Text: Guardian of emotions
Use the simplest words to write about the warmth and cold of the world and heal the lonely heart.
In fact, in this world, people who can put themselves in your shoes and think about you are not common.
Because this adoption of your thinking, silently doing something for you, and guarding you, is a prerequisite, and most people can't do this.
Only by putting you in the bottom of your heart will it really hurt you, can't help but think of you, and willingly shield you from the wind and rain to meet the unique rainbow.
That is to say, the person who is selflessly dedicated to you must regard you as very important, and what he thinks in his heart is to protect you and let you live carefree life.
To tell the truth, it is extremely difficult to become an exception for a person, even if you meet more people, there will only be a few people who will treat you wholeheartedly and can't bear to hurt you.
When you get along with a person, you must realize that sincerity may not be exchanged for sincerity, and it is easy to be treated as a fool by giving sincerity without understanding the other person.
Maybe you can't imagine that some people will use your sincerity to do a lot of things that hurt you, or even ruin your life, making it difficult for you to turn over again.
So, no matter who you want to have a deep friendship with, you have to see him clearly in the face of the key things that happen in your life, not what you think he can have.
You have to think about what the other person says when communicating, and don't think it's not important. You have to understand that some words, which seem to be jokes, are actually true words.
Good at observing and thinking, is protecting yourself, don't be embarrassed, don't feel unnecessary.
A person who does not see you well will say such things, and you should stay away as soon as you hear them, instead of thinking that he is just casually saying it and does not have to take it seriously.
"There's nothing remarkable about it, don't be so confident"
People who sincerely hope that you have a good life will give you encouragement and self-confidence, make you more motivated, and bravely move forward no matter what difficulties you face.
He doesn't want you to live passively, and the things he says to you are the ones you want to hear the most.
Caring about you and adopting your thinking is impossible to discourage your enthusiasm, it is impossible to make you doubt your own ability, it is impossible to persuade you to step back.
And people who don't want you to live well in their hearts always look for opportunities to say something that hits you and makes you have the illusion that you don't have any ability.
Every time you accomplish something alone and achieve something, he doesn't approve of it, feels nothing remarkable, and anyone can do it.
You must remember: not only do you not praise you, but also say such ugly things, that is, people who are jealous of you, afraid that your life is getting better and better, climbing higher and higher.
"You're just lucky, or it makes no difference"
In fact, life requires not only hard work, but also luck.
That is, you work hard, do everything conscientiously, don't have lazy ideas, your ability will improve, and then have a good opportunity and seize it, and the money will become more.
You can't do it without effort, you can't do it without luck, you have to have both.
Your life continues to go in a good direction because you are always working hard and are lucky, not messing around, not fantasizing about waking up and having everything.
When a person denies your efforts and feels that you can live the life you are living just because you are lucky, then you should turn your face to him and break off contact.
The reason why this kind of person is treated this way is because he does not want you to live the life you want at all.
Everyone may be around such a person, so when getting along with people, you can see that he is very "sour", so don't make deep friends.
"Who do you think you are, don't be so self-righteous"
Perhaps many people have not thought of this question: "Is it right or wrong to treat a person sincerely?" ”
Because I feel in my heart that as long as I do something for a person and treat him as a friend, two people will become good friends and will never pay in vain.
It may not seem like a problem, but the person you get along with may have a problem with the three views, and the things you do for him are often taken for granted.
Not only is he unaware of your kindness to him, but he will also look down on you very much and always feel that you do not deserve anything.
Someone like this who looks down on you and doesn't agree with your point of view will not accept any of your opinions, and every time you spend time and mind trying to find a way for him, he will use some words to scare you.
A person who doesn't speak well is to affect your mood, so that you don't have a smile on your face, and you think a lot of things in your heart, so you don't have to be so close to him anymore.
summary:
In life, as long as you observe, you will find that there are many people who do not want you to live well, and they will also find ways to make your life a chicken feather.
No matter who you find out who such a person is, you have to stay away and don't let him get any closer to you.
When you are good, do everything you can to destroy, when you are not good, fall into the well, make it clear that you can not have deep friendship, the closer you are to him, the deeper the injury.
What kind of people should be close to and what kind of people should not be close to, you should be clear and know how to do it.
If you can think of it and can do it, your life will not be affected by this kind of person, you will not be bothered by this kind of person, and your every day is full and happy.
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Author: A senior mentor who accompanies books, writes for fun, freelance writer, and helps countless people get out of emotional difficulties.