Author: Xuan Xiaolei
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In more than 20 episodes of "The Rest of Your Life Please Give More Advice", Gu Wei and Lin Zhi's school had a breakup.
The reason is that Gu Wei clashed with the patient's family in the hospital, was suspended, and was attacked by the Internet. When such a big thing happened, Gu Wei did not tell Lin Zhixue, so that when she took him to see his parents, his performance was very poor, which disappointed her parents.
Knowing the truth afterwards, Lin Zhixue was still very angry, angry that he didn't tell her such a big thing. However, from Gu Wei's point of view, he did not want to affect Lin Zhixue, who was preparing to go abroad.
After that, Lin Zhixue was unwilling to forgive him, but his heart was already painful, thinking that he would really be revoked from practicing as a doctor and go to the patient's family for him to intercede.
After Gu Wei saw it, he was greatly touched, and the two of them also released their previous suspicions and reconciled as before.
After experiencing such a thing, Gu Wei sighed and said, "I used to think that to love someone was to protect her and not let her suffer a little, but after seeing all this you did for me today, I understood that two people must support each other together in order to complete the rest of their lives." Growing up, my parents only taught me to take responsibility and not to cause trouble for others. But now I've found exceptions, because I've taken it as your own family..."
If he had understood this before, he would not have carried it himself, and even if he carried it, the key is to let the person he loves misunderstand, this kind of well-intentioned concealment seems to be his own responsibility, but the person who loves you will be hurt by this, and he will be very worried when he knows it.
Even if they can't help much, they can at least provide spiritual support and physical and mental companionship. After all, after falling in love, the lives of two people will also have a close connection, and it is normal to face everything together.
When Gu Wei saw that Lin Zhixue was "out of his head" for himself, he understood this, and because of this, he felt warm and received the strength from his lover, so he understood how important it was necessary and beautiful to support each other.
If you have a problem, just think about dealing with it yourself, to face it, don't let your lover know that it is difficult to follow in a hurry, it seems to be a kind of protection, but the premise is to be clear that your lover wants to know? This should respect each other's decisions.
If he knows that you have encountered a difficult problem and wants to escape, and is only willing to share happiness with you, not to suffer with you, then it is just a matter of taking this opportunity to see his sincerity, and he has no right to force the other party to face it with you.
But he wants to know everything about you, cares about everything about you, and is willing to help you, to stand firmly with you, and you have to accept his love, accept the support of this love. Otherwise he will hate you, he will feel that you have treated him as an outsider, not as a family.
After all, whoever encounters something in the family must face and solve it together, which is also the deep meaning of family and lovers.
George Bernard Shaw also said: "Home is the only place in the world where human shortcomings and failures are hidden, but also contain sweet love." ”
Lovers who love each other deeply are actually equivalent to their own families, if they are not sure how deep the other party's feelings for themselves are, it is easy to have Gu Wei's psychology and behavior, that is, they carry their own responsibilities when they have a problem, do not want to delay each other, and do not want the other party to suffer with themselves.
This is also a kind of love, but also an understandable psychology, and it is not selfish and willing to think about others. Just before doing so, confirm your lover's opinion.
Perhaps some people are also afraid that their lover cannot withstand the test, thinking that when they are mixed well, they can confidently fall in love with him, but their situation is not good, should they take the initiative to withdraw and not pull each other?
If you can think of it this way, you are actually a sensible and kind person. As long as it is someone who truly loves you, no matter what happens to you, it will not escape, but will stand firmly by your side, be your strength or backing, be your support or sunshine.
Just like lin zhixue's parents, the father is sick, and he is also a little afraid of affecting his wife and daughter, wanting to run away, wanting to bear it himself, not becoming a burden for his wife and daughter.
But if he really ran like that, his wife and daughter would not be at ease for the rest of their lives, nor would they be happy, and they would not be grateful to him. Because they are all people who truly love him wholeheartedly, are willing to bear and accept his misfortunes, and work hard with him to face and solve them.
So what Gu Wei envied, that is, this point, between lovers, one is willing to trouble you, one is willing to be troubled, this is the best proof of love.
Just like the reason why Lin Zhixue is so angry is because she doesn't love Gu Wei because of his good situation, but she also loves him when he is in a bad situation, and is willing to enjoy the sweetness of love with him, and is willing to go in and out with him, with the wind and rain.
And he hid himself, it was like a kind of "seeing outside" performance, so the anger was delayed, because he was too sad, like his love was questioned.
After Gu Wei understood this, he was also very relieved, the more Lin Zhixue was angry about this matter, the more it showed that she loved him very deeply. He understands this twist and turn, so he is willing to actively try to coax her and make her discouraged.
In short, when encountering such a situation, first confirm what your lover, partner or family members think and attitude.
If they don't love you enough, don't want to support you to help you, then you have to face and bear it yourself, don't blame them, each person has their own choices, maybe they usually don't behave well or don't love them enough, which leads to no one to support them when they encounter problems.
On the contrary, they love you very much, they will be very pleased with your timely warning, will be grateful that you have not hidden, and take the initiative to seek their support and encouragement, help and comfort.
Such a family is a truly loving family. After all, if you think about it from another position, no matter who encounters difficulties in a family, everyone else should bear and solve them together.
Otherwise, home will lose its meaning, of course, when lovers are not long together, it is understandable to have concerns, but after finding that the other party is willing to share happiness and hardship with themselves, this feeling is more solid and more accurate, which is a fortunate thing for people, and it is natural to cherish when encountered.