Two days ago, relatives brought a parent to look for me, saying that the child was playing at home and did not like to learn, and wanted the child to come to our custody to try, chatted with the parents for a while, and learned about the situation of the child at home. The child is still relatively well-behaved, but the parents are school bully, but the child is always very lazy, do not want to read, do not want to learn, slowly learning also began to regress, the mother is a little anxious: "Specially arranged for him a study, the books in the study are bought for him, there are many inspirational, just want the child to be a little self-motivated, but he does not even turn over." ”
In fact, when the child is young, the self-control is not good enough, the self-consciousness is not strong enough, if the child is alone in the bedroom or study to write homework, reading, the overall environment is relatively quiet, but the child sometimes feel bored, will secretly play up, toys, phone watches, tablets, etc., will attract children. Even sometimes the child is too quiet in the study, the parents are watching TV outside, talking will interfere with the child, so involuntarily wandering.
In such an environment, it is difficult for children to concentrate on writing homework or reading books, and it will of course be difficult to become a bully, but if when the child is learning, the parents read books or work around the child, then the parents will become the child's role model, and the child will be influenced by the parents and begin to concentrate on learning.
If you want to make your child a bully, it is also very important to cultivate reading habits, and we will have good habit classes every day in custody, including reading for ten minutes, so that children can use correct reading methods to improve their basic language skills and cultivate good reading habits. At home, parents can also make a reading plan, fixed the same time every day for reading time, the whole family sits together to read, children especially like the feeling of doing one thing together, and then in such an environment, as long as parents do not give up learning and reading at will, children will also imitate their parents and slowly like to read. This time can be arranged after dinner, when the whole family has time, half an hour can be, children can choose the book they are interested in reading, after the reading time, you can also communicate with each other, talk about today's reading experience.
Usually, parents can also tell their children about their own active efforts and serious reading deeds, talk about what kind of affirmation they received when they went to school, what kind of honors they have received because of their efforts, and then talk about why they have to use their spare time to continue to learn now that they are at work. Establish a positive image for children and help children establish a correct outlook on life, which paves the way for children to learn to dominate.