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Mother asked: Please ask the teacher, my child is currently 16 months old, after listening to Teacher Li's lecture, I feel that the child's sense of security is insufficient, because in infancy changed 3 rooms, changed three different beds. At present, children do not dare to explore, timid, and still refuse to walk. What to do? Are there any good suggestions? Thank you!
XiaoBa Answer: It is good to start consciously establishing a sense of security for children, and the curriculum can help us understand the child, but we don't have to take the course to put it on the child, and don't frame yourself.
Do not dare to explore, refuse to walk, not necessarily a lack of security, may be the child is walking late, climb more climb is also very good.
You can help him practice little by little, for example, when asking his mother to hold him, stop at a distance of two steps away from him and stretch out your arms to meet him, and slowly stop at a distance of three steps and five steps...
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Mom asked: Hello teacher, there is a problem that has been bothering me recently, please ask for advice.
Children for three and a half weeks, at the end of January this year, suddenly always deliberately speak inaccurately, such as "is not" said to be "times not times", "three years old" said to be "three drunk". In fact, his language development is very good, and he can clearly express and respond to ten days a week to kindergarten. It turned out that I thought it was a sensitive period for multilingual imitation at the age of three, because it happened after a week of going to my cousin's house in January, who had just learned to speak. But after leaving the environment, the problem became more and more serious.
Now my problem is: this is not a manifestation of the sensitive period of language imitation, what should I do.
Xiao Ba answered: Hello. Judging from your description, the child is imitating the cousin's pronunciation. Your cousin's pronunciation attracts your child's attention, and perhaps the way adults treat your baby because they love your baby when your cousin speaks like that.
After leaving your cousin's house and returning to your own home, this situation will continue for a while, but as long as the adults in your family are talking normally, and when the child deliberately speaks inaccurately, you still speak normally, do not criticize or correct his inaccurate behavior, but just let you all speak normally and give the child emotional attention in the daily life, it will be spent.
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Mom asked: Hello, Xiaoba, my son is 2 years old and 11 months old, playing in the Naughty Castle Ocean Pool last week, there is a machine that can blow up the ocean ball, there are three blow holes on it to blow small ocean balls, two children are playing, my son with a big ball (as big as a yoga ball) used to want to blow on the air hole, I have been holding the big ball to avoid hindering the blowing holes of other children.
Another kid pushed away my son's big ball and wouldn't let it go, my son was angry at the time, and when he saw that he was about to do it, I told him that when they finished playing, my mother put the big ball for you. Then the little friend left, and I put the big ball on it and my son tried it and left.
But my son took revenge, and when he saw the little friend who wouldn't let him play again, he rushed over to beat him, and said, "I'm going to beat him!" “
I took the child away and I said, "Are you so angry because the children won't let you play just now?" He said, "Yes."
I said, "Then you hit him and he'll hurt him." "Later, my son didn't say anything, and we left naughty castle to eat."
What I want to ask is that at this time, the child is angry and can't hit other children, how to help him resolve the anger in his heart?
Xiao Ba: You did a good job. When the anger in the child's heart is understood by you, it suddenly dissipates a lot.
When you are angry, you can't hit a child, what can you do? You can stomp your feet, you can hold a big ball and throw it hard in the direction of no one, you can cry, you can grit your teeth, you can say harsh words, and the most important thing is that you can be angry. Don't do anything for the time being, concentrate on getting angry for a while!
Xiaoba often thinks that if we can relax a little, we will be more flexible in dealing with children's "problems", but it is so easy to relax, anxiety is anxiety.
By the way, I would like to recommend a comic book, Father and Son, a masterpiece by the German humorist E.O. Plauen. The funny story of the naughty son and the bald father is full of innocent childlike love and harmonious joy, full of humor. My good friend, a 5-year-old girl who hasn't learned to read, recently asked to read this book every time she came to play with me, and giggled every time.
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