In kindergarten, the main test for children is not IQ but emotional intelligence.
The development of a child's emotional intelligence will always be accompanied by the child's growth, even earlier than the development of IQ, and the development of emotional intelligence and IQ will not have any connection, just like many people with low education can live with ease.
However, for the perception of children's emotional intelligence, parents are usually hindsighted. Only after comparison in more groups of children can you experience something, and if you just interact with your own children, you will not notice it at all.
Many times, a child's low emotional intelligence is caused by the parents
Compared to IQ development, emotional intelligence becomes irrelevant
How many parents have the prejudice that as long as their children learn well, everything is fine. Learning is put first, everything else has to give way to learning, and the child's happiness index is also based on academic performance.
If the child's academic performance is good, the mistakes they make in life can be tolerated to a certain extent, even if they are related to the essence of the problem, they will still be forgiven.
On the contrary, as long as the child does not learn well, even if he has more shining points, he will be ignored. For example, when emotional intelligence and IQ conflict, parents will give priority to IQ.
Parents' emotional intelligence is not high, and they cannot educate children with high emotional intelligence
We all know that IQ is genetically inherited, and just as emotional intelligence is inherited. But often emotional intelligence is more affected by hearing and passing on words and deeds. In life, children imitate the behavior of their parents for growth and development.
In this way, the emotional intelligence requirements for parents are very high, if the parents' emotional intelligence itself is not high, too impulsive and unconsidered when dealing with some problems, the same is true for the children he has cultivated, which will not be satisfactory.
In addition, the standard for parents to measure their children's emotional intelligence is only themselves, when they encounter the same problem, their own way of dealing with it is the standard answer, and there is no idea of reflecting on themselves and learning from their children.
When a 4-year-old child goes to kindergarten, he is immediately seen by the teacher as having "low emotional intelligence", mainly because of these 3 performances
Can't play with other kids
In kindergarten education, the order requires children to obediently sit on small stools for a very limited time, and even some children in small and middle classes basically do not have such curriculum requirements.
Almost all the time is spent in edutainment, the teacher guides and guides the children to play games, and in a subtle way, conveys to them the things and truths that they always want to teach. It is only in this way that children can truly understand and accept.
But if the child cannot play harmoniously with other children, it means that the child's emotional intelligence is very low, put his own feelings first, and when he encounters conflicts of interest, he can only consider himself and will not care about others.
This usually occurs in one-child families, or in children who are brought up by their elders, who grow up in an environment that is too comfortable, the whole family revolves around him alone, and all his requirements can be met at the first time, without the need for them to make compromises and consider others.
Always lose your temper with the people around you
Another manifestation of low emotional intelligence is that you can't control your emotions. Many children will not properly handle the relationship between children when they first go to kindergarten, and it is very normal for some small frictions to occur.
However, this friction and embarrassment will decrease with the age of the child, the frequency of interaction between the child and other children, and even the child's growth is much faster than we think, as long as they have more contact, they can grasp the secret of communication between each other, which is the initial development of emotional intelligence.
In the same class, as soon as there are more children, the gap between them will become very obvious, excluding the child's poor learning ability and poor perception ability, just because they subjectively do not want to change, and the situation of messing things up is derived from low emotional intelligence.
I like to nickname other children
We can also meet a type of child who always likes to give nicknames to other children, such as because other children are short in stature, they are called people's small bean sprouts, and other children have meat on their faces, which is called people's meat buns.
Although it is said that children are unscrupulous, they will not think so in each other's hearts, after all, everyone is the same age, and they know each other what they think in their hearts.
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