Recently, a video of a man lying for 5 hours and being sewn on the sofa by his wife caused heated discussion among netizens. After the video was exposed, it quickly appeared on Weibo's hot search.
On April 6, Ms. Wei Hairong took advantage of her husband's sleep on the sofa and sewed her clothes and the sofa together with needle and thread. Ms. Rong said that he lay on the sofa for more than 5 hours and did not play with himself and his children.
The more he thought about it, the more angry he was, so he sewed his legs and half of his body on the sofa while he was asleep, and when he sewed it, it was quite decompressed, and the child still applied nail art on his hand, and the husband woke up and laughed after he found himself sewn up.
In fact, this is an embarrassing incident encountered by a mother, and in the comment area, we can also see a large number of women who have become mothers complaining. What is complained about is the widowed education that appears in the family after the children are born. This weibo is actually a warning to our men that for our lovers and children, we should spend more time paying attention, not to let our lovers fall into depression, and not to let our children live in a "widowed education" environment. In the comment area of Weibo, 99% of them are women speaking out, and more than half of them talk about "widowed education". Why is widowhood education present? What should parents do? 1. What is widowhood education? Widowed education is an exhibition that gradually develops with the development of the times, is a compound word, the child's education should be decided by both parents together, joint education; but widowed education refers to the lack of education in the process of children's education, both parents have one side of the education. At present, it is a very common phenomenon, that is, the lack of father role in the education of children in the family. The child's education is only borne by the mother, which is widowed education. In fact, widowhood education does not only exist in families where both spouses are divorced for some reason or where one of the spouses has passed away. Widowhood education actually exists in the homes of many people, especially the families with 996 work habits that were hung on the hot search version on Weibo before, in fact, there are many people on such working days, especially for some IT and engineering design people, it is commonplace. In the face of such a husband and wife, it is always like this, and the education of the child is bound to be missing. In the morning, when we get up, we may meet with our children in a hurry, and even before the children get up, our host will go out to squeeze the subway and wait for work, and when we come back from work, our young children can already fall asleep in the arms of their parents. Day after day, year after year, our children will gradually be far away from us and will gradually make our children's education gradually in a mournful state of parenting. Second, why widowhood education appears 1. The family is not rich, but want to give the child a better education in the court, there is always a top pillar, and this top pillar is generally a man, generally the father of the child, and not all the people who work in the city are rich, for most families, life is relatively poor, especially in the big city to survive. The company's superiors once said to us when they were young, she had given up 4 jobs and devoted herself to being a housewife in the family and educating the children, and the burden of life at that time was on the child's father. The leader said that when his husband was there, he slept really hard, leaving early and returning late, but later found that this lacked the education of the child, and the child gradually became less fond of talking to him. Later, the child's father reflected on himself, and after consulting with the child's mother, he let the parents at home take the child, and then the couple went out to work, but they had to reduce the workload and try to take as much time as possible to accompany the child, after all, the child is the most important thing for them. In fact, the reason why widowhood education will occur in the beginning is that the child's father wants to give the child a better education, and the no home conditions are not generous, only the cake comes out early and returns late. Another reason for the emergence of parental discord and widow-style education is the discord between the feelings of both parents, although living under the same roof, but the feelings of two people are not harmonious, one party is even lazy to preach to the child, or the two people are not uniform in their education methods for the child, so that the child even has a fear of one party. Therefore, the discord between parents is also an important reason why our children may face "widowed education". 3． Father neglects to discipline the child In fact, for all fathers, not every family in the child his father is always very good at how to teach his children, many fathers will not see will not express, not to mention if it is a daughter, as a father is more of a love is too late, lack of consideration for the child's education, the child's companionship. And this star Huang Lei did a very good job, he never absent from the growth of his daughter, even if there is a drama performance, he will also discuss with his wife, and the husband and wife will take the child to the performance site to see the performance. And their family's education is not the so-called tiger father and wolf mother, but a very equal and harmonious relationship. It is because both husband and wife know how to discipline their children, so even if they are obviously busy with work, they will not have a "widowed education" situation in his family. Third, the harm of widowed education to children If children live in the environment of "widowed education" for a long time, it is bound to have a very large impact on children. 1. Children will be more cowardly children who grow up in a family, if the lack of education in the role of father, it is bound to lead to our children becoming very cowardly in the future growth path, and they will choose to escape when encountering things, and will not face the difficulties as bravely as other normal children. Therefore, children who grow up in the "widowed education" environment will be more physically and mentally fragile, which is the harm brought to our children by this lack of education. 2. Children will be insecure Children who have been in "widowed education" for a long time will be very insecure, especially girls, and when they grow up, you will find that she is a very insecure person. A person does not dare to go out when it is dark, needs someone to accompany him whenever he goes, and does not dare to do anything alone. This is why the hearts of children who have been in widowhood education for a long time will be more fragile than other children, and they will need to be protected. 3. Children who have been in a widowed education environment for a long time will have a very different concept of marriage from other children. They demand more from their other half to give themselves a sense of security, while at the other extreme it seems that it doesn't matter if they have another half, and even having another half will make their lives worse. I am afraid that my children will be in the same environment of "widowed education" as myself. 4. What should parents do? 1. If we marry and have children with family as the most important thing, both of our parents should focus on the family, not one party on the family and the other on the career, and the final result will only lead to less and less topics for two people to talk about. The degree of intimacy of children to their parents is also very different. Career is important, but in order for our children to develop better in the future, we still have to carry out the focus of the family's center of gravity and then carry out my focus. Don't let your child's growth fall prey to our career-focused excuses. 2. Take more time to accompany children Children children Want our parents to have two children, so our parents must take more time to accompany our children, communicate and communicate with our children, and let our children get along with us. In the evening, I left work from Hunan Qifa Culture Media Co., Ltd. and rushed home quickly, just to get along with my children for a while. On weekends, we have free time to accompany children to go out and play, visit parks, museums, etc., and at the same time, we must pay attention to children's education problems and let children develop good habits from an early age. The above reasons, in fact, a large part of it is caused by our father, so ah, the child's father, please remember that the child's education, you can not be absent.