What should I do if my child doesn't like to eat? Parents who love their children naturally have a way, chasing, chasing, coaxing... A variety of feeding methods.
My nephew Guagua is a typical example of being fed, six adults around a child, feeding this thing everyone still queues up.
But even if Guagua was carefully cared for by the elders, he was still a "weak and windy" body, and he went to the hospital for diarrhea and fever at both ends of the three days.
My father, my cousin, privately consulted with me on the experience that when it comes to dietary arrangements, we think we have done enough, and the staple food, meat, side dishes, eggs, and fruits of a meal have not fallen behind. Sometimes in order to feed, six adults are busy for more than half an hour, and the children obviously eat enough and eat well, why is it still not resistant?
"Maybe it's because you're feeding too much that your child gets sick."
My answer surprised my cousin: "The child is not full, and still let him be hungry?" ”
I had to seriously explain to my cousin: now the child is only 2 years old, the language expression ability is insufficient, can not clearly explain to the adults that they are full, but they will use a series of actions to express, such as: children with rice refuse to swallow, children shake their heads and refuse to eat, etc. If parents continue to feed in a duck-like manner, the result may be that the child will accumulate food. Try to think about it, the child's stomach capacity and intestinal digestion capacity are certainly not better than adults, a meal you have to feed so much, how can the child eat and consume?
My cousin was half-convinced of my response, and during a routine childcare check-up, he consulted a pediatrician about the child's feeding. I did not expect that the doctor's reply is more serious than I said, long-term feeding to the child, absolutely more beneficial than harmful, not only damage to the child's stomach, but also to the child's intellectual development, height growth and other three aspects have a greater impact.
01. Eating too much, increasing the burden on the stomach and intestines?
Feeding children, parents are usually "fast-paced", spoon after spoon, eager to complete this "vast project" as soon as possible. But the passive feeding of children can be miserable, because the parents feed the rhythm, they can not chew slowly, only swallow the dates and swallow.
As a result, the child's gastrointestinal burden increases, and it is impossible to fully digest and absorb in a short period of time, let alone normal excretion. Therefore, the problem of accumulated food in young children is repeated, and over time, it has an impact on the child's gastrointestinal function.
02. Eating too much affects children's intellectual development?
Malnutrition has an impact on children's intellectual development, but eating too much also limits children's intellectual development.
Don't be surprised, it's true! Relevant scientific research has confirmed that if the child eats too much for a long time, the blood supply of the body will be too much concentrated near the gastrointestinal tract, so that the brain is in a state of ischemia, so it has a certain impact on the development of the child's brain. Eating too much can inhibit the activity of intelligent areas such as language, thinking, and memory, which in the long run can lead to limited intellectual development in children.
03. Eating too much, affecting height development with lateral development?
The law of eating more and getting fat is not only suitable for adults, but also for children.
Dr. Amy Brown, a pediatrician at Swansea University in the United Kingdom, did a follow-up survey and found that children of the same age group were more effective in preventing overweight than being fed. In this regard, Dr. Amy Brown analyzed that it is because children eat independently, can better control their appetite, master their own eating rhythm, and rarely overeat.
On the contrary, we can also draw another conclusion: the eating rhythm and amount of children fed by adults are controlled by adults, and the probability of fat accumulation in the body is greater, and the probability of obesity is also greater.
Of course, the horizontal development of children has a certain impact on height, if the early children eat more, the stomach capacity becomes larger and larger, then the adolescence may be more obese than their peers, easy to cause precocious puberty. In addition, growth hormone in the case of eating too much, but also "lazy", many pediatricians have said that children in the state of hunger, the body will secrete more growth hormone, in order to stimulate bone development, and for a long time in a very full state, less growth hormone secretion, will affect the height.
Understanding the "after-effects of feeding", I am afraid that some parents have begun to be anxious, so the next step is to train children to eat independently. Speaking of which, I would like to share with you my own experience:
First of all, arouse the child's interest in eating independently from the beginning. When the child is eight or nine months old, I let the child sit alone on the dining stool, first, to fix the place for the child to eat, and second, to let the child try to eat independently.
When you first try, parents must correct their mentality, do not hope that the child can do a good job, full of mess is a normal state. It's not so much about cultivating self-feeding as it is about finding a new trick for children, and they have more fun than actually eating. But despite this, children experience the pleasure of eating independently, and they are willing to try.
Second, when the children are a little older, I create more conditions for them to eat independently. If you want to do a good job, you must first use it, and I have spent more effort on the tableware and plate, and every time the meal is served on the table, it always looks pleasing to the eye, and the child has the desire to eat. At this time, I will discuss with the child, is this meal eaten by the baby himself? Or let your mother feed it? Children also have a strong curiosity, and when they see exquisite food, they can't help but express their wishes: "Mom, I eat it myself." ”
Of course, this process also gives children the opportunity to trial and error, once or twice they can't do it, but after three or four times, they can always see their progress, as long as they give more patience, more encouragement and more teaching, children can master the use of spoons and chopsticks.
Finally, make table rules for children, such as not eating half-heartedly, not allowed to watch TV, and play with toys. There are no other interference conditions, eating for children is like completing homework, is one of their own tasks within the specified time, there is no complaint, pampering, consciously eat each meal. The old mother is really comforted to see it!
Learning to eat independently is a necessary process for children to grow, although simple, but also needs parents to cultivate and guide parents not to think that when they are young, they will feed themselves, and they do not need to spend much thought. But once the sequelae of long-term feeding are left, they may be irreversible for life!
Has your child been fed? What methods do you use to teach your children to eat on their own?