Text/Wei Chen
The details often hide a person's most authentic upbringing and qualities, and knowing how to observe the details with people can easily find out each other's details.
Freud said: "All slips of the tongue are true expressions of the subconscious. "Where a person puts his attention, his mind will inevitably spin there.
There are two kinds of human consciousness, one is the superficial consciousness and the other is the subconscious. People often perform themselves well in order to create a certain persona.
However, no matter how careful people are, there will eventually be moments of true feelings.
The details that people show when they relax are often the most reflective of their true innermost thoughts.
Usually, counselors use hypnosis when healing clients, because sleep is a relaxing thing. In interpersonal communication, it is impossible for us to hypnotize each other, so eating becomes the best way to get to know a person.
Order food and choose dishes to see the conservation
We often say that we see character at the dinner table, but we don't know exactly what details to observe character.
In fact, a person's cultivation can be seen before meals.
If a person is very cultured, then he must be very careful when ordering food. Not only will they take the initiative to ask others whether they are taboo, but they will also deliberately order one or two meals that meet the wishes of others according to the known information such as gender, age, and hometown of the other party.
The care in the details best illustrates how much a person attaches to this relationship.
Know that the person who can take good care of you when ordering food is either loving you enough or being nurturing enough.
One person's concern for another cannot be hidden at all.
The speed of eating depends on personality
Some people eat and chew slowly, and some people eat and swallow. Those who chew slowly are not hungry, and those who swallow it cannot be very hungry.
In daily life, the urgency of personality determines how quickly a person does things.
Eating is a very pyrotechnic thing, and it is simply a pleasure when people eat.
People with anxious personalities eat relatively quickly, they are decisive and clean in their dealings with people, and they rarely drag mud and water.
People with slow personalities eat relatively slowly, they do things cautiously, and they rarely make mistakes because they are busy.
Whether a person's personality is urgent or slow, there is no absolute good or bad distinction, it can only be counted as a characteristic of human nature.
As long as the features are used well, no matter whether they are urgent or slow, they are considered advantages.
Whether you are picky or not depends on inclusion
People with high tolerance are usually not picky eaters.
In life, people who are picky about food will also be picky about things to a large extent.
Picky eaters tend to be less tolerant, especially if they remain picky eaters as adults.
If there is no special reason for physical immunity, people who are picky eaters based only on personal preferences, in addition to being difficult to tolerate the differences of others, will also behave particularly selfishly when dealing with people.
Emotionally unstable and suspicious people often pick and choose food. Subjectively, he feels unaccustomed, so he decides in his heart that a certain food will not be delicious.
There are even times when picky eaters are particularly repulsive just by listening to the name of the food, and they are not even given the opportunity to try it.
In interpersonal communication, it is easy to draw conclusions based on subjective preferences.
Communicate at the dinner table to see literacy
Although the old saying goes, eat without speaking, sleep without speaking. But in today's society, the dinner table is full of all kinds of social etiquette. No one can do "eat without words".
In an environment where time is particularly precious, eating becomes a form of communication. Even some people's lunches will be clearly priced, and those who spend a lot of money on lunch with Buffett will eventually have what they want.
Communication at the dinner table can best see a person's literacy, and the level of cognition is all in the inconspicuous words.
Some people talk for the sake of talking, trying to be hilarious, and some people have a purpose in their sentences and never say a word of nonsense.
Communicate with smart people, there is no need to say much, communicate with stupid people, it is difficult to communicate with all your tongue.
Communicating at the dinner table is the easiest way to see a person's qualities. From the topic of conversation to the tone of the mouth, everything reveals a person's quality.
After paying the bill, look at the attitude
I once saw a joke about two friends eating together. After eating, the boss handed over a bill.
The emergence of this situation is destined to be paid by only one person, so an inner entanglement about money arises.
For the sake of face, both of them rush to pay the bill, but in the process of this "robbery", some people will play tricks to escape and some people will take the initiative to take the initiative.
Of course, there is also a possibility that both people are very enthusiastic, and one person will not be able to grab it after all.
The attitude of the unsettled person after paying the bill is the most telling.
Some people are grateful, and some people are rightful.
It seems that behind the happiness and harmony is hidden the different connections of individuals and the attitude towards this relationship.
You have to understand that the person who rushes to pay the bill will never have a lot of money and nowhere to spend. Just care more about this relationship and value this person.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About author: Wei Chen, freelance writer. He loves literature and has a certain understanding of poetry and literary works.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.