At present, nibbling on the old has always been a hot issue, and the tricks of nibbling on the old are even more varied, one of which is what many young people are doing now, that is, not only consumes the economic wealth of the elders, but also consumes the human resources of the elderly, and even organizes groups to nibble on the old.
Case: Nibbling on the old man to bite out of the "new height", a family of five groups nibbled on the old, and four old people shouted "can't stand it"
Aunt Wang gave birth to a man and a woman, now the children have set up their own small family, Aunt Wang and her husband are living with their sons, the husband was previously in business, so there is a little savings, the daughter-in-law gave birth to three children, did not go out to work, at home with children, the son is a casual worker, often look at the mood to work, can not make much money a month, many times rely on the subsidies of parents, otherwise they can not afford to support their own small family.
Such a large number of people all rely on the only little savings, sooner or later have to eat short, Aunt Wang and her husband repeatedly persuaded their sons, but it is useless,
Basically, it can be said that now the son and daughter-in-law and three children, a family of five group to eat the old, Aunt Wang and her husband also have to help the husband and wife with children
。 Not only that, it is not only Aunt Wang and her husband who are involved, they often go back to their mother's house, in the words of their young people, the two families live in a different place, so that they can also let each other rest and rest, which is enough to see that Aunt Wang's son does not realize that there is something wrong with his behavior.
Although the family only gave birth to a daughter, it is an one-child family, but it can not stand the "interference" of a family of five every once in a while, and the three children are also very naughty because they are not well disciplined, and they often quarrel, which is really helpless. This also makes the four old people shout "can't stand it", and pay and contribute, who can stand it.
02 The current nibbling on the old new fashion: group to nibble on the old
Maybe everyone has noticed that there are many young people who have this situation now, and relatively speaking, it is still relatively natural, handing over the children to the elderly to bring, they are not willing to go out to work at home, usually eat and live in the old people's homes, and they do not feel any problems at all.
Compared with
At present, more forms of young people go to work, give the children to the elderly at home to bring, and the elderly are also responsible for the three meals of the young parents
。 It can be said that most families are now so maintained, I have to say that the life pressure of young parents is greater now, especially the generation of young parents after 90, not only have mortgages, but also car loans, while there are old, under the small, some may even be a young couple to raise four to eight elderly people,
These pressures are overwhelming for young parents.
In view of this situation, young parents have to go out to work, and children have no conditions to ask someone to bring them, so they can only be handed over to the elderly to bring, which is understandable. But it should be noted that if young parents are under such pressure,
Directly choose to rely on parents, rely on parents to help their own small families,
Then this situation needs to be criticized.
There are not a few cases of grouping to eat the old, and even many people who are young do not know themselves and do not feel that there is any problem. After all, the old people are not willing to see their children suffer, and they can only help with their scalps, and even if they are bitter, they can only swallow in their stomachs.
We can often see that the elderly are still doing some hard work after the age of seventy, in order to help the children reduce the burden. If you observe their families, you will often find that most of the children raised by such families have no sense of responsibility and self-motivation.
Usually, they are basically in a state of getting by and living, thinking that there are still parents who can help them maintain their lives, or share some of the pressure.
Without the slightest hesitation, the age of the parents is already so old, how many people can live to the age of 80? After a lifetime of hard work, the result is that the last part of life still has to stick to work, and the child himself has nothing to pay.
Parents may have meant to reduce the stress on their children, just for the sake of their children. As everyone knows, this parenting model from childhood to adulthood is to make the child worse and worse, not only did not learn to be grateful and take responsibility, but also ruined the child's future, in the future, after the parents are gone, how should the children go? Have parents considered this?
Therefore, it is still hoped that parents will resolutely refuse in the face of their children's old-age behavior, rather than choosing patience again and again. Now the parents' heartache and concessions are slowly pushing the child to a deeper abyss, and the waiting for the child may be endless torture.
Here we also remind young parents that in fact, leaving their children to their parents to bring is a consideration forced by the pressure of reality, but it does not mean that they can completely let go. After all, educating children is the responsibility of parents, not the responsibility of the elderly, and usually we must do a good job of communication with the elderly, rather than pushing the responsibility to the elderly once the children have any problems.