The post-80s and post-90s are the main body of marriage and childbearing now, but their marriage and childbearing age is constantly postponed, and many people postpone the childbearing age to after the age of 30.
And the more economically developed the city, the older people are to marry and have children.
Many of my friends, including me, have had babies late, and most of them regret it now.
When people reach middle age, they are still in elementary school, and every day they are chickens and dogs jump.
I often think back to when I first got married, and my mother often told me that I should have a baby early, and I should listen to it all.
I told her that the pressure of raising a baby is too much now, and now we have no foundation, what to take to raise a baby?
So after a year of dragging on, I finally got the house and the car, and 7 years have passed unconsciously.
At the age of 31, she began to prepare for pregnancy and gave birth to a baby at the age of 33.
Entering the age of 40, the child just entered the first grade of primary school, originally thought that after surviving the first 6 years, he could breathe a sigh of relief, but he did not expect that the primary school was the first level to upgrade the monster, and the first 6 years were just warm-up exercises.
In the first grade of primary school, my son did look at pictures and write words, half a day could not squeeze out a sentence, more than 10 words can be written wrong two or three, let him change and change, he cried a lot, I was angry and beat my chest.
Next, focusing on learning habits, sitting posture, cultivating reading habits, and cooperating with the completion of various parent-child homework assigned by teachers, parenting invests more and more time and energy.
And just when I thought I was slowly adapting to this intensity, my parents' bodies began to have problems.
My father was sick and hospitalized for more than a week, so I had to take time off to take care of it and leave my mother at home to look after the children.
I guarded my father in the hospital, curled up in the bed chair of the hospital at night, how could not sleep, thinking that the child still has more than ten years to be independent, I can't help but be a little scared, feel very regretful.
Really, if you're not prepared for Dink, then it's still early to have a baby.
The later you have a baby, the greater the price you will pay in the future.
Advanced maternal risks are high
In general, women over the age of 35 who give birth for the first time are considered advanced-age mothers.
Over the age of 35, women's ovarian function begins to decline, if pregnant, the probability of miscarriage is relatively high, the probability of pregnancy complications (such as pregnancy hypertension, diabetes, heart disease) will increase, and fetal malformations are also prone to occur.
Not only that, but elderly women may also need special care from their families due to various physical conditions.
The old Li of our company, his wife is an elderly mother, pregnant to take a variety of fetal protection pills, to lie in bed to rest, the couple's parents are over seventy years old, the health is not good, can not come to help take care of, he can only often take leave to go home to take care of his wife, but also lost the opportunity to promote.
Parenting will be more difficult
Raising children is not just a matter of money, it will also consume a lot of physical strength and energy.
The direct result of late parenting is that your physical strength and energy will become more and more unable to keep up.
The first year or two of the child's birth, often can not sleep the whole night, night milk countless times, during the day to play with the child, it can be said that 24 hours of continuous rotation, if no one to take the handle, minutes will make you collapse.
I was 36 years younger to give birth to a baby, the first year of giving birth to a child, she felt that she was really powerless, sometimes the child cried next to her, she was sleepy to death, but did not dare to sleep, and finally could only cry with the child, living like a madman.
And that's just the beginning.
In addition, late childbearing will also lead to an excessive age difference between you and your children, and the generation gap between you and your children will be very large, which will lay hidden dangers for future education.
Especially when the child is in their 10s and enters puberty, and you happen to be entering menopause. Children and parents are in an emotionally unstable, one-point burning age, which can easily lead to parent-child conflicts.
The parents are not as good as before
Nowadays, many families, unless one party is full-time with a baby, it is difficult to bring their children well, especially before the children go to primary school.
Most families need to rely on the elderly on both sides to help with the baby.
If you have a baby in your 30s, then the elderly on both sides are basically in their 60s, their physical condition begins to decline, and their physical strength and energy are not as good as before. At this time, let the old man face an energetic, jumping up and down child, they will be particularly powerless.
If you encounter your parents who are not in good health and are sick and hospitalized, then your family rhythm will be disrupted in an instant.
The elderly can't help you take care of the children, not to mention, you still have to take care of the elderly in a pitiful amount of time.
Avoid the inevitable midlife crisis
The phenomenon of 35-year-olds in the workplace is very common, and company bosses will naturally choose young people who are more malleable, more aggressive, and relatively cheap from the perspective of the company's operating costs.
Unless you have irreplaceable abilities, your age is a threshold.
And even if you can be at the middle level of the company, you still have to consider the development of the industry as a whole.
The recent layoffs in major factories have made more and more people see that there is no really stable job.
Everyone's golden age of earning money is concentrated around the age of 25-35, if you have a baby in your 30s, then the first 6 years of your child's most need companionship may be the time when your career is going downhill.
Remember the father who broke down and cried at the parent-teacher meeting, he was too busy at work, often unable to reply to the messages of the parent group in time, after being reminded by the teacher, he suddenly lost control of his emotions...
"Working overtime every day until the early hours of the morning, I can't stare at your things all the time, you always call me, it's not that I don't want to pick up, but I don't have time to pick up the meeting..."
The midlife crisis meets the pressure of parenting, and the collapse of adults is only in an instant.
If you have a baby too late, these 4 problems will ensue in your middle age and make you overwhelmed.
So, if you can't accept Dink, then, give birth early.
Early baby will have at least 4 benefits.
1. Avoid the risk of pregnancy and childbirth, recover quickly, and have little physical damage.
2, more energetic, more able to ensure the quality of childcare.
3, parents can provide you with the strongest help, you can free up your hands to work.
4, you can consider having a second child, without worrying about being an elderly mother.
Write at the end
Although no matter whether you are born early or late, you will face the three problems of parenting pressure, mid-life crisis and parental aging, but early birth of a baby, at least, can make you self-regulate at the most energetic age, and do a better job in your child's education.
If you can teach your child well and establish a good parent-child relationship with your child, then, in the face of your parents' aging and workplace crisis, your child will not only not drag your hind legs, but will become your strong psychological support and motivate you to continue to move forward.
Hello everyone, I am a worm mother, a multi-platform original parenting blogger, a middle-aged girl who wrestles with 8-year-old children every day, focusing on sharing dry parenting goods, and the social life observation of an ordinary mother.