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1. Happiness is not obsession but mutual achievement
On July 20, some of the people trapped on Zhengzhou Metro Line 5 due to floods were rescued one after another, and they reported to their families with the little electricity left on their mobile phones.
One of the passengers, Lin Guo (pseudonym), thought he couldn't walk out of the subway station, when the subway tilted, and there were more than 1,000 people on the train. The water level of the carriage where Lin Guo was located rose higher and higher, and finally the water level outside the carriage also rose to the neck, and the oxygen was immediately exhausted. At this moment, she sent a text message to a friend "You must be happy in the future", and then broke off the connection.
Fortunately, rescue personnel arrived in time, and Lin Guo and other passengers turned the corner.
Perhaps at the moment of life and death, we will understand what happiness is, it is not obsession, but humility, tolerance, and empathy. It is not only couples who can achieve happiness for each other, but also between parents and children.
Xiaoting's letter explained to us that she and her husband have been achieving the happiness of their in-laws' family, but they have not received half a return from each other. And the obsession of "repaying the original family" in the husband's heart makes their little family in jeopardy.
2. "My nephew's birthday, red envelopes to 20,000" Phoenix man returned to his hometown to help the poor, and his wife made it difficult for him to return home
Xiaoting is a rural girl, she has an independent personality, works hard, and is admitted to a key university with excellent results. Although her parents did not read much, they were very sensible, and felt that girls were born with little strength and should arm themselves with knowledge, so they never skimped on their daughter's education investment.
Not only that, Xiaoting's parents also know how not to drag their daughters down in life, and those who can help their daughters will try their best to help.
Ari is also from the countryside, and he carries the hope of his family and is admitted to Xiaoting's key university with the first place in the province. Because of poverty, Ari knew from a very young age that his parents were not easy, his father had to work far away in order to earn money, and his mother worked hard every day to take care of him and his brother.
When Ari grew up, he told himself that he must get ahead and repay his parents in the future. In the eyes of others, he is a hard-working and self-motivated phoenix man.
In the same place, at the right time, Xiaoting and Ari met. The two have similar family backgrounds and know how to work hard, so there are many common topics. Gradually, they both developed a good feeling for each other, and then established a romantic relationship.
Xiaoting and Ari worked for two years after graduation to get married in advance, in order to reduce the burden on the family, they borrowed some money from their classmates to pay the down payment of the house. Xiaoting's parents gave them 100,000 yuan and wanted to help their children repay the loan as soon as possible. The Ari family did not show any expression, but felt that their son was sensible and that it was appropriate to do so.
After getting married, in addition to repaying the loan, the two people's monthly salary also has to save a part to return to the classmates. In addition, no matter how tight Ari's life is, he has to send 1,000 yuan to his home. Xiao Ting did not understand, felt that the two in the city life to pick a big fee, but also to pay off the debt, and then take out the 1,000 pieces of real burden is too heavy, so and Ari said can not send first, wait for the two people to have enough money to send.
Ari said that he must send it, "Do you know how difficult it is for our family to provide for me to go to college?" My brother even gave up the opportunity to go to school for me." Every time he talks about this, Ari is a non-negotiable look, and it can be seen from his expression that even if he has wronged his own little family, he cannot let his parents and brother be wronged in the slightest.
Xiaoting was helpless, her parents also reduced their food and clothing in order to provide her with schooling, and after giving them 100,000 yuan, the two old people were even more left. But the second elder did not want his daughter to be looked down upon, so he would always go all out.
The days of sending money to her mother-in-law's family were two years, and Xiaoting often thought differently, thinking that it was not unreasonable for Ari to think like that. But her tolerance did not exchange for Ari's understanding, but more unscrupulous.
Ari's younger brother married early and soon had children. Ari himself has no children, and seeing his brother give birth to a big white and fat nephew, he feels extremely kind.
When his nephew celebrated his first birthday, Ari felt that he had a little more money in the past two years, so he must give his nephew a big gift. One day, he asked Xiaoting to take 20,000 yuan and said, "My nephew's birthday, red envelopes to 20,000." Xiaoting thought that she had heard it wrong and asked why? Ari repeated the contributions of his parents and brother to the family. Xiaoting was already tired, saying that although she was now a little more generous, all kinds of debts had not been paid off, and the people in the city had never seen such a large red envelope on their birthdays, let alone in the village.
Ari was resolute again, and Xiaoting decided not to be patient anymore. When Ari returned to her hometown, she let the classmates who had lent her money move in, and told her classmates that they did not want money to live here, and they could live until the debts she owed were paid off. Xiaoting herself found a cheap place to live.
When Ari returned, he was angry and annoyed, but there was nothing he could do. Insisting on going his own way, he eventually ended up with a hard time getting home, and he couldn't understand where he was wrong. Perhaps from the moment his parents thought he should give the most to his original family, it was decided that he would have come to this point.
3. Don't let the word "filial piety" become a stumbling block to the happiness of the small family
Xiaoting's parents agreed to this marriage, presumably because they felt that the man was not only excellent, but also from the countryside, and the two families were right, which was very appropriate. But what they did not expect was that the family influence that Ari had received since childhood had become a hidden danger in the future.
It can be seen from Xiaoting's letter that Ari's parents did not pay their son to buy a house, believing that it was their son's filial piety and did not consider their son's situation at that time. In the eyes of these two old men, the son should do this. When a child grows up and has a career, he should return to his parents at the first time, even if he has difficulties, he must also take the word "filial piety" first.
As a phoenix man, Ari did not clarify the priorities in handling family affairs, feeling that his wife was important, but not as important as the original family.
Xiaoting's parents are different, they always think about things from the perspective of their children. Xiaoting is not ignorant of filial piety, but she does not have to carry such a heavy family burden on her way, she can go faster and can better feed back.
Two families, two kinds of family edification, the children who have cultivated their understanding of the word "filial piety" are also completely different. When people always use one-sided moral standards to measure whether children are filial piety, it also depends on whether the old people's practices hinder the happiness of children. After all, a win-win situation can only be achieved if both sides are considering each other.
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