We feel that it is a particularly beautiful thing to be with the people we like, which means that there are lovers who will eventually become dependents and can do a lot of interesting and happy things together.
However, most of our women's way of thinking is emotional.
It is too easy for us to believe that the sky is long, and it is too easy to put all our thoughts on each other in a short period of time, thus ignoring that a person will also have shortcomings.
It is easy for us to sacrifice too much, and it is easy to be hurt by love, so this requires us to learn to discern in the relationship between the sexes and not to be carried away by love.
Learn to see whether the qualities in a person are good or bad, especially the inner and the degree of care for a relationship, such as whether they are single-minded and so on.
Only by keeping a clear and rational mind can we not be hurt in love. Psychological research has shown that men who are prone to "spending hearts" tend to have these 4 traits.
First, he is particularly good at saying some rhetoric
"When I have money, I will definitely buy you the best bags and clothes in the world";
"Stay with me, I will definitely make you the happiest woman in the world";
"I only like you alone, you were the first person to give me this feeling".
These words, I think many of us are probably familiar with, because this is the unified word of many men in love.
It sounds very romantic, but unfortunately, some people are sincere, and some people are just talking to achieve their own goals.
So how to judge?
It all lies in whether the man has paid practical action after saying sweet words of love -
For example, whether he bought you clothes and gave you the security you wanted.
If it is given, it is sincere; if it is not given, it is just casual talk and rhetoric.
Love for someone must be manifested in small details, as Wittgenstein said: "Everything that can be said is meaningless." Whatever is meaningful, it has to be conveyed in absurd language. ”
Second, pretend to be confused with other members of the opposite sex
There is a kind of man, in the case of obviously having a girlfriend, but also ambiguous with other members of the opposite sex, but also the name of each other is just ordinary friends, girlfriends jealous and angry is unreasonable, fuss.
There are no friends of the opposite sex, and we cannot cut all our friends of the opposite sex one size fits all because we are in love, and it is not right to do so.
However, we should know that when we are single, we care about our own feelings, and when we are in love, we need to take into account the feelings of our lovers.
Single-minded men, when dealing with the relationship between friends of the opposite sex, will definitely keep a distance, will not do what they want, but will care about our feelings.
The man with the heart of the flower knowingly committed the crime and continued to do his own thing.
Yu Qiuyu said: "The road of life, relying on yourself step by step to go, what can really protect you is your own life choice." ”
In the face of the man with the heart, leaving is our right choice.
Third, unable to resist temptation, greedy
Psychologists once said: "Man is a selfish animal, sometimes abandoning his own rational thinking for the sake of his own selfish desires." ”
People have desires, and those who really have no desires and no needs are basically saints, and we are just ordinary people, so it is normal to have desires.
But everything has a degree, no matter how much there is desire, you should also know to do something, do something, rather than let desire bind you.
If only desire remains, what is the difference between him and animals?
Unfortunately, some men simply can't resist the temptation, they "eat in the bowl, look at the pot", they can't resist the freshness at all.
They will abandon the person who has been with them because of the presence of a certain person.
Such a man, who does not know what single-mindedness is, cannot give us the love we want.
Fourth, never integrate you into each other's circles
Li Gongzi in the TV series "Beauty Heart Plan" is a man with a flower heart, who covets Shen'er's beauty, so he uses rhetoric to trick the other party into having an intimate relationship with himself.
However, after that, Li Gongzi played with the disappearance, and when he saw Shen'er again, he was already preparing to marry someone else, and he didn't care about Shen'er's feelings at all.
Shen Er was disappointed, but also found some clues in the disappointment.
Li Gongzi never introduced her to anyone, nor did he ever disclose the relationship between the two people, that is, the feelings between them were only known to the two of them.
Once a man with deep affection has identified a person, he will be eager to announce this news to the world and integrate the other person into his life.
Instead of hiding it like Li Gongzi. If this is the case, then it is because the man spends his heart, because of the flower heart, so that his future will not have your existence.