Author: Xuan Xiaolei
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I saw a real incident on the Internet, after the female college student lost love, because of "saving" her ex-boyfriend, looking for a way on the Internet, and was cheated out of 1.47 million by an online store.
Hearing this is really a bit of a stunned feeling, I think it is really incredible.
Mainly 1.47 million, what are they used for?
It was a 10-month period in which the girl did more than 400 rituals through the online shopkeeper and bought various Buddhist runes, but still failed to save her ex-boyfriend, and the shopkeeper and his wife were sentenced for it.
After reading this, I have to sigh: this female college student is really rich.
Of course, her money may not be her own, not her own home, or it may be borrowed, and it is obtained recklessly.
In short, this is a crazy move, a typical example that can be used to warn more lovelorns and lovers.
First of all, after we feel too speechless, we should understand and feel the state of some people when they encounter lost love.
Most of these people who desperately want to save their lives are the kind who love and lose themselves, or they are unwilling and have to win, so they desperately do not let go, or they are like being enchanted, and they are fascinated by the lover and lose their minds, and they must not live.
So when they fall out of love, they will be flustered, they will not know how to be good, as if they are facing the end of the world.
It seems that without that person, you really can't breathe, you can't eat, you can't sleep, you will really feel the colic in your heart, you can't breathe well, and you don't know how to be good. This state is really like an addiction, after suddenly cutting off, there is a huge black hole in the heart, and there is no way to fill it with anything.
This is naturally an unhealthy way of falling in love, but also an immature psychology and incorrect behavior.
There are many reasons behind it, such as lack of love, being PUA, competitive, dependence, too much investment and so on.
It boils down to two words: obsession.
Because of this obsession, they recklessly want to grab the person who has been lost, whether it is their own humble intercession or asking for help from others, as long as there is a glimmer of hope, they do not want to let go. It's like a drowning person, anxious to grab anything that stretches out of the water.
Such a situation is very common, and it seems very helpless, so there is a kind of "help them save" single person or institution.
I myself write emotional analysis articles, and I have received some emotionally confused private letters about their encounters or hopes to be helped.
To tell the truth, there may not be much to help them at this time, because even if we say more ways to comfort and encourage or solve, they may not be able to listen to it or do it, what they want is still "not to lose" or "to find it again", so enlightenment and persuasion can often only be aimed at some people who want to wake up and put it down, otherwise they themselves will drill into the road of "redemption".
At this time, there were many people who "helped" them, but unfortunately, many of them were in vain, all ineffective, and even harmful and deceitful.
Because since a person wants to break up with you, then he is mostly iron-hearted and thoughtful at the moment, and most of the time he can only get away from you.
At this time, he either has a new love, so it is not good to see where you are, and it is useless for you to behave no matter how you behave.
Either he has no feelings for you at all, so he doesn't care if you are good or bad now, and it is easy to become a beam-jumping clown in his eyes, and the more he redeems, the more he is despised and disliked.
As for using "metaphysical" means to save it, it is even more unreliable, if this is useful, I am afraid that it has long been popularized, and everyone has used it.
Not to mention that it has been used so many times, it is really incomprehensible, and the reason behind this is that the "obsession is too deep", and the more you invest in it at the beginning, the deeper you fall into.
In fact, even if it is really redeemed, that person will betray or leave sooner or later, and the heart will not be able to fully return, and it will be unbalanced because the person who keeps it is too humble. It's tiring to get along with each other like this, and it's not fun.
Moreover, to truly love someone is to give him freedom even if he wants to break up.
Therefore, the root of redemption is not necessarily how much love, but one's own selfishness is too heavy to see conscience and the truth.
Holmea said: "Delaying the future for the sake of falling out of love is a lifelong loss. ”
The female college student in the above example must not have studied well in the past 10 months.
The 1.47 million spent will be used to study, enrich yourself, and do business, even if it is trial and error, you will have some achievements.
She wasted not only money, but also time, effort, morale, spirit and other things.
Good years, even if you are in love, at least learn to accept the natural law of love and love to go, where is there such an indispensable person, the world is so big, 1.47 million to make yourself better, can not find a better boyfriend?
In short, if you want not to be deceived into such a situation, remember not to try to save after falling out of love, how many beautiful things can be done in life, why be tied up by a tree that does not care about yourself.