Xiao Er has a playmate, who is his elementary school classmate, and the junior high school is divided into different schools.
Every time I see that child, I feel a lot of heartache.
He is now in his second year of junior high school, and he has a little sister at home, who is in kindergarten.
At the primary school stage, the first two years needless to say, because between children, it is basically not easy to open the grade.
But by the third grade, the child's grades were clearly at a disadvantage.
At that time, his parents were still very attentive, especially his mother, who was carrying a little sister in her belly, but still worked tirelessly, accompanying him to make up classes every day, sending them, and then picking them up after they were finished.
It should be said that the make-up class basically did not achieve much results, because I did not see any improvement in his grades. However, it has not dropped much, so maybe it still has an effect?
In any case, throughout the primary school, her parents were quite responsible to him: every relevant holiday, they would prepare gifts in advance for him to give to the teachers of various subjects; they would also call the class teacher from time to time to find out how he performed in class.
The change began in junior high school.
When the child was in junior high school, his little sister also began kindergarten.
The little sister is smart, well-behaved, and clever, and the whole family revolves around her, while the brother, because of the problem of academic performance, is coldly looked at by her parents.
At the beginning, his mother did not renew any make-up classes for him.
At first, he was excited: finally relieved! There is no longer a need to go to make-up classes on weekends, and there is no heavy homework in make-up classes.
Gradually, he found that not only was the make-up class gone, but in terms of writing homework, his parents were not as close to him as before: neither urging, nor asking, and even later, some teachers reported in the group, and the list of unfinished homework was not completed, and the parents did not respond.
Listening to Xiao'er, once, when the two were chatting together, the child said: My parents have given me up.
I asked Xiao'er, in addition to being happy, he should also be disappointed, right?
Xiao'er said, maybe.
It can be seen that since junior high school, it has begun to break the jar and break.
In addition to the friendship with Xiao'er, the biggest sustenance in his life should be the mobile phone, and which of the two is more important, it is really not necessary.
Because after all, children can only meet on weekends, and it is not long.
Once I met him in the community and asked about it, I learned that his homework every weekend had to be written until Sunday night, often until most of the night, sometimes even in the early hours of the morning.
Needless to say, I can guess that his status must be writing a little homework and playing with his phone for a while.
In this case, as a parent, will not know?
impossible.
The child's abandonment must first come from the parent's abandonment;
The child's broken jar is broken, but also because the parent's broken jar is broken in front.
If there were only one child, I don't think parents would adopt this laissez-faire attitude.
It is precisely because of the second eldest that the parents see that the boss "seems to be a dou who can't be supported", so they give up the boss and transfer their hopes to the second eldest.
In material terms, this friend of the child does not lack anything, eating, wearing, using, nothing, mobile phone is the most obvious example.
There was even one time when he accidentally broke his phone, and his parents quickly bought him a better one.
But can matter represent everything?
Of course not.
In fact, spiritual negation can not only offset the temperature that matter should bring, but also the negative forces of childhood will cause a negative impact for life.