house back, the cost would be lower, but it would cost tens of thousands of dollars to come and go.
Yu Chentui said that he would discuss with Lin You, and then send his cousin away.
After Lin You returned and heard about this, she was angry and funny, her impression of her cousin was not good, and she directly said: "I dare to mention anything to you, and this kind of relative should break off relations." ”
Yu Chen was very helpless, sighed and said, "It is difficult to return human feelings." ”
That night, the cousin called to inquire, Yu Chen read the previous human feelings, hesitated and did not know how to answer, But Lin You did not care so much, grabbed the phone and directly refused.
04. In order to repay the favor, the husband wants to transfer the million school district houses to relatives
After two days, the cousin asked the cousin to come forward and talk to the in-laws.
After the in-laws were moved, they consulted with Lin You, and they thought that relatives should have helped each other, not to mention that they also owed a lot of affection to their cousins.
Lin Yu didn't understand very much, even if he was a big human being, he should be finished, right? A house of millions, transferred to the cousin, there is no guarantee at all, in case there is any mistake what to do?
The in-laws said that the cousin would sign an agreement when the time came...
Lin You felt that not to mention whether the private agreement had relevant effects, let's say that after the house was transferred three years after the transfer, what would happen in three years, who can predict?
Although the reputation of the cousin is good, he is old after all. The cousin's personality is obvious to all, and she has heard that the shop has closed down again, and she has been sleeping restlessly for the past three years after the house was transferred.
Ancients Cloud: The deep pool of ten thousand people will eventually have a bottom, and only people's hearts are immeasurable.
The world is unpredictable, people's hearts are unpredictable, and using large amounts of wealth to test human nature will eventually lose a complete defeat. Lin Yu was reluctant to take risks.
Yu Chen and gonggong felt that the grace of dripping water, when the spring repaid each other, owed human affection, always have to be repaid. Moreover, everyone is a relative, so they will not do such a disgraceful thing.
In "All Is Well", Su Mingyu faced the mess of his uncle's family and said a sentence: "What happened to relatives, can relatives do something wrong?" ”
Lin You also felt that what happened to human feelings, human feelings will never be finished? Is it possible to make wild demands based on human feelings?
This kind of relative who has no sense of boundaries should break off diplomatic relations, otherwise he will not know what kind of excessive demands will be put forward in the future, and will he have to cater to them every time?
Lin You and his in-laws held their own opinions and were deadlocked.
Do you think it is necessary to transfer the house to the other party in order to repay the favor?
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