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"Strict father out of filial piety", "filial piety under the stick", "who did not grow up with a scolding when he was a child" This seems to be a common educational concept of parents now, but the American sociologist Murray Strauss has conducted research on this phenomenon and found:
"The disharmony of parent-child relationship is largely due to the verbal pressure brought by parents to their children, and 90% of parents have yelled at their children."
A professor of social psychology at Florida State University who has tracked children's childhood has found that the human brain is born to pay more attention to dangerous things and negative emotions, and even if it is supplemented and saved by positive feedback, it still cannot achieve a balance between the two.
So for the brain, it is not the same amount of positive things and negative things together to form a healthy personality, but a small number of negative things can change a person's life, for those children who have suffered from language violence for a long time, their brains are actually in a state of gradual damage, and ultimately affect intelligence.
From a physiological point of view to analyze the brain structure of children, Martin A. Teicher, associate professor of psychiatry at McLean Hospital Affiliated to Harvard Medical School, has found after decades of investigation that this kind of verbal violence encountered in childhood not only affects the child's intellectual and psychological development, but also changes the child's brain structure, resulting in poor language ability, resulting in child abuse and brain damage.
The team of doctors analyzed the brains of young people through DTI technology, divided young people with abused childhoods and happy childhoods into two groups, and found that young people who suffered verbal violence from their parents from an early age had a verbal IQ of only 112, even lower than the average person's 124.
And the gray matter volume of the left temporal upper loop of these people even reaches 14%, and the gray matter volume of the left temporal upper loop is closely related to the human language IQ, and language as a tool for communication is the way humans contact the world, when the language intelligence is impaired, it will affect its personality intelligence.
"Verbal violence", like "physical violence", has a very large negative impact, and this effect is irreversible and cannot be saved by positive behavior at a later stage.
Therefore, in response to this kind of verbal trauma, parents should know that if the child encounters a very serious verbal attack at a very young age and leaves a psychological trauma, it will be very difficult to make up for it later. And what will children who grow up under this kind of verbal violence become in the future?
Inferior and sensitive
If the child still can't find the sustenance of love in the person closest to him, it will lead to a change in the child's behavior and thoughts.
In the period of immature thinking, verbal violence is a kind of imprisonment, imprisoning the child's thoughts and behaviors, resulting in his caution, weak verbal expression ability, and the formation of an inferior and sensitive character. When their speech center is damaged, it will affect their intellectual development, causing children to become more and more stupid.
The violence index is high
We found that parents who are abusive usually raise children who are abusive, because when the child is young, it is impossible to distinguish between facts and behaviors, and the performance of parents will actually affect the child's concept.
And the child who often grows up under verbal violence will also use verbal violence to hurt the people around him, because this is a means of dealing with events that he has heard, and eventually he will become unreasonable and unable to think rationally, and people who lack rationality usually have a lower IQ.
Decreased IQ
The human brain is also constantly developing, if the brain continues to be oppressed in the early stages of development, it will instinctively produce escape, although silence may mean compromise, but it also imprisons the child's language expression ability. Children who grow up under this pressure can easily lose information and lose the ability to express themselves, causing intellectually irreversible damage.
Martin A. Teicher, associate professor of psychiatry at the top Psychiatric Hospital in the United States affiliated with Harvard Medical School, also believes very firmly: "Parents yell at their children is the initial behavior that changes their children's intelligence." ”
This kind of verbal abuse and verbal violence leads to a decrease in the link between the Wernicke region and the prefrontal lobe of the child's brain, and the decrease means a decline in verbal expression ability and the suppression of speech potential.
Therefore, the growth of children is a process that needs to be constantly guided, the thinking is sound, the behavior is justified In addition to the child's personal nature, it needs the guidance of the parents, and every child has the right to grow up in a healthy and peaceful environment.
When we continue to suppress the child with verbal violence, then we will habitually deny the child's thoughts and behaviors, thus stifling the child's verbal intelligence and behavioral intelligence.
This kind of long-term insult and yelling will bring irreversible negative effects to children and spirits and brains, form a closed psychology, lack of security, reduce the secretion of brain white matter, is not conducive to the child's physical and mental health, and even affects the child's intellectual development.
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205