The first of the 2 behaviors that make children more and more stupid cannot escape

I've heard a quote before:

If a woman suddenly loves to send a circle of friends, then she must have a baby.

If a woman suddenly does not like to send a circle of friends, then she must be in elementary school.

In the growth of children, the mood of parents is like riding a roller coaster, falling from heaven to earth, and then low to dust.

I used to think that I was simply a genius, and I would definitely not be able to run in the future.

Later, it was found that although they were not geniuses, they were still very smart 985 and 211 should be no problem.

Now I found that his IQ dropped too quickly, and whether he could successfully enter the university had to be said twice.

Throwing away the mother filter gradually collapses, will the child's intelligence really become lower and lower?

Unfortunately, the answer is yes.

Many scientific studies have proved that although a child's IQ is mainly determined by genetics, some things in the parenting process do cause the child's IQ to decline in some aspects, that is, "become stupid".

01

Emotional factors can limit intellectual development

The University of Montreal has conducted a study that found that "harsh parenting" can lead to changes in the structure of children's brains.

What is harsh parenting?

In addition to scolding, judging, corporal punishment, yelling, etc., there are some more insidious and less noticeable forms, such as: too much management, too much demand, too strict requirements.

I have to admit that this generation of parents has a lot less stick education than our parents, but our "harshness" has become more implicit and dense.

Modern children enjoy unprecedented resources, but they are also constrained by things we can't think of.

When we were young, we never got trained every day because we didn't like to brush your teeth, didn't accept toys, didn't take care of studying/going to interest classes, because no one cared if you brushed your teeth, there were few toys, and your parents who were busy with your livelihood didn't have time to accompany you every day to write homework and practice.

But now children are different, because the level of parents' culture, quality and other aspects has improved, so the requirements for children are naturally rising, and everything is huge:

Learning: "The hand shape collapsed", "The pen was wrong", "The color got on the table", "The house painting is crooked"

Life: "It's time to get up", "Mangoes are all dressed", "Don't pick and choose and eat quickly"; "Toys are all over the house again"; "You watch (TV) endlessly, right?" ”

Social: "Why don't you say hello to you?" "Why don't you give one to the children with so many cookies?" "Others don't like to take you next time don't rush up."

If you think about your child's every day from morning to night, isn't it a picture of extreme fear?

Of course, this is not to say that we need to retreat to the hour, but many times the "invisible harshness" is also harsh, and even more unscrupulous because of the secret.

We always can't help but have high expectations for our children, hoping that they can do well enough, at least better than the present, at least better than they used to be.

Therefore, we can't see the child making mistakes, not being serious, and can't help but repeatedly "correct" him.

But the immediate consequence of this is that many things that should be solved by the child's own intellect are turned into emotional problems.

And how do emotions limit intelligence?

We all know that the human brain is divided into three parts:

The first part is called the neocortex, which is in the upper part of the brain, which is mainly responsible for planning decisions, rational thinking, and controlling emotions, which can be understood as the rational brain.

The second part, called the amygdala (limbic system), is responsible for managing our emotions, such as anger, fear, etc., which can be understood as the emotional brain.

The third part is the reptile brain, which is responsible for instinctive attack or self-preservation, which can be seen as the instinctive brain.

When the child's mood is stable and the mood is good, his rational brain starts frequently and quickly, which is the process of the child's intellectual thinking.

For example, a child who is peeling mangoes, playing the piano, writing homework, and observing strangers.

But when we can't help but intervene, make all kinds of demands, and even be dissatisfied:

When reading the recorded video, can you stand up straighter?

When learning the piano, your fingering is not right, start again;

Can you be serious, a simple problem, how to do it more than a dozen times is still not right.

The emotional brain is activated, the child begins to become irritable, anxious, and afraid, while the rational brain is limited and the response is getting slower and slower.

When parents start to get angry and yell:

What's going on, how many times have you said it, and it's wrong!

I see you're just not in the brain here.

This is over, the storm is coming, the child's self-preservation instinct brain directly starts, the uppermost rational brain almost stops functioning, the child's brain is completely frozen, full of fear, fear and impulse at work.

He no longer thinks, but instinctively wants to attack: either to confront and yell at his parents, or to instinctively protect himself from the attacks of his parents.

The intellectual activities that should have been carried out with a lot of time were spent on solving anxiety, fear, worry, anxiety and other emotions.

In the process, the emotional brain is always active, while the rational brain is sleeping.

Children who have been entangled with emotions, where is the opportunity and time to develop intelligence?

Moreover, it is a disturbing fact that the more the child's brain is activated, the easier it is to activate the other areas, and the other areas will be restricted to development.

Therefore, if you also have the feeling that the child is becoming more and more "stupid", you must be vigilant, is not too much interference, destroying the process of the child's intellectual development.

Instead of demanding that children do better and better, it is better to leave room for children to grow and give children a chance to grow at their own pace.

The process may not be beautiful or even thrilling, but the final outcome will definitely surprise you.

02

Physical external factors cannot be ignored

In addition to emotional aspects but limitations, there are many external factors that can also hinder a child's intellectual development.

01

Iodine deficiency

Among the many nutrients, iodine is very important for children's intellectual development.

Today, iodine deficiency remains an important public health problem in many developing countries and a major cause of avoidable mental retardation in young children.

Studies have shown that even a mild iodine deficiency may affect a child's brain development.

Therefore, daily life must pay attention to the use of iodized salt, eat more iodine-rich foods, and have a balanced diet.

02

Lead exceeds the standard

There is also an element known as the "first killer" of children's intellectual development - lead.

Scientists in many countries have found that when the lead in children exceeds 100 μg/L, it indicates that lead exceeds the standard and will have adverse effects on brain development.

Young children are particularly susceptible to lead poisoning, especially before the age of 3, the rate of absorption of lead is 4-5 times that of adults, but the ability to excrete lead is 1/17 of adults, and the lead retention time is 5-8 times that of adults.

Therefore, for children, lead poisoning is indeed a problem that cannot be ignored.

Places where lead is easy to exist in life:

Foods such as puffed foods, popcorn, pine blossom eggs, tin tin cans or drinks that are soldered are foods with high lead content, and children should eat less, preferably not;

Inferior plastics, painted toys, substandard crayons, oil sticks, pencils and pirated books;

Secondhand smoke, studies have shown that compared to children growing up in smoking households and children growing up in smokeless households, the former has more than 10 times more than 10 times higher rates of lead poisoning than the latter.

Lead is a cumulative poison, as long as there is lead in the body, it is harmful to the body and brain, but the degree is different.

Therefore, be careful about the items that children often eat or import, and let children develop good hygiene habits, such as washing hands frequently and eating more foods (dairy products, seafood, vitamins) that can help drain lead.

03

Mercury exceeded the standard

Mercury, like lead, is a heavy metal element that is metabolically difficult for the human body and is very damaging to a child's intelligence.

Studies have shown that for every 100 milliliters of blood, the concentration of mercury goes up a level, and the child's IQ drops by one notch.

Exposure to mercury in children's lives is mainly in these three areas:

1. Eat fish

It is said that eating fish can become smarter, but eating it incorrectly may also cause harm to the health of children.

Because mercury is an element that occurs naturally in the environment and is found in oceans, lakes, and streams.

So almost all fish, yes, almost all, contain varying degrees of mercury.

Fish consumption recommendations issued by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) and the Environmental Protection Agency mention that for wild, long-growing, larger fish with higher levels of mercury in the body, they should be avoided.

These fish are not recommended to eat at one time:

Which fish are suitable for children?

Salmon, trout, cod, dragonfish, perch, tilapia, sardines, catfish, squid, crabs, shrimp, etc., these are common, easy to buy and low mercury-containing species in life.

In addition to the species, there are also fish biles and fish brains, which are not recommended to eat.

Fish brain is the location with the highest mercury content on fish, and fish bile is generally poisonous, so it is not recommended to eat.

About eating fish, you can see this article "I didn't check it really don't know, to eat fish to supplement DHA for the baby actually has so many misunderstandings!" How to choose, how much to eat, are you doing it right? 》

2. Medical supplies

There are also items that are often stored in the home, which can also easily lead to mercury poisoning.

For example, mercury thermometers:

If you accidentally break it and handle it improperly, it is very dangerous.

For specific emergency treatment methods, see this article: "The most accurate mercury thermometer will be completely banned, what do you use to measure the baby's body temperature later?" 》

Red Potion:

This is a must-have for domestic and foreign injuries at home, childhood memories, children have bumps, abrasions, will use them to disinfect external use.

But did you know that its main ingredient is organic mercury? It is absorbed by the body on direct contact with the skin, and there is also a risk of mercury poisoning with long-term use.

Therefore, if you do not use it for children at home, you can wash it with normal saline for general minor trauma.

There is also a need to avoid long-term use of mercury-containing traditional Chinese medicines or proprietary Chinese medicines for children, such as cinnabar, male yellow, red powder and so on.

3. Children touch items

Such as some inferior toys in life, spray paint, coated toys, etc., as well as children are super favorite stickers, especially the kind of bright color, directly attached to the skin, must be vigilant, not only stimulate the child's skin, but also likely to have heavy metals (mercury).

C Mom says:

It is difficult to improve a child's IQ, but it is very easy to make a child stupid, and even hinders the child's intellectual development unconsciously.

After reading it, do you think it is too difficult to be a parent, not only to be vigilant about potential dangers in life, but also to pay attention to the psychology of children.

In fact, many times, it is not that we are not doing enough, it is just that we are doing too much.

Raise children as they are and make them grow.

When you don't know how to do it, it is better to give the child a chance to turn the growth back to the child himself, and the child will naturally give you a satisfactory answer.