Author | Inspector (1908 words, about 4 minutes to read)
"Only with sons can we pass on the generations!"
"My son can give himself a pension!"
Regarding the birth of a son, many people seem to have an obsession, thinking that no son is the queen, so they will not give up without having a son, and they will not be able to lift their heads without a son in the family.
Although this statement sounds ridiculous in the modern era, there will still be some people who attach great importance to "boys".
★ "Divorce if you can't give birth to a grandson", the daughter-in-law faced the arbitrary demands of her mother-in-law, domineering and recoiled
One of my colleagues, Xiao Zhang, had a fight with her mother-in-law because of the birth of her daughter, and when she gave birth to her daughter, her mother-in-law came to take a look at it, although she did not show too obviously, but she has been talking about having a second child.
Because Xiao Zhang just gave birth to a child, he did not have the energy to argue with his mother-in-law, so he did not squeak, and the mother-in-law saw that Xiao Zhang did not speak, and he was even more pressing:
"You see that the conditions in your family are so poor, it is also your honor that my son can look at you." The first child has no ability to give birth to a girl! Since you are married to our family, you must continue to give us a son and let our family have a queen, otherwise, out of confinement, I will let my son divorce you! Bring your own girlfriend over! ”
Xiao Zhang is actually a person with a personality, usually for the husband, there has been no positive conflict with the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law instead feels that Xiao Zhang is a good bully, this time, Xiao Zhang listened to the mother-in-law actually slandered herself so much, and also used herself as a tool to give birth to a son, so she did not say anything back:
"The son I can't give birth to is what your son said, your son has no ability to provide the Y chromosome, why blame me?" Besides, is having a daughter incompetent? So your mother gave birth to you, and you didn't have the ability? Whether I have a second child or not is my own business, and you have no right to interfere! ”
Hearing the quarrel between his wife and mother, Xiao Zhang's husband stood up and said that he was under a lot of pressure and did not want to have conflicts because of the child's gender and family, and the daughter had a daughter's good, as long as the family was happy and harmonious, it was enough.
I believe that many women have faced the "one more, have a boy!" The request, also because of the "giving birth to a son", the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has gradually deepened, which has hurt many daughters-in-law.
I once saw a street interview and asked, "Is it true that only having a baby girl is the queen?" ”
However, people of different ages have different opinions on this question, and the answers of the post-90s and post-00s are very absolute, poking their hearts:
● "I have two daughters, although the daughters are also very sensible, we also love them, but I always feel very sorry in my heart, because our family is 5 generations of single transmission, grandpa very much hopes that I can have another son, but my wife's body does not allow it." 」 If I don't have a son, my generation's surname will be broken, and my heart is still blocked, but this has nothing to do with son preference, I think it is a sense of responsibility to the family. ”
● "What logic is this?" Isn't a daughter her own offspring? Isn't it your own blood that's flowing? What a son can do, a daughter can do! Most of the pension is still the daughter's contribution, the son, have to see the daughter-in-law's face, the son is more, when supporting the elderly, he also kicks the ball! When the mother-in-law is old, she knows her daughter's thoughtfulness. ”
● "There are sons who are still extinct, now there are more men and fewer women, life pressure is high, men have no ability, and they can't marry a daughter-in-law!" ”
● "My husband and I have already discussed making Dink, and my mother-in-law has been urging me to give birth, saying don't let his family break down, but the two of us are unstable in work, the house can't afford to buy, and the salary can't even afford to support ourselves, how can we raise a child again?" Compared with the post-break, I think it is more important to let yourself live steadily. ”
★ The elderly should not put too much pressure on the young
Who can predict the birth of boys and girls in advance?
The male Y chromosome is the key to deciding to have children, that is to say, the birth of boys and girls is determined by the male chromosomes, but many people do not discuss the problem of having children and daughters from a scientific point of view, but insist on going their own way, blaming the fault of having daughters on women, why do women "carry this pot"?
The elderly do not give young people so much fertility pressure, the original work pressure and life pressure is very heavy, if you are also required to "give birth to a son" and "give birth to a second child", then the pressure is too great, for the young people's body is also a great damage.
Especially if you have a daughter and the family gives the daughter contempt or insults, then the child's growth will be dark and unfair to the child. Having sons and daughters are our "heart meat", how to make them grow up healthily is the key, rather than dwelling on the self-blame and regret of not having a son.
Life is forward-looking, cherish the present that has been owned, then the future will be more and more happy.
▼ No son is not a "queen"
Part of the reason why there was a saying in ancient times that "no son is the last queen" is that women had no right to speak and no inheritance rights in ancient times, and their status was very low.
In today's era, the status of women in the new era is gradually rising, men and women are equal, and many women with power may also have, so when they give birth to daughters, daughters can also support the family, and even if they have the ability, they can also let their children follow their mother's surname, so there is no such thing as a queen.
Many traditional concepts only apply to that era, and for the rapid development of the present, we have a certain understanding of the gender of men and women and the responsibilities they need to bear, and we also know our role in the family. After women become a family, they will still care about their parents, and they will also fulfill their responsibility to support the elderly, and children can abide by filial piety to the elderly, which is actually a happy life, and it is also the result that the elderly most hope to see in their later years.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
If the family focuses on the cultivation of children and on maintaining the harmony of the family, then the harmony of the family and the excellent growth of the child are the basis for the continuation of a family.
Instead of worrying about whether there is a son, it is better to put your love and energy on educating children and caring for their growth. A good home style can change the direction of the family, can promote the prosperity of the family, and is also a spiritual inheritance.
Parents, do you think having a son is a task?
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