The subject said: "My daughter is in the city's best high school provincial key study, the idea is very positive, rebellious very much, parents can not discipline, often run away from home, I thought that she was admitted to college, but more than a thousand people in the whole grade dropped out of school and went home, all day in addition to eating, drinking and sleeping is playing with mobile phones, more than two months, but also said to rest for a few months to go out to work, other people's children work hard for their future every day, and my children are squandering their youth every day, and we parents have no other way but to persuade each other. But she took our words as a deaf ear, please ask you, can such a child still be saved? ”
Seeing the description of the subject, I would like to say that it is impossible for such a child to try to change by reasoning and preaching, and with her state and mentality, no kind of words will enter her heart, and she will not accept any kind of reason.
As a parent, in the face of the status quo, adjusting your mentality and responding correctly may find a way out.
Don't pour chicken soup, to save this child to give you a few tips:
First, don't do any communication with her for the time being, how she loves, completely let her go, temporarily ignore, ignore, do not communicate, is the best strategy.
Second, parents must adjust their mentality, what to do, three meals a day, work to do things, complete normalization, she loves to eat, do not eat and pull down, do not call, do not say, do not complain, do not say, do not talk, completely when she is not at home. I can guarantee that within ten days she will not be able to hold back, will consciously go to her parents, will consciously say her thoughts.
Third, remember that the more you pay attention to her, the more you care about her, the more you want to change her, the more you want to tell her your views and reasons, the more she will reject and resist, which is still much more than grasping the sand, the tighter you grasp the more you miss.
Fourth, cold treatment and cold is the best way, wait until she takes the initiative to talk to her parents, everything has the possibility of turning around.
Fifth, until she opens her mouth, she stops sleeping and playing with her mobile phone, even if it is cool for half a year, a year, it is also cold. Until she really can't support it, feels that sleeping and playing with mobile phones every day is not interesting, is willing to take the initiative to come out, and is willing to take the initiative to talk with parents.
Sixth, if the child is willing to take the initiative to talk with the parents, at this time the parents must not be eager to express their views, the attitude must be lukewarm, less speech, more listening, listen to what she wants to say, what views she wants to express, what kind of ideas she has, and then make her position targeted.
To educate such a rebellious child, parents have to change their concepts and look at the problem with a normal heart, and studying for examinations is not necessarily the only way out for children.
As long as the child can take life seriously with a normal attitude and mentality, she is willing to go out to work, or is willing to go out to do things, boldly let him do it, vigorously support her to do it, or vigorously guide her to go out to do things, only let her go out to do things, everything is easy to do, so as to really change her.
As long as she goes out to do things, then she will truly understand the sophistication of people and the hard work of making money, will truly understand and understand her parents, and will truly learn to be independent and self-survival.