Light up yourself, illuminate the world, and the education of love is the future
In the past few days, Zhu Ke, who has received full prizes from Harvard, Stanford, Yale, Caltech and other 9 world's top universities, has caught fire, and his experience of studying has attracted the attention of many parents.
In the short interview video, Zhu Kehang's parents did not attend any tutoring classes until they graduated from high school, which made the majority of parents envious.
But from the report of the City Express, I found that parents actually attach more importance to maintaining his enthusiasm for learning than temporary achievements.
There are 4 points in Zhu Kehang's parents' approach that are worth learning from the majority of parents.
01 No matter how busy and tired you are, you must also take time to accompany
When the reporter asked his father Zhu Yuanrong what parenting secrets he had, Zhu Yuanrong said: It is to go with nature, and when he is busy, he will spend more time with his children.
Zhu Kehang's parents said so and did the same.
Ruan Yajuan, a mother, said that when her son was very young, he bought a lot of puzzles, "as long as I have time, I will accompany him, from fighting together to fighting in competitions."
Such a process has also unconsciously cultivated Zhu Kehang's concentration. Let him be very efficient after school, because of the focus on learning.
In addition to puzzles, another thing that makes mothers proud is to exercise with their sons.
Because Zhu Kehang was a picky eater when he was a child, his body was weak, and he often had a cold in elementary school. Ruan Yajuan, the mother, decided to take the child to exercise, so she took him to ride for more than 4 hours almost every weekend.
Later, when he was in junior high school, his mother encouraged him to participate in the school long-distance running competition, from the initial countdown to the bottom, and finally even ran to the first place.
After Zhu Kehang was a little older, his parents often accompanied their sons on trips, almost half of China.
There is a saying in psychology that a child's 0 to 12 years old, especially 0 to 6 years old, is a critical period for their growth.
At this stage, whether you can establish an intimate attachment relationship with your parents is related to the establishment of a child's sense of security and happiness throughout life.
The companionship of parents is the best way to help children build a sense of security and happiness from an early age.
When the child establishes a sense of security, he has the courage to explore the wider world; when the child has a perception of happiness, he can enjoy life and relax.
02 Maintain respect, do not force or force
Another impressive sentence in the video is that Zhu Dad said that the child's happiness and health are the most important, he never forced the child to do things he did not like, and childhood was used to play.
Therefore, in addition to not attending the tutoring class, Zhu Kehang also invites a large group of children to play together every holiday, skate skating, skateboarding, Rubik's Cube, and Three Kingdoms killing.
For his studies, his parents never gave harsh requirements.
Not demanding, not coercing, not following the trend, not imposing their own expectations on the child, in essence, is to treat the child as an independent individual, is to respect the child's personality.
In fact, from Zhu Kehang's experience, we will find that the parents' non-compulsion has allowed the children to form a correct concept of winning and losing, not shrinking in the face of difficulties, and stronger when they are strong.
For example, when he first learned English, Zhu Kehang did not even pass the exam once, but he was able to adjust quickly and began to insist on memorizing words every day, and his vocabulary had reached the level of the college entrance examination in junior high school.
In high school, because he could do difficult problems, he had a sense of accomplishment, so Zhu Kehang did not listen to the lectures much.
But because of this habit, the first exam of the new college entrance examination reform only took more than 100 tests, and the provincial ranking was 6000, so that he and Qingbei independent enrollment were not lucky.
However, Zhu Kehang was not discouraged, and after more than 7 months of preparation, he successfully entered the University of Science and Technology of China.
But when he entered the university, the matter was not over, and it was not his favorite physics school that had been admitted.
However, through his own efforts, Zhu Kehang ended his freshman year with the first place in the College of Engineering, successfully transferred to the School of Physics, and even entered the Yan Keats Talent Class in the cradle of scientists of the University of Science and Technology of China.
In fact, in reality, seeing more children because of an exam is stagnant, like Zhu Kehang, children who are always on the road of counterattack are really rare.
For children, school is just a journey in life, and the setbacks in the future of life will not be less. This courage to constantly adjust may be what parents should really teach their children.
In fact, this is inseparable from the protection of his parents' curiosity from childhood.
03 Get close to nature and protect children's curiosity
Chen Meiling, who sent her three sons to Stanford, once said that education is to give children a little tool to help them find their dreams.
Yes, for children, curiosity is the key to their understanding of the world.
Zhu Kehang said that when Zhu Kehang was a child, whenever the traditional festival came, they would take him to the countryside and mountains to get close to nature.
In fact, in nature, children will naturally release their own nature, and Zhu Kehang is also.
He kept asking xi, from what the difference was between wheat and weeds, to why trees did not grow in the water, and his parents always answered patiently.
Although the brief report did not mention how Zhu Dad answered the child's questions.
But I believe that there must be many parents in life who are annoyed by questions, because their children's thoughts are wild, and many questions may not have answers.
But often parents overlook that children's curiosity about the world is actually more protective than the answer.
Just like Rui Rui, a 5-year-old boy in Sichuan, he was once a sensation because he found dinosaur footprints dating back 130 million years.
Why he was able to discover it, but because when all children like dinosaur toys, parents through various channels, let him delve into the story behind dinosaurs.
As parents, if we can protect our children's curiosity, maybe we are discovering our children's strengths and loves.
Just like the hot search that is on fire because of Gu Ailing, #Love can reach the limit#. And curiosity is the starting point of a child's love.
04 Travel thousands of miles and take your children to see the world
In the report, Zhu Dad said: We know that lonely and ugly are unheard of, and good boys are determined to be in all directions, so after the son is older, as long as we have time, we will accompany him everywhere.
Do you think it's really an ordinary walk?
The couple accompanied their son not only traveled to the large and small scenic spots and museums in their hometown of Shaoxing, but also traveled outside the province every summer vacation, almost half of China.
This is very similar to the approach of Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental.
Teacher Yu Minhong once said in a speech that as long as conditions permit, he will take his children to walk the world.
He said: I did not take my children on vacation, but went out to investigate cultural history. Even he himself would read the local literature and history materials 1 month in advance.
What better way to learn than to be immersed and hands-on?
As the saying goes: if you don't read, you will be just a postman, but on the contrary, it will become "dead reading". What you learn is always forced, how to cultivate children's learning autonomy?
The intention of parents is the best way for children.
Accompany your children more, respect your children's interests, take your children to nature more, and take your children to museums when you have the opportunity, which is actually what ordinary parents can do.
Through these attentive companionship, we may not necessarily cultivate a bully, but we will definitely harvest a child who loves life, has the courage to challenge, and is healthy and warm. Share.