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My cousin called to say that her daughter's sugar candy is very different, I asked what are the specific different places, she said: "She has recently been like the "general manager" of the family, the handle of the mug must be facing outwards, the chopsticks must be placed neatly when eating, and when the family takes off their shoes, they must let her see if they are neat... I lost my temper without a word, and I was about to be tortured crazy by her. ”
My cousin feels that Sugar Sugar is the smallest "patient" of obsessive-compulsive disorder, and if she does not teach, she will continue to "do" this way, and she does not want to play this "game" with her. I reassured my cousin and told her not to be emotional about the child, which every child has, only a lot more, no need to panic, no need to make a fuss.
The orderly sensitive period of the "little butler"
Sugar Sugar's act of "little housekeeper" has happened to my brother and sister during the 2-4 years old. I remember when my brother was 3 years old, there was a period of time every day because of the matter of closing the bedroom door with his family, he must close the door himself, if anyone accidentally closes the door, it will definitely provoke a howl from him. The gentleman did not understand his behavior at that time, so the father and son often got angry with each other.
In fact, the child's stubbornness, oil and salt do not enter, temper, the order and position of the items must be carried out according to their intentions, and love to idle, everything must be interfered with, etc., as long as the parents see the various annoying performances of the child, it means that they have entered the sensitive period of order.
After entering the sensitive period of order, those performances that make adults crazy are in line with the law of children's physical and mental development, and they form a sense of psychological order through the position and sequence of external objects, and once they are destroyed, there will be uneasiness, crying and other phenomena. Generally this situation begins at the age of 1, 2-3 years old is the peak period, and gradually changes after the age of 4.
The order-sensitive period is the process of learning
Montessori wrote in The Secrets of Childhood that a child of about 2 years old expresses this sensitivity to order in a silent way, and at this stage this sensitivity becomes their guide to action.
In fact, the sensitive period of order that makes parents collapse is exactly a process of children's learning.
1. Life skills
Girlfriend son Xiaoyuzi must brush his shoes when he is 3 years old, even if his mother brushes his shoes, he will also rub his shoes under the sofa after crying for more than 2 hours, and then wash them in the basin. Children will have a lot of this kind of behavior that makes adults cry and laugh during the sensitive period of order, and they are not in a hurry, just use this time to develop their life skills.
2. Abide by the rules
The development of the sensitive period of order is that children establish some "order" in their hearts, which is conducive to their better understanding and adaptation to the world. They abide by their own internal order, while helping children form an external order, such as crossing the street correctly, taking the subway to queue, not shouting loudly in public places, etc. The sensitive period of order is of great significance to the cognitive development of children.
3. Cultivate habits
I often hear some friends around me complain that children have not developed good habits, either eating and running around, or throwing toys on the ground at home. It is true that no good habits are a very headache, so to seize the sensitive period of children's order, this stage is the fastest time for them to learn skills, master skills, and improve cognitive ability, grasp this period, as long as the method is obtained, the effect is twice as effective.
Montessori said: The sense of order that children have is a great gift from nature to mankind, which prompts children not only to adapt to the environment, but also to find the most suitable way of life for themselves and guide their own growth.
In the sensitive period of order, please be kind to your child
In fact, many parents have no understanding of their children's sensitive period, and even some people do not know it. Not only missed a good time to raise children, but also always "rude" treatment of children at this stage, so, parents who see this article, if you have not missed the opportunity, be sure to do the following points, be good to your children!
The first point: respect and understanding of children
I have always felt that as a parent, I should adopt the six-word motto "more observation, less intervention" for the behavior of the child, when the child has a behavior, do not rush to make a conclusion, but observe for a period of time, so as to respect the child and understand the child.
If the child does something during the sensitive period of order that the adult does not understand and accidentally destroys his "order development", the child is allowed to vent his emotions and respect his actions.
Second point: don't scold children
In the sensitive stage of children, they may do a lot of "strange" things, and even become the "housekeeper" of the family, and they will decide where to put anything.
In the face of these behaviors, maintain a stable mood, do not be angry and scold the child, otherwise they will not be able to successfully pass the sensitive period, and there will be no rules to speak of in the future, which is difficult to discipline.
The third point: try to satisfy the child and create an orderly living environment
If the child makes his own request during the orderly sensitive period, as long as it is reasonable, parents try to satisfy the child. While complying with the development needs of children in sensitive periods, it also meets their "orderly wishes" that appear during orderly sensitive periods. Respect the order of the child's things and cooperate with it, create a warm family environment, and let the child make a smooth transition.
When in the sensitive period of order, the child will become a unreasonable "little villain", but this stage is the growth process that every child must go through, and parents must patiently accompany the child through this special thing. Respect the laws of natural development, proper guidance, children will become more excellent!
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
Educating children is not a simple thing, and it is not how effective it will be in the short term, but a long but always surprising process. So, don't worry about what your child does during the sensitive period of order, this is a good educational stage and should not be missed.
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