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Children are honest and introverted and easy to be bullied in school, what can be done? Indeed, some children are indeed easy to become the object of bullying by others, at this time, parents must learn how to deal with it, otherwise children will not only be bullied at school, but also enter the society.
School bullying is regarded by parents as a flood beast, but this real problem is still forbidden, even pervasive. It not only affects the safety of the lives of young children and adolescents, but also brings serious post-traumatic sequelae to innocent victims of school bullying.
[Story Sharing]:
Guagua (pseudonym) has been sullen lately, and his original top-ranking results have also been tragically defeated by Waterloo. No matter how the teacher and parents asked, Guagua clenched his teeth and refused to say. Dad even heard Guagua's suppressed crying in the middle of the night, and when he was forced to do so, Dad quietly followed Guagua.
On the way to school, several senior students grabbed Guagua's collar and ordered him to hand over all the pocket money on his body.
"Don't tell teachers and parents, or you'll be beaten!" One of the tall boys held out his fist to Guagua.
This scene deeply stung Guagua's father, and he jumped out of the shadows, protected Guagua behind him, and roared angrily: "See who has the courage to bully my son?" ”
Several children in the upper grades were scared away, and Guagua threw herself into her father's arms and cried loudly. Although Dad's appearance effectively intervened in this school bullying incident, it does not mean that its negative impact has disappeared. After experiencing the bullying incident during this time, Guagua became timid and cautious, and even went out in the dark.
School bullying is a very serious problem in contemporary society, and the forms of school bullying include but are not limited to physical violence, verbal violence and interpersonal cold violence.
Relevant statistics also show that most of the main targets of school bullying are introverted, honest and timid children. In the face of campus bullying, they did not know how to resist, did not know how to fight back, and afterwards were forced to remain silent for fear of retaliation.
To avoid children caught in the whirlpool of this negative phenomenon on campus, in addition to strengthening campus control, implant children's self-protection awareness and ability from family education, rather than parents helping to fight back or forcing children to fight back, so that there is a chance to keep children away from campus bullying.
In the face of school bullying, what should parents do?
▼ Let children understand that their parents are their backing
In the way of family education, parents are each casting their own laws, some parents regard themselves as their children's "protective umbrella", when children encounter difficulties and are treated unfairly, parents who are eager to protect their children often come forward at the first time. In fact, under the wing of the parents, there is no teaching of children's ability to protect themselves.
As parents, it is difficult for us to control whether our children will be bullied in school, but we must tell our children that in any case, their own life safety is the first premise. When you encounter bullying, protect your own vital parts, and avoid others' key parts when attacking others. If the other party "cheats more and cheats less", you can't compromise silently afterwards, no matter what happens, your parents are your backing, tell your parents what happened to you, and your parents will work with you in the united front to solve the problem.
▼ Learn to listen to your child's negative emotions
After school bullying occurs, the attitude of parents is very important. Sometimes, the origin of school bullying is "from light to heavy", bullying is also a tentative process, and the child's silent attitude afterwards will make the other party more inched.
But many times, when children express to their parents that they have been treated unfairly, parents do not listen carefully to their children's experiences and indiscriminately count their children.
The attitude of parents will make children mistaken for mistakes, so that the grievances that children have not yet spoken are shrunk back into their stomachs. In the long run, children will deny the value of their own existence, and their personality will become cowardly and inferior.
Patiently listen to the child's learning and life experience, whether it is a big thing or a small thing, and give advice to the child as a friend. When necessary, parents need to come forward to communicate with teachers, and the combination of home and school has a greater chance to prevent campus bullying.
▼ Teach your child some social tips
Campus bullying can also be regarded as a microcosm of society. The reason why school bullying continues to occur in children is often because children's interpersonal relationships are not handled properly.
Today's children get too much pampering, so that they have developed a "self-centered" personality, and in terms of interpersonal communication, they are afraid of the weak, they are afraid of the strong, and they lack compassion for the weak. Therefore, in terms of interpersonal communication, children are difficult to make true friends, and they are easily rejected by others, so that they are treated with violence in schools.
To this end, parents should teach their children some social skills, exercise their children's ability to observe the emotions of others and think in empathy, so that children can truly make friends with others and harvest real friendships. Objective data also reflect that children with good interpersonal relationships rarely become the target of school bullying.
[Conclusion]:
To avoid children becoming the protagonists of school bullying incidents, the responsibility of parents is far more than to provide material security for children to eat and wear, but also to cultivate and shape their personality and three views.
Let the child live in a loving family environment, let them see the positive energy side of life, the child will increase the confidence of life. Even if they are unfortunate enough to encounter bullying in school, they have the courage to move forward and can minimize the damage themselves.
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