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I don't know what kind of people are smart in everyone's eyes? Some people may say that high IQ and high emotional intelligence are manifestations of intelligence, but these are somewhat abstract and difficult to measure concretely, but in real life, if we want to praise a person's intelligence, it is not so complicated, as long as he reacts quickly and is agile, he is a typical smart person.
When thinking about what is smart, people tend to ignore the great wisdom and foolishness, especially those who do not look intelligent at first glance, and people tend to think that his inner life is as dull as his appearance because of the misleading of the first impression.
Does cleverness have to let everyone know? Not necessarily. It is not difficult to establish a positive and intelligent image in the eyes of others, but it is difficult to be truly wise.
The more you show off your wisdom, the less intelligent such people are, the real wisdom actually has a certain degree of concealment, the wisdom of foolishness is so, people with great wisdom never disdain to show off themselves, but they will inadvertently make you aware of their own stupidity. What are the manifestations of wise and foolish people?
Childish on the surface, clear on the inside
The biggest difference between adults and minors is that the attitude of the two to treat people and things is different, minors because the mind has not yet developed completely, and the surrounding environment is very pure, not mixed with interests, so everyone often with a lot of sincerity when getting along with others, like is like, dislike is dislike, there is no need to disguise themselves.
But adults are different, in order to gain a firm foothold in society, sometimes have to wear a mask of personality, and use a disguised image to talk to others. Because of this, adult behavior and discourse will reveal a corresponding human sophistication.
The famous psychologist Freud proposed that the individual self is divided into three types, namely the ego, the ie and the superego. The way you appear in front of everyone does not necessarily represent your heart, and perhaps your inner and outer appearances are completely different.
The mask of externalization is to adapt to the constraints of the world, and behind the mask of personality is the nature of the self. In order to adapt to society, people must hide something and not be known by others to know your inner secrets, otherwise they will leave a handle and give others the opportunity to hurt you.
If a person is naïve at heart, then his words and actions will have naïve attributes, but some people's childishness is disguised, they only want others to let their guard down, and childishness will obviously tell others that he is not aggressive.
In fact, really intelligent people are clear-minded, they know the nature of human nature, but they are lazy to cope. In order to minimize the trouble as much as possible, they prefer to pretend to be childish.
The naïve side of the intelligent person must have a purpose behind it, and he may want to avoid trouble or make it easier for him to better observe his surroundings, but in short, this innocence is only a superficial phenomenon, and if you believe it, then you lose.
Not much to say, but every word is to the point
In daily life, we tend to think that people who react quickly and talk more are smarter, but in fact, people who are less introverted are more likely to be wise and foolish.
There is a category of people who rarely speak in front of everyone, but once they speak, every sentence is the focus, and if you have such people around you, they are definitely a hidden type.
Such people don't care if they are smart in the minds of others, they don't pay attention to this matter at all, for them, it is most important to solve the necessary things quickly.
At a critical moment, a wise and foolish person can quickly sort out the priorities and handling methods of things, especially in the face of urgent situations, he will take the initiative to stand up and become the leader of the crowd.
Speaking less but being able to grasp the key points shows that he has a strong ability to think, and not showing the mountains and not showing the water usually shows that he is low-key.
It seems to be fun, but it is delicate and flexible inside
I believe that there must be such a person around everyone, who is usually naïve and messy, treats big things and small things like a naughty boy, and calls them the travelers in the game world.
Such a person is often not considered intelligent by others because their behavior is too jumpy and too childlike.
However, what you don't know is that this kind of person seems to be having fun, but they have already glimpsed many different worlds, playing is just a move to hide their hearts, and their inner is actually delicate and flexible.
This kind of person wants the world to be more interesting, not a backwater, they don't seem to care about anything, but they have already understood you very well.
In the process of playing, they may find the goal of life, and then make a big career, after all, they are wise and foolish people, stupidity is only the appearance, wisdom is the truth.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205