01
There is a line in "I will leave you one day": "Living to this age, those who leave first are lucky, so don't be too sad." ”
A person, old, the wife next to him also waved goodbye, he gradually can't move, maybe leaving early, is the best luck.
Some people wonder, what is luck? Is it the age of longevity, the countless amount of money, or the children and grandchildren who go around their knees and enjoy the joys of heaven?
No one knows what the standard answer to luck is. At the very least, everyone has their own answer in their heart. For most ordinary people, perhaps, luck is to live a little happier.
When you are young, that kind of pleasure is not happiness, at best it is just a stimulus; in middle age, the behavior of sticking to money and not being willing to spend it is not happiness, but the pain of keeping money; in old age, even if you receive a high pension, as long as the warmth is missing, everything is worthless.
The warmth here can be the person who accompanies you, it can be the freedom to move, it can be a healthy body...
In the old age, people seem to be complicated, in fact, it is not very complicated, those conditions are still there, and it is lucky to live to the age of 100. And those few conditions are missing, and no matter how long you live, you will not be happy.
02
The 70-year-old lamented that when he is old, he is lucky to be able to leave as soon as possible.
The father of fellow Lao Zhang, Mr. Zhang, is 70 years old this year. He should have enjoyed the joy of heaven, but he did not have much hope for his future life, and his physical condition gradually deteriorated.
In fact, five years ago, the old man's health was still very good. At that time, he had a wife with him, and he lived a very contented life. For him, having someone to accompany, having savings, and being in good health, it is already worth it in the world.
But after two years, my wife suddenly fell ill and left. This incident was like a thunderbolt on a sunny day, directly shattering the old man's happy dream in his later years. It was that month that he became older, basically more than ten years old.
In August of the same year, the old man also suffered a stroke and was hospitalized, and the whole person could not take care of himself, even if he ate and drank on the water toilet, he could not do it alone, and basically needed children or nurses to take care of him.
As a son, Lao Zhang did not understand why after his mother left for a period of time, his father's quality of life plummeted? Is it true that when people are old, even if they are rich and noble, they will not be happy?
Later, the old man said a word to him, which made him completely understand the truth of the matter.
"People are old, and it is actually useless to give me more money." No matter how much money you have, you can only let yourself die a few years later, but you can't buy back companionship, you can't buy back a healthy body, you can't buy back a positive attitude..."
The truth of old age is completely here.
03
In the old age, what is the most important thing?
I think that for the elderly, these 3 points are the pillars of their strong life.
The first point: the wife is still by his side.
When people are old, some people accompany them, some people love, some people talk about their hearts, and some people take care of them, that is the rest of their lives. There is not much calculation, not too much careful thinking, only a common wish to grow old.
Two people with this wish will work together to reach the end of happiness. But once anyone leaves, the person will be lonely, and everything will be alone.
Second point: Be hopeful about the future.
Why are modern middle-aged and elderly people not living happily? Maybe it's because they don't have money, maybe it's because they live alone, but in the end it comes down to a lack of hope for the future.
A person who lacks hope, even if he becomes rich, does not necessarily mean anything. Hopefully, the rest of life will give people more motivation to continue to survive.
Third point: Be healthy.
The basis of any happy life is a healthy body. In the past, when I was healthy and not sick or in pain, I didn't know how to cherish it. As long as there is a problem with the body, the importance of health is understood.
The so-called "gold is not expensive, health is worth ten thousand gold." "Lack of healthy old age, just with you driving a BMW in the swamp, your car is no matter how good, it will eventually fall into the mud and become worthless." 」
04
Write to the end
In later years, it was not as good as we thought, nor as bad as we thought. Everything needs to be looked at dialectically.
You have a good deck of cards, so no matter how you play, the result will be good for you. On the contrary, if you don't have any good cards, then even if you live a long life, it may not have any meaning.
There's a documentary that says something like this.
An old man left behind in the countryside fell ill directly after his wife left. When he could still move, the old man chose to end himself and leave in bed, with nothing to give up, no regrets.
When we saw this scene, we didn't understand why this old man would be so stupid and not live longer.
It can only be said that without the suffering of others, hugh persuades others to be good. There are so many things, there are so many choices, it's hard for us to understand. But one thing is absolute, when a person has no hope for the future, then he will feel that even if he lives to be a hundred years old, he is like a walking dead. Leaving early may be happier.
Of course, to be able to live to be a hundred years old, that is naturally a good thing. It can only be said that when people are old, they still have to be full of hope for the future. At least, the sunshine mentality is the driving force for survival. That's all.
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